- Hey, Psych2Goers.
Do you think you're too self-involved?
Do you have a difficult time
deciphering other people's feelings?
Are you too attached to the idea of receiving admiration?
Sometimes these are actually
not an indicator of Narcissistic Personality Disorder,
but rather a personal call for help.
Are you lonely?
Do you think you're coping with loneliness
by making yourself the center of the universe?
Narcissism and loneliness can go hand in hand
making it hard to differentiate between the two.
So let's take a look at five signs you're lonely,
not narcissistic.
Number one, you try to educate yourself.
The fact that you're watching this right now,
shows your willingness to learn
and immerse yourself in this topic.
Narcissists, on the other hand,
have a sense of entitlement.
This means that they won't bother themselves with things
that show a hint of imperfection.
By continuously reading and exploring different studies,
you're showing a penchant for growth
and that's important.
It may be that you're just looking for validation
from others
because you don't have that kind of support
in your everyday life.
Joining clubs, groups,
and organizations about things you're passionate about
might help.
Number two, you're open to personal growth.
Are you willing to talk about your issues?
Do you constantly self-reflect?
Are you open to the idea of talking with other people
about your own flaws?
These types of behaviors show
you acknowledge your imperfections
and are brave enough to face them head on,
all for the sake of personal progress.
Narcissists tend to show haughtiness and arrogance.
They most likely are not comfortable with the idea
that there is something they need to improve on.
Number three, your past relationships ended well.
Narcissists are magnets for short-term relationships
because of their constant need for admiration.
Most of their relationships end up being one-sided
and when things go wrong, they flee.
If your previous friends, relationships, partners,
or acquaintances have nothing
or very little bad to say about you,
chances are you really aren't a narcissist at all.
Maybe the relationship ending was a mutual understanding.
You can build sustainable relationships
by taking it one at a time.
Be inquisitive,
have genuine curiosity for others.
Overcome your fear of being rejected
and accept people for who they are.
When you're vulnerable enough
to open yourself up to someone,
they'll see the effort.
Number four, your emotions are genuine.
Are you able to apologize truthfully?
Some people do certain things
because social protocol dictates so,
not because they feel like they genuinely want to do it.
An example of this is saying sorry.
Are you the type of person who says they're sorry,
because you're genuinely sorry
or do you do it
because it just seems like the right thing to do?
Narcissists are the type of people who put up an act
in order to get what they want.
Do you regularly overthink your actions
or the words you just said to someone?
That just goes to show that you actually care about them
and you're afraid to hurt them.
What may help constant overthinking
is being in touch with supportive friends
who encourage you by reminding you of your worth.
And number five,
you don't feel like you're better than others.
Do you have someone you're envious of?
Maybe it's their success or popularity.
These kinds of thoughts are normal
and almost everyone experiences them.
It might help as a source of motivation,
but not as a way of beating yourself down.
Narcissists expect to be recognized as superior
even without accompanying achievement.
So if you don't feel like you're on top of everyone
without having a valid reason to
then you're probably good to go.
It always helps to stay grounded
and appreciate your own capabilities and worth.
But self-love is really important.
If you nurture yourself first,
others will see the difference.
This can help attract people to you.
Over time, you'll start to learn your own boundaries
and stay true to yourself
instead of fitting to other people's standards.
So do you think you're a narcissist or just lonely?
What makes you say so?
Comment your experiences down below.
We enjoy hearing them.
Quick note.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a spectrum disorder.
Only a licensed medical professional
is qualified to diagnose your disorder.
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