- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Are you having trouble in the romance department?
Maybe you're really into someone,
but can't tell if they're into you.
One minute it's a yes, but then the next it's a nah.
So do they like you or not?
Well, here are six signs that they're not into you
and just not telling you.
Number one, they aren't engaged in your conversations.
Take a close look
at their face next time you're talking with them.
No, not just their dreamy eyes, stop it.
Notice whether they're actually listening
to what you're saying during your dinner dates
and if they're engaged in your conversation.
Are they on their phone?
Are they scanning around the room, directionless?
Are they looking at someone else or something else?
Their pasta perhaps?
Well, I would too if I was eating good pasta,
but that's besides the point.
If they don't engage with you often on an emotional level
or even any level during your outings,
then it looks like a nah
in the relationship department for you two.
Number two, they don't communicate or text consistently.
Do they text you regularly? Check your phone.
Go ahead. I'm waiting.
When's the last time they texted you?
Eight hours ago, eight days or eight years?
I'm just kidding on the years part,
unless you're long lost friends,
but if they don't communicate with you often,
text or no text,
it's a sign they don't care enough about you
to pursue a deeper relationship.
The only relationship they're in
is the one with their pasta,
pasta puttanesca, (giggles) number three.
You're the only one always making plans.
Who's making the plans in the relationship?
Who's asking who out?
Who's initiating the conversations
about availability, people?
If they're not putting the effort in to even ask you out,
or at least hint at your availability,
they may not be into you.
If they've grown distant in asking you out,
and you haven't seen any effort from them in going out
and doing things with you in the real world,
they may not be as interested as before as well.
Number four, your relationship with them is one-sided.
Are you both benefiting emotionally from this relationship?
Are you both supporting each other,
hearing each other out,
or do they just come to you with their problems,
but don't listen to yours?
Do they always pick the dates when you go out with them?
Are they putting in extremely minimal effort?
This could be a sign they aren't really into you
for a long-term setting.
These signs indicate your relationship could be one-sided.
So it's best to sit down and talk about it or call it quits.
There are more hardworking fish in the sea.
Ones that will mutually give you that attention
and support you deserve.
Number five, they're just hearing what you have to say,
but not really listening.
So we've covered engagement,
but when you're discussing serious topics with them,
are they really listening to you
or just nodding along
and then completely changing the topic.
A healthy relationship requires communication
and some active listening.
Honesty is also key.
If they cared about you,
they would listen to what you have to say,
respond thoughtfully and continue with the conversation,
especially if it's on a topic you care about, why?
Because they care about you.
And number six,
they've told you that they aren't ready for a relationship.
Buzz kill, but it's true.
It's time to face the facts, my friend.
If they've told you they ain't ready, they ain't ready,
even if they subtly hinted at it, ask them or take the hint.
It's best to be on the same page with your partner.
It's healthy, so if they've told you
that they aren't ready for a new chapter with you,
or rather they're ready to close the book
on your potential romance,
then it's time to close the book
and head to the library for a new one.
Odds are their book of choice will be a pasta recipe.
If we're talking about the literal sense now,
ah, pasta puttanesca, what?
Who doesn't love pasta? Leave me alone.
So do they like you or like you not?
Like you or like you not? Do you even like them?
Do you like pasta?
Do let us know in the comments down below.
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