the first stage I want us to write this down is the development of man the first
stage is we are born male we are born male you might say well it's obvious not
no more we live in a generation where you can choose whether you're male or
not and I want to be respectful to people who may be struggling with that
have actually like confusion in their mind and may be fighting and
hurting inside and not sure about their identity and their gender and everything
and I don't want to throw these general slogans that people like to do behind
the pulpit and not actually knowing people who struggle with that but the
Word of God tells us that God made them male and female which means that being a
male is not your decision it's your discovery you don't decide to be a male
you only discover that you are one you may say how do we discover that you go
into the restroom and you discover so you are born and male that's very
important number two as you become a boy after that a boy is a selfish kid a boy
you may say what is the difference between a boy and a man well we're gonna
see right now a boy is someone who is passive a man is assertive a boy lives
for a moment typicalyl for the weekend a man plans for the future a boy looks for
a girlfriend man looks for a wife a boy loves to speak man acts a boy is
possessive and controller and man is protective a boy plays games a man's
shoulders responsibility a boy tells others he's a man a man quietly lives it
a boy makes excuses man makes progress a boy makes demands a man serves other
people a boy lies in sheets and deceives but a man tells the truth
his word is his bond even if it hurts them even if it embarrasses him even if
it makes him feel bad a man knows one thing his value and Worth is never
determined by his gifts it's not determined by his talent his money it's
determined by his integrity and your integrity is as good as your honesty
when you are a boy people are fed up with you when you are a man people are
fed by you a boy is somebody who lives in the flesh is guided by the flesh you
can be 24 and be a boy you can be 40 and be a boy or you can be 12 and be a boy
but there's one characteristic about boys is people that are close to them
that know them now those that see them on Instagram and Facebook and see them
from a distance but people that know them typically are fed up with them
they're fed up with their lies they're fed up with them playing game they're
fed up with them not being consistent they're fed up with their laziness they're
fed up with their addiction to the remote control they're fed up with them
being on their phone they're fed up with them not reading the Bible not pray
they're fed up with him not following God not leading the family they're
always fed up but a man a real man he is led by the Spirit of God which means
that he develops a fruit of the Spirit what does the fruit does feeds other
people now this man may impress the world but his family is fed by him a boy
impresses the world but he can never impress his family because see your
family is not impressed by your games people that know you close friends
they're not impressed by your skills or your gifts they're only fed by your
character or fed up by lack of it come on somebody this is not a good time to
look at your husband not a good time
I see some wives not a good time to do that it's Father's Day. Number three we
grow to become a man so we go from a boyhood to becoming a man
I want you to write this down you're a male by birth you're a man by choice
you're not born a men you become a man you don't become a man because you pass
through puberty you don't become a man because you can
make a woman pregnant you don't become a man because you got a muscle car and you
don't become a man because you got muscles you didn't become a man because
you got a bachelor's degree you didn't become a man because you got a house and
you didn't become a man because you got our words and trophies you don't become
a man because people call you a man you don't become a man because you got a
mustache you don't become a man because you started to shave what makes a man
there's one word that makes a man maturity I know what maturity is used as
a qualification to watch r-rated films are you mature for mature only meaning
you can consume junk in the biblical definition of maturity maturity is not
your ability to consume alcohol smoke or watch porn biblical definition of
maturity is something different than that because maturity is not age
maturity is not academics maturity is not accomplishments and maturity is not
appearance it's an attitude that you possess toward the things in life toward
yourself toward people around you toward your mistakes toward your successes your
maturity is always determined by your attitude if you made a mistake
I wasn't sure whether to go or not and we see that in Adam God gives him a word
you have to do this and Adam goes into boyhood instead of manhood instead of
leading his wife away from sin and instead of killing the snake
Adam sees his wife who has a weak moment gets deceived by the snake and Adam
stood there and the Bible says that Adam stood beside her when the snake was
doing the conversation and Eve is giving him that fruit Adam was not deceived
like Eve was so Adam had a choice to help his wife says hey honey
not a good time to talk to snakes put that Apple back let's go back let me get
you some mangos and some other fruits they're much better Adam stood
there instead of being a warrior he's a wimp
instead of being aggressive against the enemy he is passive instead of pursuing
God he just kind of stands there you want me to eat the apple ok I'll eat the
apple he eats the Apple and you see Adam is a boy he's not leading a woman to
Christ he's now blaming a woman because when
God comes and says who did this not meet her any time a man doesn't follow Christ
is where boyhood begins when you ignore your consciousness as the man conciousness
screams and says DON'T and you begin to silence it you silence the Holy
Spirit he can't produce a character if he's ignored you slip into the flesh
when Adam slipped into the flesh something happened is the boyhood begins
to be maximized that Adam now doesn't take responsibility for his junk he
blames it on somebody else blames it on Eve and Eve of course she blames it on
the snake and God begins to bring discipline and Adam why because
Adam didn't mature see your sin is not the problem it's the fact how you deal
with your sin that's the problem temptation is not the problem being
attacked is not the problem being assaulted is not the problem it's how
you respond to it when the Holy Spirit convicts you do you silence that or do
you say yes Holy Spirit because your character is developed by the voices you
obey do you obey the Holy Spirit or do you obey the voice of the flesh do you obey
the Holy Spirit or you don't obey the voice of people a real man knows I
respect you thank you but God says no I can't do that if you
want to do that that's your choice but I am NOT going to do that why because I
obey God I love you honey but before I met you I gave my life to
someone who created you who created me and when I die I'm gonna stand naked not
in front of you in front of Him so I live my life for the opinion of one and
your character is developed when you live like that number four when we get
married we get married and become a husband marriage makes you a husband maturity
makes you a great husband when you get married you become a husband but when
you are mature you become a husband that is good to live with a husband that a wife
thanks God for, a husband that the girlfriends say man you got a great
husband and it's not because if she posts pictures of roses that you give
once in eight months but it's actually because it's evident that you make your
wife happy the problem that happens is when the boy skips the manhood stage and
thinks that just because he got a thing between his legs he's ready to be a
husband you're still a boy that needs to grow to become a man and when you're a
man means when you are mature when you learn to deal with your stuff when you
learn honesty when you learn to take responsibility when you learn the
character when you learn to follow the holy spirit instead of following your
flesh and you become a man something happens now you're ready for one more
challenge because becoming a man was hard wait until you get a woman it will
take it to another level because see your standard is not your dad your
standard is Jesus Christ and you look at Jesus and Jesus doesn't play by these
rules you don't like me well I don't like you too
You didn't satisfy me you didn't please me well watch me that's not how Jesus left the example he
came to the church and the church was at his worst and Jesus was at his best and
Jesus never dumped us never left us never said a bad word never beat us
never accused us Jesus was the great husband continues to be there's one
thing about Jesus he's consistent