Hey girls, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. Today, we're discussing one of my favorite
topics. It's how to get a guy's respect. It's such a fundamental thing in dating and I can't
wait to show you these five tips. Stay tuned.
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Hey girls! It's Mark here again from Make Him Yours. Today, our question is about respect
and a lot of you have been asking me about this question and it's a great question. How
do you get a guy to respect you? And it's a completely legitimate question because I
think if any of you are asking this, you're well aware that getting a guys respect is
ultimately the way you're going to get the guy. It's the way he's going to want to date
you. It's why he's gonna want to commit to you. Respect in his eyes is kind of the key
to everything. You're probably well aware that he can sleep with a girl that he's attracted
to, but the girl that becomes his girlfriend is the girl that he really respects. So today,
I want to give you girls five ways to ensure that a guy respects you and that respect is
something you never have to worry about with men.
Number one, enforce your standards with actions rather than words. So this is a massive one.
So often I see women, something is bugging them, either in the relationship or in dating
and they talked to the guy about it and they say, "This is important to me. I want this
to change. I don't want to tolerate this." They talked to the guy about it and the guy
may be fixes it for a little bit, but then it goes back to the way it was. And instead
of using her actions, she continues to use words. So she sits him down again and she
talks about it again and the guy, what this tells the guy, what this tells us as men is
that you're not actually serious about what you say. You're willing to talk a lot about
it, but when push comes to shove, you don't enforce your words with actions.
This can be anything a guy is doing that you don't want to tolerate anymore that really
bothers you. For example, it could be something simple. I had a friend recently and she was
dating a guy and they'd see each other once a week, but between the dates, he'd very rarely
texted her. She was doing all the efforts. She was starting all the conversations and
she was kind of setting up the next date almost. So she sat him down one day and she said,
"I want this to change. You're not communicating with me." And he said, "all right," and he
fixed it for a week and then it went back to how it was. But what happened the next
week? She got frustrated. She texted him again. She didn't show her standards by backing them
up with actions. When she just stops texting and he gets the feeling that he's going to
lose her. That's when you've enforced your standards with your actions. Anytime something
is bothering you, you talk about it, but enforce your standards with actions rather than words.
Don't chase a guy when he doesn't reciprocate. So this one's really simple. It means you
can show interest in a guy. You can ask a guy out or give him a big green light or text
the guy and say, come out to me with this. But if he doesn't reciprocate, if he doesn't
reply, if he says no, if he just gives you not much of a response, you don't chase them
again, it's that simple. A self-respecting woman chases a guy who's willing to chase
her. A girl who doesn't have self esteem, keeps chasing a guy irrelevant of his response.
So number three, be willing to walk away. So a girl who respects herself, which is ultimately
what a guy's going to respect if you respect yourself.
She never puts her respect for herself below her love for him. She's always got her respect
for herself up here. And a guy totally gets that because the guy gets the sense that yeah,
she loves him, but if he ever really fucks up in a really big way, if he cheats on her,
if he abuses her, if he disrespects her, even though she loves him, she is going to walk
away because she does not tolerate that in her life. That's a massive thing to earn a
guy's respect. He always has to be just a little unsure that if he really fucks up,
if he really screws you around, no matter how in love with him you are, you are willing
to respect yourself and walk the fuck away. Number four, always pay for yourself on first
dates or at least offer to. Chivalry isn't dead. It doesn't necessarily mean you're actually
going to pay for yourself, but if you always offer, if you always want to share your part,
the guy's going to respect the hell out of you for taking your part and simply offering.
And finally, number five, have sex on your terms and don't become his booty call. So
whether you have sex on the first date, the fifth date, or the 10th date, as long as you're
comfortable with when you have sex and you respect yourself for it, a guy is going to
respect you. What a guy doesn't respect is if you have sex too early when you're not
comfortable. But equally what a guy also won't respect is if you want to have sex but you
don't because you're waiting for some social norm to deem it acceptable. A guy respects
the girl who does what she wants on her terms. He's going to respect you if you have sex
with him when you are comfortable with it.
In addition to that, you don't want to become a guys booty call. So if you're willing to
be called around at 10:00 PM every Saturday night, he'll take it. He will every time.
But he's not gonna respect it. Cause the guy, will try it. Guys, will try. They'll see if
you'll do it and if you will, you'll lose his respect. And if you lose his respect,
you'll never become his girlfriend. Girls, I hope that gives you five really solid ways
to earn a guy's respect. Let me know what you think of those. Posts in the comments
below. I'd love to hear, do you know other ways to gain a guy's respect? Let me know.
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Mark. I'll see you very soon.