Hi, welcome!
I’m Nadine Piat from Healthy You, Healthy Love and I’m a coach for smart savvy women
looking for romantic sexy yummy love.
And in today’s modern world of dating it has never been harder and never been so easy
to find love.
So you are in the right place if you are looking for love.
And today’s topic is kind of on the path of finding love specifically because there
are two very important rules that will allow you to attract the love of your life and if
you’re currently in a relationship it doesn’t matter these two rules will still apply because
you probably you overlooked them and can be the reason why you're in turmoil in a relationship
or you're feeling uncertainty.
And if you're single you're in the right place because this video will allow you to date in a way
that sees you incredibly empowered and making the most amazing decisions for your love life
so that you actually end up in the kind of relationship you want.
Plenty of women date men and do not end up in a relationship they want.
The world is full of divorcees, the world is full of single people and people in relationships
also don’t follow these two rules and that’s why a lot of people are unhappy.
So please stay with me because I’m going to reveal it all in a moment.
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So let’s get in to the topic.
What are these two rules?
Well to be honest, they’re not that sexy.
The reason why they’re not that sexy is because they were inspired by employing people
by HR, by someone who I was talking to, who's a good friend of mine, and we're having
a laugh one day and also a deep conversation about dating and relationships as well mind you
And she said this thing and it stuck with me, and she said, rule number one, with hiring
people, staff and really good employees, never hire in haste.
And rule number two is remember rule #1.
Why is it so important for your lovelife?
People who are needy for love, desperate for love, hire in haste.
They choose men or choose a relationship because they are so desperate for love, so desperate
for connection that they actually don’t stay out in the playing field in the dating
field to actually meet someone that they would be more compatible with.
And this is what happened in the workforce, I’ve employed people, I have lots of different
freelancers that work with me and whenever I’m being desperate at times and I’m just
trying to find someone urgently and I haven’t really looked at all of the candidates but
I’m in a rush, I’m going over seas, I need someone to start or I don’t have
a lot of time, and so therefore I just sort of look at the first 10 applicants then I
choose the best one in there.
When I’ve done that you know sometimes you get lucky and it works like in love.
But often times it doesn’t, because I haven’t done the research, I’ve hired in haste.
So people do this everyday in relationships because of that need, because of that desperation,
because of loneliness and I understand it.
It doesn’t make it wrong but doesn’t make it effective.
So if you’re wanting to find love, I want you to always remember not to be hasty with
your heart because romantic relationships impact our life incredibly.
The impact of our unhealthy relationship in our life is debilitating, it can affect every
aspect of our life and most importantly it can just feel horrible.
It’s kind of like living a life of hell in an unhealthy relationship.
However when you’re in a healthy relationship, a truly connected relationship even when there
are challenges, it’s okay because you know you’ve got each other’s back, you know
you’re there for each other, you see each other, support each other, you’re invested
in each other and that makes people feel confident and safe in a relationship.
So when we hire in haste and we chose someone who’s not right for us, sometimes we think,
well at least I’ve got someone there for me, at least that person can do my emails
for me or do the job on YouTube here that I need some help with, with some research,
whatever it maybe, whatever I need help with.
If that person really isn’t suited to the job, it’s going to cost me more down the
track, money, my time and energy, my own stress levels.
When someone isn’t working in a work sense all the cogs, all the wheels start falling
off.
Things aren’t flowing, the cogs aren’t aligned.
And so why is it that we don’t apply sometimes the things that we would apply in our worklife,
in our business life.
You know people have contracts in businesses often, they have lined everything out, everything
is very clear about what they will and won't do, what that person is and isn’t capable
of.
And yet in relationships oftentimes people very blindly invest time and energy in someone
that is potentially a mismatch.
It's not about making the other person wrong, sometimes we just mismatches, we're not aligned,
we're not on the same page.
It doesn't make that person wrong, it doesn't necessarily make you wrong for choosing them,
it just means that we need to learn from our mistakes, we need to learn from our haste
and we need to be patient.
And I have another video that's going to really help you and expand on the art of waiting
and how to actually wait in a way that stops us from making hasty commitments when it comes
to our love life and i'm going to put the link to that right below that you can check
out after this video.
So why is it that we end up in an unhealthy relationships?
Well sometimes it's almost like people choose us.
If we're out in the dating world and we're looking for love, if there’s no one else
around, we’ll often think well this is all that's out there, this is what will do, I'm
never gonna find anybody else.
I'm so tired of watching netflix on my own, I'm so tired of walking my dog on my own,
I'm so tired of being home alone on the couch, whatever it is, I'm so tired of turning up
to family events and weddings, whatever it is, on my own.
And so we become desperate and disempowered.
I know how this feels, I know what it's like to want to deeply be loved, to experience love,
to share your love with somebody.
I know what it's like to want partnership and yet if it's not a match it's not a match.
And so what's the rush all about?
If you have beliefs that, "Aw I'm going to die old and alone", if you believe that you’re
only deserving of something average, all of these things, I get it.
A part of your psyche that you need to have a look at.
But they're not the reasons to stay in the relationship.
I don't think every relationship is the same.
Every human has different needs and wants when it comes to the relationship.
Not everyone wants someone who's funny, not everyone wants who is financially secure,
you know it's not a massive priority for them.
Not everyone wants someone who is tall or fit.
Everyone has different preferences except, compatibility is compatibility, flow is flow,
and when a compatibility isn't there it can feel dreadful, it can feel more lonely.
And one of the biggest challenges in life is if you actually do want to find a true
match for yourself, then it is very important to be able to palette, or process or digest
times of being single, times of being alone.
Because if you're actually wanting to find true love, if you really do want to find that
man that really does create that sparkle, that really does support you, that can see
you, be there for you, as you can be for him. You're in a partnership with
someone that really does add levity and joy and fun and play to your life and
when you do have challenges you work through them together because you're both committed
and it doesn't mean that you can work everything out but most things are resolvable and the
things that aren't you agree to disagree on like, all that stuff you can do it well together,
then you can't hire in haste, you have to be okay with being single.
You have to be confident standing in those single shoes while you wait for that perfect
guy.
In fact one of the biggest challenges women have is not knowing how to date in a way that
actually allows them not to hire in haste but allows them to hire from a place of compatibility,
on skill, on interest, okay.
So rule number one, never hire in haste.
Rule number two, remember rule number 1.
This is going to set you up for life.
Sets me up in my business. When I hire in haste, it didn't go so well.
I had to learn to take it slow, to have the right conversations and it's the same in my
own love life.
You've gotta have the right conversations, you've got to take your time getting to know
someone.
The conversations can start with online dating before you even meet them, just feel people
out properly, you know, don't go just of the photo or few little things, ask a few questions,
when you meet ask some more, not like an interrogation, open warm flowing conversation.
But even if you're getting along but you still pick up on some red flags or even, you know,
amber flags or if you want to call it or pink flags, so stay open to it but also take
your time, you need more data.
Data doesn't sound sexy but data allows you to work out if someone is right for you.
Just because you feel tingles of desire and you have a laugh, it doesn't mean that person
is actually aligned with you, it's not as simple as that.
Just because I have a good conversation with a potential freelancer or consultant, it doesn't
mean that the person can do the job or maybe they can do the job but we're not aligned
in our personality as well like all relationships flow and work on a whole lot of levels.
Look at your closest friendships, the ones that work really well and the ones that don't.
What are the qualities of those people?
Write them down.
Even family members, which family members do I flow with and which ones don't.
Start getting really clear about the attributes and traits of people that you flow with and
look for that in a partner.
Finding love doesn't have to be as complicated and to help you with that I have a free gift
called Five Easy Ways to Get a Man to Commit and Stay Committed.
But it's not really about getting a man to commit to you it's about understanding things
that needs to be in place, five different aspects of dating and relationships that need
to be in place for both sides for an actual commitment to take place in a compatible sense.
So please do check out that gift, it's a game changer and it will really open your eyes
to a whole lot of things that I have mentioned here but also some extra tips that are going
to help you move closer to finding love.
So that link to Five Easy Ways is right below in the description.
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