I want to be told "Let's go for some food."
I am a man so...
I think women prefer it that way.
Don't leave everything up to your partner and think for yourself.
Hey guys it's Cathy Cat from the streets of fashionable Harajuku.
Today we are gonna go and Ask Japanese people
Who has the say in the relationship?
Is it girls? Is it guys?
Or do girls and guys want the other partner to lead and have the say in the relationship?
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Who has the say in the relationship?
Who is the leader in the relationship?
When dating, do you want to lead or do you want your partner to lead?
Please vote.
You want to be lead? - I do.
But the other side has more votes!
This is difficult.
You!
Please vote.
Which one is best for me?
Do you want to lead? Does your partner have to lead?
I am here.
You don't want to lead. You want your partner to lead. Why?
I am the type that says "Anything is ok" and does what her partner wants to do.
When I get asked "Where do you want to eat?" I say "Anywhere is fine."
That's why I prefer it if he says "Let'S go to XY place"
If there are places I REALLY don't want to go, I will tell him though.
But generally I am fine with everything and do what my partner wants to do.
I want my partner to lead.
Why do you want your partner to lead for you?
I wonder why...
I like it when he is manly.
Could you explain what your definition of manly is?
What?
When he is like "Follow me girl." I like that.
This is difficult.
If he decided everything, that's cool? - I think it is.
I prefer that.
What do you want him to decide for you?
When we want to go places, I don't want him to leave it up to me to decide.
I prefer it if he says "Let's go here" and invites me out that way.
Look what vote change we have!
Well I am a man.
I think I have to lead.
Saying you will lead, what will you do "leading".
I will decide by myself where we will go.
Some things I will talk with her about. - Like the date plan? - Yeah.
But... generally...
I want to lead.
You will lead. Why?
Well.
I feel like I want to lead the way for her.
When on a date, you decide it all for yourself? Or does she?
I want to decide that together.
But if we can't decide...
I will decide for us.
You want to have the final say?
Yeah.
You're the one who said, you will leave it up to your partner. Why?
I generally will show her my manly side but in this situation...
I want to show her that I can also be different and show her that change.
Where will you allow her to lead?
She can decide where we will go.
If she has a place she wants to go there, we will.
So she can decide. If she said "I want to go to XY cafe" you will take her there?
I am super fine with that.
You do not want to lead the relationship, why?
I can't do that with boys my age but...
But when a man is younger than me, and takes the lead that's a real turn on.
If he is younger and still says "Follow me girl" ... I really love that.
I am going out with a younger boy now.
My boyfriend is younger than me. He always takes the lead.
That sounds cool. - I am getting flustered.
I am very indecisive and never know where to go.
So I think we have more fun if he takes the lead.
Leave it up to him to see what happens?
I leave it to him because I have trouble making choices.
If he decides, it will be better.
You want to lead the way? Why?
I am a man after all...
I think women prefer it to be lead.
So you have to also plan the whole date?
I will ask her if there is anywhere she wants to go.
I will take it as base to think about what we shall do.
So she gets a bit of an input. - Yeah.
You want her to lead. Why?
That's the easier way.
But when it'S about where we will go, I will decide it.
But when it's about daily life, I will leave it up to her;
That'S the easiest way.
I am a free spirit. It's good if she restrains me a little.
And where she allows me to have fun I will.
If we have a fight, it will generally end with me just saying sorry.
There is no reason in fighting all the time. So I will bite it and say sorry.
Your girlfriend goes first? - She does.
Girls like to lead? - I guess so.
You are all the same.
Why do you want to lead?
Leaving your partner to decide, leaving him wait, ...
I think that'a little cruel.
If I want to go out with that person, I need to support the relationship.
How about you?
Instead of leaving your partner to do all the work, I think deciding for yourself is better.
I am quite selfish.
I don't like doing whatever my partner wants to do.
I am also leading the relationship that I am currently in.
How about date or travel plans?
We talk about it.
But generally things I want to do, become priority.
Those were our questions. Thank you.
Who has the say in the relationship in Japan?
Most Japanese people but just by a slight majority, said they would have the lead...
While the other ones said no I'd rather have my partner
be the one who leads the relationship, who organizes everything...
who knows where we are gonna go on a date and stuff like that.
Interesting to see, some of the boys we interviewed for the last interview...
Mentioning about "who has to make the first move"
they said "We are boys, we have to make the first move!"
But then they changed their opinion once they are in the relationship
and let the lady lead. Very interesting.
How is that about you? Would you like to make the first move?
And then lead the relationship?
Or would you say "I am cool with the partner leading the relationship..."
Let us know. And is this a guy or girl thing in your opinion?
Are we still in those old stereotypes or has that changed?
Let us know. Looking forward to reading your answers.
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