- Imagine that you see somebody at a bar
or I don't know,
some like health food store,
some Caboolture shop
and you wanna go over and talk to them.
It could be a guy, a girl, whatever.
And imagine that as you're walking up to them,
somebody just walks right in front of you
and ends up talking to them first.
They completely cock-block you.
Now imagine that what happens in everyday life
is that we are vibrationally cock-blocking ourselves
from love due to a couple of different reasons.
And until we remove these vibrational distortions
from our energy, or until we heal the past,
we will continue to cock-block ourselves
from attracting love.
And in this video,
I'm gonna show you the three vibrational
cock blocks that may be stopping you from attracting love
and I'm gonna show you how to remove them
so that everything goes smoothly,
flows nicely,
and you attract the love of your life.
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Welcome back the video.
My name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now on this video, I'm gonna be sharing
with you the vibrational cock blocks
and there's three of them.
And the third one,
we're gonna count back from three to one.
The third one is going to be something
that has blocked so many people.
And it's one that's a little bit more insidious
because you might not be aware of it
but it is that of childhood trauma.
So the third one childhood trauma,
this is one of the biggest cock blocks
that I've noticed,
even in my own life.
I, because it's insidious.
I've recently realized that I have somewhat
of a fear of intimacy,
a fear of intimacy around women.
I think because of my childhood growing up,
many of you that know my story know that
from seven to 15 years old,
I had the abusive ex step-mom
in my life who is emotionally, mentally
and physically abusive.
And from that experience, I wired
in a belief that I'm not worthy.
And in a way I felt like I had to keep love at bay
because to me, the way that I was expressed
some form of validation or some form
of acceptance was that through like manipulation.
And I remember seeing my dad who was very controlled
by my ex step-mom,
and I remember thinking to myself,
I don't want that.
And I remember feeling controlled growing up.
And after I got out of that,
when I was 15 years old,
the funny thing was that I kept attracting
the love that I did attract was the same energy dynamics
of what I experienced growing up
which means I had a girlfriend that was very jealous,
that was very controlling.
Even after I broke up with her,
I had a manager at Nordstrom's
that in woman's shoes,
and she was a manager that was very controlling,
manipulative, almost a clone of my ex step-mom
or just in a different body.
And that pattern was always
in my life until I healed that pattern.
And the reason being,
is because the childhood trauma,
what we experienced when we're kids
we get used to certain energy that then feels safe.
So for example,
one common one I noticed is that maybe you had a parent
that cheated on another parent.
Maybe you have a masculine wound.
And maybe from that masculine wound
from your dad cheated on your mom,
maybe what happened,
is you then decided I can't trust the masculine.
And then what you did is you had to activate your own
so that you could be successful
and you could never have to rely on somebody.
But now, the reason it's hard for you to attract love
is because you've got an energetic wall up
and you feel that deep polarization
within your own relationships
because you can't trust the masculine.
So then you therefore you have to activate your own.
You see childhood trauma will cock block you
from attracting love
and from allowing new love in.
For me, it's like I don't
or I have this vibrational cock block
of not trusting the feminine.
Almost not letting the feminine in,
because if I did,
maybe it will try to control me.
I lose my freedom.
So the childhood trauma that we experience
and more specifically, the relationship we have
with our parents is the way that we view love.
And until we become aware of how that energy dynamic is,
we will continue to allow it to play out
in our life in many different ways.
So, one of the things you can do,
is start to become aware
of what were the dynamics growing up
between your mom and your dad?
How did they model love for you?
How did they treat you?
What are your beliefs about yourself?
And as you become aware of these things,
you can then see that you might be cock blocking yourself
because of what feels familiar,
what may feel familiar is maybe you feel alone.
What may feel familiar,
someone is trying to control you.
You see these things might feel familiar.
Doesn't mean they're good or bad.
It's just, they feel safe.
And until we become aware of it, it runs our life.
So for me, what I've had to do is I've had
to start to trust my own feminine.
I had to in a way start trusting women,
more open myself up, take the leap.
And as I do,
it's like there's a whole new world that unravels itself
because I'm then trusting more
and I'm opening myself up more.
But I was priorly blocking myself off out of safety
not wanting to replay out
the same energy dynamics from when I was a kid.
Another thing I really had to do is I had to forgive.
I had to forgive my ex step-mom.
I had to forgive my own mom.
I had to, my mom is great.
However, the childhood trauma can be kind of insidious.
I keep saying that word insidious
but you're not aware that it's there.
And in the same way, I didn't know
that I had a wound from feeling
like a mom wound
from when I was a kid and my mom's dad passed away.
When my brother was born,
I felt neglected in a way
because my brother had all these health issues
when I was like three years old.
And I felt like maybe I'm not worthy.
And what I did is then it's like,
maybe if I create a big YouTube audience
and I get all this attention
maybe then I'm validated and feel worthy.
So childhood trauma can sometimes fuel us to be successful
which it did for me.
But in a way, it's like,
it's time. I transcend that and know that I have worthy.
I'm worthy for just being me.
And you'll start to see these different patterns
play in your life in many different ways.
So forgiving the mom,
forgiving the dad,
your dad cheated on mom
forgiving them,
your dad did some horrible for you, forgiving him.
They're always doing the best they can with where they are.
And as you heal those relationships
with your parents and you forgive,
I think you then allow the cock block to be removed.
Now, the second thing that is cock blocking you
from attracting love is your generalized beliefs
about you and love.
So do you think that you're worthy?
Do you, what do you believe about yourself?
Many times we have these stories,
these stories run our lives.
The stories we have or the beliefs we have
about the way reality works
and our beliefs create our reality.
So if we have a belief that says that all women are XYZ,
then we will find ourselves getting a reflection
in life of that belief.
If we find ourselves saying I'm not worthy,
no one's going to love me,
I always attract this type of person,
that story, that autopilot story,
which may feel familiar
it may have been the autopilot
but that is what's keeping us cock blocked
from attracting love or meaningful love.
You probably have no problem attracting some type of love.
It might not just be the love that you want.
Well, it's because there's a story there,
a belief there that's keeping that pattern alive.
And once again, you become aware of that pattern.
I became aware that I had a pattern that said I'm unworthy.
And one of the ways I kind of said it,
my YouTube channel was like a reflection
of me trying to get that attention
that I feel like went away
when I was two or three years old.
And I was playing out that energy dynamic
of wanting more attention to feel validated.
But then as I became aware of it,
I then became aware of my story.
Do I identify and believe that I am worthy only
if I'm adding value in YouTube videos
or helping people or putting my energy out there
or can I have value for just being me?
And I wanna let you know you are worthy
not because of anything you do.
You're worthy for just being you.
You are worthy just for existing.
It don't need, worthiness just is.
It's not like worthiness is dependent on XYZ.
And once you start going inside of your own body more,
I'd say that this is also,
it's also a key to magnetic energy by the way,
going into your own body and feeling present to the moment.
When you're in your own body, you are magnetic.
When you are projecting yourself
and trying to please other people and caring
what other people think, your energy is all scattered.
That's why it's not.
It's more important,
what you think about you than other people think
about you because people feel what you feel about you.
What you feel is being emanated out.
People are feeling that and reflecting it back.
And if you start to feel love for yourself,
it won't even matter if people don't give you the love
because you'll feel that love.
But the key is questioning the negative beliefs
that had been there on auto-pilot.
So that is the second one.
Now the first and one of the most important,
one of the most common limiting things that people think
about themselves that keep them from attracting love,
that is the biggest vibrational cock block.
You want to know what it is,
it's simply being worthy.
What I was talking about a minute ago with the story,
this goes a little bit deeper.
If you don't think you're worthy to receive love,
then it will be very challenging for you to receive it.
I've had to learn that if I want somebody,
because I've always wanted to,
I guess from not having that much nurturing growing up
because I had seven, 16 years old,
I had the abusive step-mom thing.
I never really knew what it felt like to receive love
and to also receive somebody that really likes me
for being me without some manipulative tactic.
And because I didn't know what that feels like,
It felt unknown.
It was challenging me for me to really receive that.
And for me to really accept that
because it felt like on such an unfamiliar thing.
This is why when some women are dating men
that actually treat them well,
they push it away
and it sounds too good to be true.
And then they go back to some,
somebody that like talks down to them
or some type of narcissist or something like that.
Yes, it's gonna feel unfamiliar
when you start to love yourself
and you start to feel that self worthiness
but then you'll kind of know more so what it feels like
for someone else to love you as well,
you won't think it's too good to be true.
So this is about understanding that more so,
the last one is about beliefs.
This is more about identity.
This is more about knowing that you are love.
You literally are love and you are worthy.
And when you start to realize that more within yourself
by tapping into that vibration,
you'll start to experience it on the outside.
Now the most important thing is to change
your inner vibration and to feel it.
I think that's why one of the most powerful meditations
that I have on my YouTube channel
is the most popular video I have.
It's got almost 4 million views
and it's that of a meditation
for feeling love and attracting a relationship.
And what you do is you go into this meditation,
you feel the inner love inside of yourself,
you really tap into it,
and there's hundreds,
if not thousands of comments
from people that said they've attracted love
from listening to this meditation for 21 days.
If you don't believe me,
click the link below,
check it out,
read the comments.
It will increase the belief that,
oh, maybe this can work for me too.
And then listen to that meditation
for 21 days and watch what happens.
And the comments in it are insane.
They're just, I'm like,
wow, it's so cool to see how many people have attracted love
due to that meditation listed for 21 days.
And all you're doing is you're feeling the love
inside of yourself.
You're growing that energy.
And as you feel that love,
other people will feel that energy off of you.
So if you are committed
or, I say committed
and maybe you're afraid of commitment
and just kinda bringing stuff up for you.
But if you commit to your own inner love,
you'll start to see your outer reality begin to change
as a way of, why you're that in.
Like this video,
comment below,
let me know which one of these resonated the most with you
and say, I'm committed to that 21 day meditation.
In 21 days, let's see what happens.
We'll all go through it together.
So would that be and said,
I hope you guys enjoyed this video
and as always,
peace,
much love
and namaste.