- Now the last time I looked, I happened to be a guy.
And one thing I've realized about my gender
is that when things aren't really working out for us
in a relationship, we tend to pull away pretty quickly.
We really don't like to face things head on,
you've probably noticed this.
And that is especially true when it involves
those really pesky things called emotions.
That's what I'm about to get real with all of you
sexy, single ladies.
No more mincing words, there are three types of guys
who tend to pull away, and once you can identify
these types of guys, suddenly you can avoid yourself
a lot of heartbreak moving forward, keep watching.
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Now there are three different reasons why men pull away
once you get to that commitment phase
or once you are in a committed relationship,
And I actually have a names for each of these guys.
So let's just jump right into it.
Number one is what I call the Wrong Fit Frank.
This is a guy who's pulling away
just because it wasn't a good fit.
He didn't feel that the connection was strong enough.
And if you really got to the heart of it,
chances are, and you got real with yourself,
chances are, you would agree
that it just wasn't really a good fit.
Maybe you didn't want the same things in life,
maybe you were just working really hard to make it work
because you're really attracted to this guy but you know
in the back of your mind, in your heart of hearts
that you just don't want the same thing.
You need to realize, as you're dating,
that you might be really attracted to a guy,
you might enjoy him in the bedroom, you might enjoy
spending time with him, but if you just are not compatible
with one another, that's okay.
You gotta learn to move on and not to allow yourself
to just wither away trying to pull this guy back
into your life when it's clearly never gonna work
in the long haul.
So if you find yourself with a Wrong Fit Frank,
you need to have discipline to walk away
especially if he is starting to walk away.
Don't try to bring him back in your life.
The second type of guy who pulls away
is what I call the mind (beep).
These are the types of guys that you sexy, single ladies,
you might call them players
or at least they're wanna be players.
They think that they're players
but chances are they're really not players at all.
They just are desperate, insecure, little guys who are hot
and then they're called and they tell you things
and then they don't fall through on these things.
These are the types of guys who literally make you feel
like they're having sex with your brain,
and not in a good way.
If you're finding yourself in a situation
where you're constantly in confusion, right?
That is like your default mode with this guy.
You're just confused, you don't get him.
Then chances are he's a mind (beep).
And this is something I tell all my love accelerator
coaching clients that is that if it's this hard
this early on, imagine how bad it will be
if you were in a real relationship with this guy.
Imagine how much of a mind (beep) he would be
if you were married to this guy.
Imagine how horrible of a father he would be,
how horrible partner you would be.
So if you find yourself in a situation
with one of these types of guys and sorry,
excuse my language, the mind (beep),
if you find yourself in a situation with that guy,
you need to, again, have that discipline to move on.
Let him pull away.
And the worst thing that happens is that when you do
let him pull away and you don't chase him,
he usually comes back into your life.
And you're finding that there's this constant toxic pattern
of him leaving then coming back, then it's time for you
to be the one to have that discipline and walk away
and push him out of your life.
The third type of guy is what I call the freedom fighter.
This is the guy who fights for his freedom.
He's maybe at a stage in his life where any type
of relationship where he has to be tied down
is not a relationship for him.
And not all of these guys are bad guys.
I mean, maybe they just came out of a bad relationship
and aren't ready for anything real right now,
or maybe they just aren't really sure where they're gonna
be living, or maybe they're in a financial situation
where they're not really ready to settle down
because they don't feel financially settled.
There's a lot of different reasons
why it is a man might be a freedom fighter.
And not all of them make them bad guys.
But if you do find yourself with a freedom fighter,
the best thing you can do is give him that space, alright,
and if he does come back to you then fine,
you can explore the situation.
But if he doesn't come back to you, then you know what?
You just have to realize that it wasn't the right time.
You need to find someone where it's the right person
and the right time.
So I wanna ask you, do you find yourself
constantly attracting men who pull away?
Leave a comment right there below
and let me know what type of guy you seem to attract.
And also if you were ready to break this pattern
then make sure you head on over to loveapply.com
where you can apply to speak
with one of my loves strategists
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Thank you again, I'll speak to you,
sexy, single lady next week, bye-bye.