11 Lies you’ve told about success.
1.
Focus on the future We constantly hear that successful people
are always looking into the future.
That they’re setting goals that they want to achieve in the next couple of years and
planning for the long term but this isn’t particularly true.
Successful people think about more than just what’s ahead.
They strike a balance between looking into the future and living in the present.
People spend a lot of time thinking about the things to come.
We tend to try to predict future problems and we try to prepare ourselves for future
success.
But by doing so we neglect the present and forget about the challenges we’re facing
at the moment and sometimes even neglect our everyday relationships.
No one is saying that thinking about the future is bad.
But planning specific stages and goals for your life will only help you later in life
because success isn’t just about preparing for the future.
You also have to learn from the obstacles that you’re currently going through and
be proud of the life you’re living.
2.
Cancel your free time How much time and effort does it really take
to be successful?
Most people believe that CEOs work all through the weekend and probably the holidays as well
to ensure that their businesses are running smoothly.
But what they don’t know is that despite their busy schedules, successful individuals
still create time to chill and have fun.
Being successful doesn’t mean working 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
It’s without a doubt that success is a huge commitment and you might be required to put
in some long hours, but wanting to achieve the pinnacle of success doesn’t mean you
have to give up on the things you enjoy doing.
Elon Musk is a fine example.
Not only is he among the richest people in the world, but he’s also one of the most
ambitious.
He handles a number of large companies and he’s goal is to revolutionise the world
as we know it.
Yet you’ll still find him lounging on his couch watching movies or playing video games
with his kids.
Even the most disciplined individuals in the world still find time to catch up on the things
they like to do.
The point is you don’t have to pick between the two.
You can still have both fun and success and all you need is some form of moderation.
If you know that you are pulling all-nighters and going the extra mile at work then don’t
deny yourself your hobbies because there’s more to success than keeping long hours.
3.
Work creates success A good work ethic is a key component for anyone
seeking success.
Diligence and self-discipline are undoubtedly valuable attributes in the workplace.
They give you the necessary tools you need to rise above the competition but the myth
that we really need to do away with is that anyone can achieve success and all you have
to do is work hard enough.
The hard painful truth is that hard work isn’t a guarantee of anything.
You could be working ten times as hard as the person next to you and even put in those
extra hours and dedicate your life to your job but they’ll still end up being more
successful than you.
Simply put, work is not directly proportional to success.
You can’t put faith in your work ethic alone.
There are so many other skills you need to be successful such as talent, courage and
the ability to be flexible.
Without some of these things it doesn’t really matter how much time and effort you
put at work.
Having a great work ethic is great but it won’t be your express ticket to the top.
4.
You have to sink with your ship Successful people never quit is another myth
that people will tell you.
Of course there is some truth to it and successful people are tough and persevering.
They navigate all their avenues first and when they’re hit with a big blow they dust
themselves off and get back up, but sometimes calling it quits is the smartest thing you
can do.
There’s this famous saying that the captain always goes down with his ship.
It may work out there in the sea but in life things are a bit different because knowing
when to give up is in more ways than one a skill.
It takes years to perfect this particular skill and you might fail quite a few times
before you get the hang of it.
That’s how most successful people get to where they are.
They take calculated risks and when things don’t turn out as planned they know that
it’s time to quit.
Just to be clear, that doesn’t mean that successful people are quitters or give up
easily.
In order to be successful you have to try everything to keep your dream alive but you
shouldn’t hang on to a failing idea simply because you think you have to.
5.
Success is for the one percent There’s this notion that only the top one
percent of people ever achieve success in their lives but this couldn’t be any more
untrue as success tends to mean different things to different people.
For some success is all about money, luxury and power while for others success could be
passion, family and freedom.
Your own definition of success is unique to you alone and there’s no reason that you
can’t find it in the near future.
The best thing to do would be to look inside yourself and ask what success means to you.
Over the years people have been blinded by society’s depictions of what it means to
be successful.
So many people attempt and fail to make their way up the social ladder without taking time
to question if that’s what they really want, because they’re probably chasing a view
of success that probably won’t make them truly happy.
So take time to think because you may realise that your version of success is a lot closer
than you think.
6.
Nice Guy’s Finish Last People think that you have to show your teeth
in order to be successful.
You have to fight for your spot at the top and step on a few toes.
You’ll hear that nice guys finish last but that’s just not true.
There are definitely scenarios where you have to be a bit selfish to earn respect and stake
your claim.
However for the most part kind and considerate people are more successful than those who
are outright mean.
Kind people are liked and respected by everyone around them.
They are team players, they bring people together and they form lasting connections which come
in handy down the road.
7.
Money brings happiness It’s been said time and again that money
can’t buy you happiness.
People take financial success as what they need the most.
There’s no denying that money does indeed improve the quality of your life, but a big
bank account won’t at any point be the solution to all your problems.
True success is about more than just money.
It’s about finding your purpose, your passion and gratification as well.
Success is about creating a fulfilling life and one that inspires you.
Don’t spend too much time chasing money and worrying about how much you’re making.
Instead think about what you’re spending that money on.
8.
Fake it till you make it
We’ve all heard this reference at one point in books and movies.
That to be ahead in life, you have to fake it all the way.
You don’t have to change who you are in order to be successful.
You might have to face your fears head-on.
And you might need to do things you probably thought you’d never do, but you should always
stay true to yourself, your values and what you believe in.
If you don’t, you might end up living an unhappy life.
You don’t have to wear a mask to be successful.
You trick everyone around you into thinking you’re this confident, straight face person,
but deep down you know this fake persona won’t help you out much.
If you want to be successful, improve yourself, empower yourself and support yourself but
don’t ever think you have to change who you are.
9.
Stick to what you know It’s important to identify what you’re
good at and fine-tune your skills in a certain area and rise above the competition but don’t
make the mistake of giving your weaknesses a back seat.
People will always tell you to stick to your strengths and focus solely on the areas where
you soar, but that only makes you a one track person.
You might be really good at what you do and even accomplish amazing things, but how do
you expand your horizons?
The ability to be flexible is more important because you can adjust to any challenge you’re
faced with and achieve success no matter the role or position you’re thrown into.
That’s how many of the successful people today made it to where they are today.
Not by sticking to their strengths but by evolving constantly.
Sir Richard Branson would not be as successful if he had remained solely focused on mail-order
records.
Today his conglomerate, Virgin Group, owns a wide range of over 200 companies.
10.
You need luck to be successful You may need a bit of luck to be successful.
One can never know when they’ll get a chance meeting with the right person or stumble across
the perfect job, but what you should never do is wait around for the universe to do you
a solid.
This is where most people get it wrong.
They think that success is about sitting and waiting for your big shot, biding your time
until eventually something propels you into your future.
It doesn’t work like that.
This might work for some but the majority have to play an active role in their success.
Create your own luck.
Put yourself in positions that will enable you to succeed.
Make a few calls, send a bunch of emails and really put yourself out there.
With each attempt you make you’re inching closer to what you want to achieve.
11.
People will like you more once you’re successful
“Success makes so many people hate you.
I wish it wasn’t that way.
It would be wonderful to enjoy success without seeing envy in the eyes of those around you.”
A quote from Marilyn Monroe.
People are constantly criticizing other people because of their success.
At the very least successful people make people who are not successful feel uncomfortable
about failing to achieve success.
The more you’re in the limelight, the higher the chances are that you’ll be criticized
for what you’ve accomplished.
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