How do you stop caring what people think and gain the freedom to take the actions you want
in your life? Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. And today, I'm talking about an
area that I've had to have a lot of personal experience in. It's how do you stop caring
what people think. To celebrate this video, I've got a gift for you. It's the first chapter
of my book. The first chapter of my book is now available for a very limited number of
downloads, absolutely free! So I'll post the link up here and in the description below,
make sure you download that. And just after this, I'm going to give you how I've managed
the mindset that's helped me stop caring what people think. Stay tuned.
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All right. How do you stop caring what people think and gain the freedom as a result to
take action in your life? So this is a topic I'm super passionate about. That's why I released
the book chapter. Uh, but before I go into my own thoughts, I want to give you a little
bit of what I researched. So this was from Psychology Today. They had some good suggestions.
They said, "Be vulnerable. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Find your tribe. Be your own
best friend." All good suggestions on how to stop caring what people think. Uh, this was
from the Chicago Tribune. They said, "See it as better than being ignored. See it as kind
of a positive." They said desensitize yourself was another one. Uh, and this is the top result
in Google from niashanks, shanks, niashanks. Uh, she said, "See the negative comments as
a reflection on that person." She said, "Be careful who you trust and who you listen to."
And she said, "Don't take the opinions of others too seriously." All really good suggestions.
What I want to give you today though is my take on this topic, and I'm going to come at
it from a slightly different angle that I think is going to really help you with this.
You see, I want to reveal right now the reason, the way that I've managed to stop caring what
people think and take action, not just in Make Him Yours, but in all areas of my life.
I didn't. I never stopped caring what people think. There's this idea, this fallacy that
to take action, we have to get over our demons and not care what people think. We have to
block people out. That's great for some people. I have a friend who's a topnotch salesman.
He has the ability to get rejected over and over and over again, and he has some of the
best sales figures in Australia. He legitimately blocks out what people think, and he's extremely
good at his job, but that's never worked for me. The fact is I'm an empath. I do feel people's
feelings and like many of you and perhaps like you, yourself, it's pretty f**king hard
to just stop caring what people think, right? People tell that to you, they just stop caring
what people think, and you're like, "I would turn it off if I could. It's not that freaking
easy," so I want to take a different spin on this. I never stopped caring what people think.
I never stopped caring about the negative comments, and I think it's a blessing to be
able to care, to be able to have that empathy.
But if you care what people think, then you've got to train yourself in a different skill.
You've got to learn to act despite it. One of the best suggestions in all my research
was that one from the Chicago Tribune, which was desensitize yourself, and it's true. As
time has gone, as time has gone on, I've become more used to the negative comments, and I've
gotten a little more resilient in terms of receiving them, but they still pack a punch
and do you know what? It's not about having them not pack a punch because if you're just
selectively blocking out what you don't want, you're inevitably going to block out what
you do. You're never going to feel life quite as deeply. It's not about getting rid of your
feelings. It's simply about learning to act despite them. Even though the negative comments
still hit me, I'll just keep doing what I'm doing.
I've learned to act despite them. There's always more positive comments to look at.
There's always strategies and as time goes on, as I say, you will desensitize yourself.
But thinking you'll be able to desensitize without taking the action in the first place
and without copping some of the heat, it's not going to happen. Not unless you block
out the world, which isn't what I want for you. So what I really want you to do is to
shift your mindset with this question. Stop not caring what people think, you're allowed
to care what people think. I care what people think. I care what you think. The key thing
is, you just can't use what people think to determine your destiny and what you do with
your life. If you're truly passionate about what you want, whether it's to get a job,
to grow a business, to meet that guy across the bar, if you're doing something for you,
then in the end that has to be more powerful than what people think.
You can care what people think. You can care a lot what people think - I do, but it comes
down to caring what you think more. Train yourself, this isn't easy, but train yourself
to act despite caring what people think. Instead of asking yourself, "How do I stop caring what
people think?" ask yourself, "How do I learn to take action in my life, on my passions
and on my purpose despite caring what people think?" That's the video today, and that's the
mindset that's truly helped me. Now, if you want to learn about more mindsets that have
helped me in my personal life to achieve some of my goals and hopefully, will continue to,
don't forget, you can pick up the first chapter of my book now available for free download,
very limited downloads. You want to get an insight into what I'm going to soon be publishing.
It's very exciting. I'd love to have you read it and get your feedback on it. So hit the
link above or in the description to get that. And thank you for watching. Let me know. Comments,
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