Okay, let's first of all
uhh, whee,
saying that
I'm wearing my Jesus shirt today
because if any women watch this video
I'm going to need some help from the Lord.
So, let's just jump right into
the five reasons why women
neglect to take responsibility
for their part in what
is dysfunctional in relationships.
So, the first thing is
society, also known as social conditioning,
also known as feminism.
Women are growing up
in a different age these days
where there's a feminist movement
that has basically spoilt women.
Sorry ladies, but in some ways
this is absolutely true.
All you have to do is look at
the divorce situation
and what's happening in the courts.
And men are getting the shaft big time
in divorces and that's just one area.
Yes, I know that women are getting literally
unwanted shaft in other areas
but one negative doesn't beget
or doesn't justify another negative.
So, aside from that, the reality here is that
social conditioning has rewarded women
for bad behavior.
We're going to go into again
what you can do about this
as a guy or as a woman later.
So, the number two thing
and these are not in any particular order.
But the second thing
that is causing women to lack
responsibility or to pass the buck
or blame the man in relationships
is social media.
So, I like to call it Insta ***.
So, yeah, politically incorrect
welcome to my channel.
But the reality is that
because women can use social media
to collect a really large audience
they really are influencing not only men
by the provocative and sometimes really
*** pictures they put on social media
but they're influencing other women
to do the same thing.
Because they're being rewarded
by having lots of subscribers lots of followers,
lots of fans who are encouraging bad behavior.
And what's "bad behavior?"
Well, the bad behavior is subjective
but it's the behavior that as a man
you really don't want your woman...
Your woman,
there's another one they're going to get me for.
But you don't want your partner displaying
to the general public.
Maybe you do if you're also a narcissist
and you know, your ego is attached to
their fame or what-have-you.
But the average Joe doesn't want
his girl putting out all her "assets"
to the world.
So, that's the second thing.
And then the third part of this is
sorry ladies, but single moms.
The statistics don't support
a positive outcome of
the huge influx of single moms
we've seen in the last generation or so.
And what's happening there is that
a lot of women and I have experienced this
firsthand with people that I've known
and worked with and even friends
that have a bad attitude towards men.
If they're a single mom,
it's because their relationship didn't work out
and if they accept responsibility
then they're going to have a huge amount of guilt.
Now, side note is women
who have children they're just born with guilt
or the woman isn't born with guilt,
but as soon as the child is born
there's just this guilt that's dumped on,
on them internally because
they... Well, just because
that's the reality of motherhood.
There's just a huge amounts of guilt that women feel
when they're mothers because they're
never feeling like they're doing a good enough job.
No matter how great they are
like, that's just the reality of motherhood.
But the thing that influences relationships
is that when a woman becomes a single mom
and because the relationship hasn't worked out
she will typically want to blame the man
because it doesn't make her look bad
in her own eyes or
potentially, subconsciously in her child's eyes.
The second thing that will happen
or potentially can happen
is that she will replace the guy.
So, she's setting an example
for her daughter or her son
or generally the world at large
that men are easily replaced
even if you are a single mom.
So, you know it's just the nature of things
but all of this has a compounding effect
on how women are handling responsibility
and accountability in relationships.
So, the fourth thing that will cause women
to want to unconsciously
pass the buck or not accept responsibility or blame
is survival instinct.
And basically what that looks like
internally for a woman is that
again, because she's
typically already feeling guilty
about failure in relationships
and everybody actually does this is that
people generally don't want to be wrong
because if they're wrong,
then there's a self perceived and potentially
other perceived lower value
and if there's lower value then
she risks being left behind
or being treated more poorly
than if she has high value.
Anybody who has higher value is going to be treated
better than someone who has lower value
even though that's not right,
that's typically what happens
in the world in relationships.
Not just in romantic relationships as well.
So, that's another reason for it
not saying any of these is right.
None of this as healthy
but it's just the way it is.
So, if you understand it then it might help you
understand the steps
that I'm going to give you coming up
on how to deal with this
so that we can hopefully start to change
the direction of how
women are reacting in relationships.
And so, the number five thing,
which brings me to the number five thing
is social justice warriors
also known as
suckers like Steve.
And I just used the name Steve
because it's an S and it rhymes with suckers.
So, social justice warriors are
the beta male orbiters
who are supporting women
in their bad behavior.
Whether it's with radical feminism
that's really not fair.
There's a difference between
certain areas of equality and there's...
And just man hating basically
and there men who are
standing beside women in the wrong ways.
And a lot of those men
are nice guys not in the terms of
a good man or a kind guy or
something actually genuine.
But they're the nice guys in the way that
we talk about in Dr. Robert Glover's book
No More Mr. Nice Guy.
They're the passive-aggressive
guys who really actually
have an ulterior motive.
And they may not be aware of it consciously
but their motive is really
to get women to like them
so that eventually they'll sleep with them,
which usually doesn't happen.
But they orbit around
hoping that their good behavior
or their support of women's plight
will get them laid and
that is not working to help either
men or women actually come together
in a way that is functional
and loving and effective for both sides.
We want to have a win-win and that's why
I always try to focus on the positive
even though these are all facts and statistics
that you can look for.
Like, what's the positive way to handle this?
So, that brings us to the three simple steps
that men can do to help women
get back on track to being able
to be honest and to be able to
take ownership for their part
in where the relationship is dysfunctional.
And again, this is not just with romantic relationships.
So, the first thing is that
you've got to stop rewarding bad behavior.
An example is stop following
women on Instagram who
are not the kind of woman you'd want to marry.
Like, we're not talking about the women that
you just want to have *** with.
You've got to stop rewarding those women
with your likes and your comments and your follows.
Like, stop encouraging that bad behavior
in social media as far as feminism is
or feminism is, feminism is.
As far as feminism goes or society
you need to be able to have discussions
with women about where they are
perhaps not considering
the other side in a way
that doesn't get them riled up
because women are very emotional.
Our emotional center in our brain
is eight times bigger than a man's,
it's high to long-term memory and
even actually short-term memory.
So, we react differently
because our biology,
our neurology is different than a man's.
So, we essentially need to
stop rewarding bad behavior.
And the second thing that goes along with that
is that like I said,
we need to start letting women know
where they've contributed
in ways that are not
working for them ultimately
in relationships with men.
Because the thing is if women don't start
taking accountability and
ownership of what they're doing,
then it's not going to change.
Relationships are not going to improve
and there's going to be more and more single moms
and single women and single men.
Because men are
not putting up with this anymore
and they're going their own way
and there's all these other
you know, philosophies and factions
that are the result
of women's bad behavior.
Sorry ladies I'm a woman,
but you know, once you actually understand this
you realize the truth of it
and you realize that we actually have a lot of
power in society
in where we are actually taking relationships.
And right now we're not taking them
in a positive direction,
which means that
men need to actually tell women
what they're actually doing wrong.
So, it doesn't mean being angry.
Because angry doesn't work.
Any negative feeling not only does it
poke the bear, I like to say poke the bear.
Negative emotion will trigger
negative emotion in women.
And then actually it's quite similar with
men and women except that men don't react, right.
Because they don't have that
eight-time bigger emotional center in the brain.
So, you mull things over
even though you do get angry but it takes more.
Anyways, angry doesn't work with women
negativity doesn't work with women.
Compassionate and understanding is what will
potentially work with women.
Not all women, it will take time
for some women to get the message
but it will only happen if all men
will educate women in a compassionate way.
Just like I've said in some of my other videos,
like treat them like children.
For they know not what they do, right.
So, you love someone, if you really love women
you want to help them understand their own folly.
Because they're really not aware they're...
I mean I used to be there, I used to be
you know, what I consider a feminist and
it took me a while before I was like,
wait a minute this is not right.
And it wasn't until actually I started coaching
and I was working with women and realized
how difficult it is to work with women
and I am a woman.
So, that's when I thought
you know, men really need a lot of help.
And the only way for me to help men
succeed with women
is to help men be effective with women
so that we can change the attitudes of
women towards men in a positive way.
So, that is number two is that
you've got to be able to tell her specifically,
what's not working and why
but in a way that is non confrontational
and then you just leave it at that.
And if enough guys will do that,
the next man does the same thing for her,
the next man and not to her but for her,
then eventually maybe she'll clue in that
what she's doing isn't working
for her or in any relationship
and maybe she'll change.
And even if not,
then she's not rewarded by
having another relationship.
So, that bring me to step number three
is walking away.
If a woman is not taking responsibility
or taking ownership
participating in what she's done in a relationship
to cause conflict or to cause discord
then you need to walk away from the deal.
Whoever has the more willingness
to walk away from the deal
has the greater negotiating power.
And I don't mean that in a way that
is negative to a relationship.
It's just the reality of relationships
and if you are willing to walk away
she might have the inclination to consider
why she's constantly being walked away from
if she's given the information
for her to consider
why men are walking away from her.
So, don't reward bad behavior that's the bottom line.
Don't reward bad behavior,
but don't be angry
or if you are angry don't express it outwardly
because it won't help.
Yes, it's frustrating but here we're looking for
what's effective in making change.
And outwardly expressing anger
and any other negative emotion
that compassion is the answer.
Then remember this,
if you react she wins.
Just like a child who's doing something bad,
if you react,
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