in this video I want to talk about the
things that you should be doing
consistently to get you your closer to
your dreams to your goals to those
things that are gonna make like a really
big difference in your life things like
creating a medium blog starting your
coaching business kicking off that
podcast creating a product which side
nerd are absolutely achievable and
doable dreams if you're taking the right
actions to make them happen even though
so many dreams are incredibly doable it
gets really hard to see them as doable
and it's very easy to get stuck maybe
you try you overanalyze a little you
have like a small failure and then you
give up in this video I wouldn't talk
about how to stop feeling stuck and
start achieving your dreams five things
that you should be doing to achieve
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how to stop feeling stuck on how to
start actually achieving your dreams in
the book procrastinate on purpose the
author interviewed hundreds of
incredibly successful human beings and
fact they did something and that other
people didn't there's one thing that
they focused on everyday and that the
average person may not put their focus
towards you've probably all heard of the
Eisenhower matrix before it's the matrix
the way you can determine what's urgent
important so the author a procrastinate
on purpose has argued that there is an
additional box to the Eisenhower matrix
that's been
a box or a measure that high performers
are using all the time to figure out
what their priorities are the additional
measurement is significance how long is
this going to matter to me so for
example editing a video that's really
important but what would be more
significant than editing a video is
putting together procedure so that
someone else can edit my video because
that is going to matter for a longer
period of time than just getting that
one video edited if every day you
prioritize the more a significant thing
like riding that book or starting that
podcast or launching that website or
getting that system in place imagine
where you could be in one year's time
I'm also gonna add another additional
point so we're gonna make it six points
in this video because this one I think
is important and it sort of tags off
what I was saying before so prioritizing
significance every day sounds fantastic
putting it into action what does that
look like for you so for me tangibly
working on my goals on a daily basis is
the only way for me to achieve my goals
like if I have an outcome goal like I
want to launch a course like my driving
on YouTube course if I want to write an
e-book if I have wanted to create a
YouTube channel reliably the only way to
get me to achieve that goal is if I wake
up and at 5:30 a.m. I hop on a boat
usually to my computer and I work on
that goal consistently every single day
Will Smith has an awesome quote on this
and it is you don't set out to build a
wall you don't say I'm gonna build the
biggest baddest greatest wall that there
has ever ever been you don't start there
you say I'm going to lay this brick
really freakin well as perfectly as a
brick could possibly be laid you do that
every single day and soon you have a
wall I think there are a lot of quotes
out there on you won't be able to change
who you are until you change what you do
every single day and I think that that
is so incredibly true when it comes to
achieving what you want to achieve in
life create a routine of working on your
goals every single day and see where
that gets you doesn't have to be like
two hours it can be 20 minutes I went to
a workshop recently and they talked
about a taxi driver and a taxi driver
told the person that was in his car I
want to be a doctor and that person said
wow you know that's gonna take you like
ten years and the taxi driver said
yeah but in 10 years I could also be a
taxi driver you might be totally
time-poor it may be very hard to fit in
your goal but if you do add in 10
minutes a day working on them it's going
to make a difference like you could
either stay where you are
or start working on your goals on a
regular basis and be somewhere that you
want to be in however long it takes you
to get there
okay tangent OVA moving on to one that
has been really important to me
especially since I started 2019 which is
embracing fear because courage is just
fear walking I think that was Susan
David who said that it is so easy to
fall in the trap of thinking yeah well
I'll definitely start that YouTube
channel but like when I feel brave
enough and confident enough to start
that YouTube channel I will absolutely
start going to networking events when
I'm like a really good talker when my
social skills are through the bloody
roof I'll create that online course when
I'm confident in how to create online
courses now I don't want to disregard
preparation because that's something
that I've done in the past I am an
action taker I jump into things
sometimes without planning enough so for
example before you start writing a book
it is probably a good idea to learn
InDesign using a platform like
Skillshare which by the way I did
recently if you follow me on Instagram I
went through the InDesign course and it
was really freaking good I'm gonna put
it the name of it down below so you can
check it out if you do sign up for this
Scotia two-month trial so preparation
yes it can be essential sometimes you
need that foundation of knowledge in
order to move forward but you need to
give yourself some kind of limit around
how many excuses you can make how much
preparation really needs to be done
before you actually take action and also
getting to that point of competency that
you want to be are before you actually
start on that goal like that is work on
your goal you can still start working to
get to the point where you can do the
thing rather than just saying like y'all
do that when I'm like able to do that
and if you still feel like you can throw
out that excuse like I'll do that when
how can you get to that one moment so
how can you get confident enough to
start your YouTube channel because if
you're not working on that you're never
gonna start your YouTube channel Steve
Pressfield who wrote the war of art has
a quote that says the amateur believes
that he must first overcome
he's feel then he can do his work the
professional knows that fear can never
be overcome Brooke Castillo is a great
podcast star and life coach says
something along the lines of getting out
of your comfort zone is the currency to
your dreams figure out what
uncomfortable things that you need to do
do the fear setting exercise by Tim
Ferriss I'll have that linked below and
then start taking action to embrace feel
because courage is just fear walking
concentrate less on the what and more on
the how and the why if you want to write
a book that is fantastic write that goal
down but then forget about it and look
to your house and to your why so I
talked a little bit more about how I set
goals and I usually set my goals with
what a why and how it might reset your
life challenge I'll have the video to my
goal setting down below your what is
what you want to get to in the end so
you want a newly designed website you
want to redesign your room you want to
give up alcohol give up caffeine give up
social media your how is the process so
spending that hour every single morning
while you work on your goals or it could
even be a nice little set and forget how
like download freedom and block all my
social media yeah why is what gets you
excited so if it's not getting you
excited something's wrong you need a
pivot so that could be the lives that
you were going to change when you launch
a blog yeah what is a great thing to
have riding that book getting that
podcast launched it can give you a
really clear picture of the outcome and
it can get you outcome visioning which i
think is a really important part of
goal-setting but your how and your why
or what you should be focusing on on the
day to day basis you know what it really
doesn't mean anything you don't even
SMART goals are great but you don't even
really need to give yourself a timeline
so long as you are focusing on the
process you've got to get to where you
want to get to so figure out what you
want to achieve take that pressure on
yourself and focus on the how and the
why the next thing that I want to talk
about is slightly controversial and it's
something that I've only come to terms
with more recently if you are someone
who can write down 20 goals and achieve
them all we'll have five different goal
projects on the fly and get them all
done successfully keep doing you because
what you're doing is working but after a
lot of trying a lot of failures I found
that the only way that I achieve what I
want to achieve to the level that I want
to achieve it is
by focusing on one specific thing I
actually found a great graphic the other
day that articulates this really well
I'm gonna put it in front of my face
because yes you can have multiple goals
but generally you don't end up where you
want to be with all of them you'll end
up like a little way up with all of them
but now it'll be at the level that you
pictured them being at when you first
set out to achieve things pick one thing
give it your all and see how that works
for you and I know how frustrating it
feels to have someone tell you that
because I feel yeah there's a lot of
things that we all want to do in life as
soon as I pick a goal all of a sudden
like five ideas come rushing at me so
it's really hard to keep my focus on one
thing but as soon as I do find myself
trailing off and like picking off those
other goals my focus gets confused and
fuzzy and I don't end up achieving what
I want to achieve if you achieved four
goals to your fullest in year that's
amazing I'm talking three monthly goals
or twelve week goals and the best way to
actually do that is by having four
separate goals that you concentrate on
for a short specific period of time
achieving them to the end and moving on
to the next obviously it's okay to work
on things in the background but just
make sure that your priorities they're
in check and you have that one goal and
it is the only thing that you're really
dedicating your focus to that you're
really committed to achieving everything
else is just like background noise
that's great if it gets done like what a
nice surprise
but the only thing you really care about
is that one goal let's talk about
reviewing and calibrating as you go
because this is something that I don't
feel like people do enough of there's a
lot of goal-setting and then a lot of
like leaving it and assuming those goals
are still what you want in like a year's
time I've said a lot of really bad goals
goals that were just like the worst kind
of goals sure they were probably smart I
hate the smart acronym but it is what it
is and it's helpful but they were also
girls that didn't get me excited there
were girls that I picked because they
were like on the top five girls list of
goals that people set I've also made a
lot of mistakes when setting my goals
I've said way too many goals at one
point in time I've said a really crazy
goal at a really crazy point in my life
I've set goals that just made me feel
hollow inside but I felt like I had to
do that is what checking in regularly
can make the biggest of difference
that might be in using a weekly review
process to check in on where you're at
or it could be an accountability session
with a family member or a friend we know
that's what I do me and my sister meet
every single week we talk about our
goals we talk about our frustrations
sometimes it turns into like a
three-hour long chat sometimes it's like
an hour we can't really keep it under an
hour to be totally honest I wanted to
chuck out like a nice they go like 15
minutes but that's just not happening
doesn't have to be weekly it could be
monthly but you just need to be checking
in with yourself and making sure that
everything is aligned if you set a goal
that sucks that no longer gets you
excited that is no longer right for your
path like it's okay to ditch it and
that's where reflection comes in handy
because sometimes you just go into like
what could be murdered and you forget to
think about whether this is something
that's actually going to help you you
need like a nice balance of those two
modes which are just reflective and do
do do if you like this video you're a
little way through 2019 and you feel
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little bit of a reset you might enjoy
watching my reset your life challenge
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