- Today we're gonna talk about the five love languages,
and how that affects the way
that you connect with your partner.
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- So when it comes to love languages,
now why's that important?
Because you want to treat your partner
that they want to be treated.
Because sometimes the miscommunication is
I do more so much for them or I love them in a certain way,
but it's not the way that they receive love.
It's not the way that they want to be loved.
So there are five love languages.
The very first one is words of affirmation.
Are you saying the nice things to them?
They want the acknowledgement.
They want to hear those sweet things, right?
- Yeah.
- The nice, hey, honey, baby, I love you,
they need to hear that constantly for them to feel loved.
Words of affirmation.
Second, it's quality time.
- Quality time.
- Are you spending quality time with them?
They need that companionship.
They need you to be there.
They need that proximity, right.
They want that, so quality time, second.
Third is receiving gifts.
That you're buying gifts, especially surprise gifts.
I got something for you, honey.
- Yes.
- That's how they receive love, right.
Fourth one, acts of service.
That you're doing something for your partner.
So a husband and wife maybe the husband
usually doesn't do it, but he washes the dishes.
- Clean the garbage.
- Yeah, take out the garbage.
- Yeah, take the kids to school.
- Take the kids to school one day.
Acts of service, that's a way for her to feel loved, right.
Number five is physical touch.
Holding hands, hugging each other,
- Kissing,
kissing, touching each other, physical touch, right.
So the five love languages now you think about it
if your partner values quality time,
I want quality time with you, but all you do is
physical touch.
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Right, I touch you, I hug you,
and then you spend some quality time,
and they're like you don't love me, right.
Or the partner values receiving gifts.
I want you to surprise me.
I want you to buy me flowers,
but all you do is, I love you, I love you,
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you just say you love me, you don't love me,
you don't freakin' love me, cause you don't buy me anything.
You never give me gifts.
You don't love me.
And very often we want to love them
the way that we want to be loved.
So if I am, let's say for me out of these fives
I would be, I would say it's physical touch.
- Physical touch.
Acts of service.
- That's right, acts of service and quality time.
- Yes.
- Acts of service and quality time.
So when Jenny is supporting me and helping me, right,
and doing things for me, to me that's honor, she values me.
She values me as a man, as a husband in the family, right.
For you I guess it would be words of affirmation.
- And physical touch.
So I'm touching her and holding her hands, right.
- But I love gifts as well.
- No, no, that's not receiving gifts.
That's just buying gifts.
- Oh, okay.
(chuckles)
You're just buying gifts on her own using my credit card.
That should be a six month.
- Yeah.
(chuckles)
- Yeah, credit cards.
- Credit cards.
- Credit cards, that's a act of a lot of love right there.
But seriously, you have to know, treat them
the way that they want to be treated.
Out of those five, usually there's a primary one.
- Yes.
- There's a primary one and then a secondary one.
So find out.
If you haven't read the book,
I recommend the book The Five Love Languages.
Read the book.
Read it with your partner.
Like this, I just wanna give you
a quick five minutes summary of it,
so it kinda at least piques your interest
to go read the book.
It's a great book.
I think it will help you in all areas of your relationship
and your communication with your partner.
- And also they can take the test.
- Yeah, you can also take the test and find out.
- Yeah, to know which one your primary is.
- Online, I believe it's free.
- Yes.
- It's free online, you can take the test.
So maybe I'll also put a link to the test below
so you can take the test as well.
- Send to your spouse or partner.
- Send it to your spouse.
Now let them know, this is the way I want to be loved.
This is the checklist, follow this.
Give them a success blueprint.
How to succeed in this relationship.
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Until next time, remember behind every successful man
there's a
- smarter woman.
- I'll see you in the next episode.