a little bit about me i was born and raised in las vegas nevada a big party
spot I Brian's been there now he can attest to some of the things that go on
there and it can get pretty wild right on i myself was not so great at
approaching or talking to pretty much any woman anything my first story of
actually going out and doing pickup was with partisan we went out to a strip
club my first game was strip club game like hey pick up the stripper who works
for works for money gaming you for jobs the game you that was my my first set of
approach is really and so literally literally in a I think two hours at
night I i did not get approached once by a stripper stripper would not even come
up to me and say hey i wanna dance
anything I got nothing later the stripper would even approached me so I
it's like the anti magnet of women at the time right and so like in that night
I did to my own approaches i approach to strippers and you know it really didn't
go anywhere the conversations were maybe a couple minutes long at the most end up
spending most of my time just sitting with another student and eating at the
free buffet which was delightful sandwiches and pizza at a strip club yum
right
and so the we went out to another club that same night another late after hours
club was more of a nightclub and same thing didn't maybe one or two approaches
and at that point just almost totally deflated I didn't want to talk to
anybody I didn't care to check that the next girl I pretty much just hung out
with the other student and we know showed it out just tell her drinks and
like cool
it's all good right that's where I started in a couple years now it's been
about three years now I'm obviously traveling with artisan as a trainer and
it takes a lot of time right
I can't offer you a quick fix there's no magic bullet
I can't give you like hey this is the advice bro i'll just go i do this one
thing
six years done if i could i would sell it for a lot of money a lot of money but
we can so my first point is really because you have to put into work it's
gonna gonna have to put in a little work
alright so with that let me check my notes because i have to check my notes
and so who here is a keyboard jockey who here would you know to keep her Jackie
is anyone so it's someone who reads lots and lots of material but they never
actually go out they never actually go and try to apply it
so who here right now is would be a keyboard Jackie you just kind of reeds
and doesn't really hasn't really been out in the field or outside into a bar
club when you guys go out
that's great that's the first step you don't go out you won't learn anything
zero a book can only tell you so much so so interesting when I really do three
what is
practice is help gasps like know maybe no space leaders days you get smashed
and then you try to do some pickup so I know this is Ireland I don't please
don't kill me for this but uh drinking when you go out is not the best idea and
here's basically why you go out you're drunk you might actually pick up a girl
because you have zero approach anxiety at that point you're just going crazy
and maybe she's drunk to the problem is you want to actually learn anything
right when you go home you wake up in the morning next to some chick you
basically uh how did this happen
did you learn anything right you learn anything drunk you can practice drunken
game right
drunken game I feel the girls laughing when I say drunk and it's like yeah
there's a little joke in Austin in Austin right there there's that there's
a joke in Australia the guys they're just get really drunk and they just lean
into the girl and they call the aussie lean-to basically just fall on top of
her eventually right
this is there an Irish version of that it is clear.its i love this is like even
yeah yeah think so right so a lot of that's due to approach anxiety right
you're drinking you're trying to dim that approach anxiety correct
you don't really feel approach anxiety when you've been drinking your junk
agree yeah so what are some other ways instead of drinking that we can deal
with approach anxiety anyway
so we call it warming up
it's a tactic called warming up right because when you go into the bar or out
the day you've never really talked to anybody you don't just walk up to random
strangers talk right normally it's not social conditioning it's more social
conditioning to go walk around not talk to anybody just be yourself right but
that doesn't really help you meet people
alright so we're trying to do is either find our true love or some girl we want
to share some experience with in some form another it might just be a
one-night stand
it might just be a long-term relationship you never know right
so warming up so how can we warm up and get into a more social state when we go
out before we really approach all these women are or put that that pressure on
ourselves to approach well in the daytime we keep it really simple we have
two ways we do it we call comments and questions comments and questions so a
question could be anything like hey do you know where the nearest starbucks is
a question you like cool hair man i really like your hat anything like that
so I'm going to get you just a little bit more social maybe maybe that's too
much and you start just by walking towards the girl you're interested in
maybe just walk towards her make try to make eye contact take it in the smallest
smallest step you can write some guys that's too hard so we do progressive
desensitization right so progressively you get more and state more working
towards that girl okay it's that social vibe the social state have you guys ever
heard of state and you guys who study pickup state so being in the state so
there's different types of states to right we just want to be in one that
keeps more socially open that lets us access all of our cool little funny
lines that we have and let us be really be ourselves we're just trying to be a
better version of ourselves or ourselves magnified right so we're going for so
warming up in the daytime is simple
comments questions
easy peasy right so maybe what's another one of those with the way we can do that
at night it's like maybe a cool comment or something we could talk to you a
question or comment we can give a girl at night to warm up that the classic I
five random high-five always good wanted to always cheers and your last cheers
that's a great one right
actually she's just being your glass exactly right that could be your full
opener right that I didn't have to be just a warm-up anything else
hey real quick what's the song he told me the toilet is the best advice I can
give you a knight is definitely to talk to the very first person you see whether
it be a girl or a guy or bartender or a bouncer anyone talk to that person
immediately immediately starts at it up as a guy talk about things as a girl
talk whatever you want as long as again you're just trying to condition yourself
to be more social in that environment right cool
anything you guys want to add that maybe you had some more nope nothing
that's cool i'll give you smart alright so let's say let's say you're not in
state yet you're not in state you're not ready to talk
maybe you haven't did your 45 comments like hey that's cool or your five hey
we're start with that or what's name + song maybe you're just not ready yet
that should not be an excuse right we have a rule it's a very simple rule with
an awesome acronym the acronym is ass right ass always say something should
always say something if you have nothing should always say something I literally
picked up my last girlfriend with a of a nine-month relationship of a real quick
you should try that sandwich that was my opener that was it
right now we ended up chatting actually said I don't like I don't like that
sandwich and walk away right
she went ordering came back and talk to me that was the beginning of it right so
it doesn't always have to be some like super clever you know five minute opener
like hey do you like horses fret for anybody who like that one that was
terrible
yeah that's a great one man inside you
yeah it'sit's who knows the horse girl opener does anyone know the full courser
opener like 12 guys to guys in the four or screw ya if you don't even bother
looking up it's a really long terrible opener and girls usually just am going
on and it's not very good so what are some of the other ways we can get into
state there are few others other ways
listen to music so here's a great one for music
so did you guys go to gym work out a little bit um so if you guys go to gym
workout or any physical activity they get you pumped up anything like that
puts you and state by itself you actually listen to the music of the club
that you go out to you so if you go to an Irish pub plays Irish music listen
Irish music while you work out it's creating an anchor what we call an
anchor and NLP right so say you're going to a nightclub plays all american pop
music or american club music listen that while you workout and then when you go
in there you go yeah i remember the song is working out everything was going good
and it helps you boost your state automatically right that's one way
another way you would think wouldn't boost your state was actually meditation
meditation is actually really really good i'm currently doing 20 minutes a
night 20 minutes a night of meditation before I go out and I can definitely
tell the difference between meditating and going out and just going out
it's a big difference right so you guys could should look into doing just some
breathing meditation it's really helpful and getting getting present
and so what are some other ways any other ways you guys can think of maybe
getting the state feel more social jump up and down
how about dance I would dance like no one's watching just totally get down
I wish we had some music here we don't I make you guys totally crazy and just be
free because here's the difference especially guys anxiety feel like
they're being watched all the time like someone's judging them but the truth is
most of the time no one's really watching and even when they are just
really matter if they're watching right are they really judging you
probably not this is going super crazy another college like that he was drunk
and that's probably it in Ireland they're probably guys hanging out right
but it doesn't matter right
it doesn't matter so let's try to think of like a frame a good frame for picking
up guys know what frame is it's kinda like a mindset or concept right good
frame for picking up is a lot of guys will tell you this is not caring about
what anybody thinks about you don't care i'll give a shit doesn't matter it
doesn't matter if someone sees me dancing and I'm doing some crazy stuff
and they're like haha that dudes gay and drink some drink his chances are he's
probably just drinking a drink by himself or with his buddies and he
hasn't approached any girls so don't ever get in your head that someone's
watching and someone cares about your doing only worry about yourself
you only need to worry about your actions and what you're doing to ford
your chances with whatever girl or whatever goals you have in mind right
now another thing i see a lot of guys do is they go out kinda aimlessly so they
get in the state and like yeah I'm ready to go
I just talked to a girl and they already have any direction right there not only
practicing anything they're just going out and talking to girls which is great
it's great to get over anxiety and obviously the more you tried the more
odd you are finding a girl right
she rods share approaching will get more girls than what you probably have now
if you approached a hundred girls right now I you said that dumbest things
you're set in your life that was there you will probably find one or two girls
like I was kinda interesting definitely not like normal guys he's definitely set
himself out from the rest of the other guys right that's what a big thing about
day game is it sets you apart from many other guys right there's two girls in
the room is both you how many times you guys been approached by a guy who says
you're cuter give you compliments during the day it's more rare than us like like
how many times in the u.s. roughly estimate
ok
exactly right
yeah that's cool so a few times a few times in like your entire life you've
been looks safe let's say for like four times may be four times each their
entire life you know the average guy approaches women sober his entire life
his total number of approaches his entire life sober and his entire life
span not just like ways you guys all right now like until he dies like 44
sober approaches in their entire life so that you totally apart to approach
during the day right totally different and so we talked a little bit about
state how to get a state with comments and questions we've talked about a
couple things about how to get the state of the bar really quickly just talking
to that first person you see chat them up and moving on you can always move on
to the next person you can always reopen to so if you talk to a person of the bar
and you're like everything went kind of good and you walk away and you're like
oh I'm out of things to say what do i do just say hey look I got to catch with my
friends talk to the next person you can always go back at the interaction was at
least decent can always go back right don't freak out me like oh I already
talked to her once and I can talk her and course you can talk to her again she
might like to you might have wanted you to stay right so don't forget about that
it's no big deal
and so the last thing i want to talk about since we talked about state so
much is what we call state dependency state dependency so that's when you can
only approach in states or you're not in state enough so you can't do it yet case
we talked just thinking about that it's never been an excuse but we're actually
going to teach you another way another way other than just being state you can
get totally totally within yourself then maybe
510 seconds so you don't have to rely on that state so even if you can't get in
state at that time you'll still have a tool to help you approach to deal with
that anxiety right we're gonna teach you guys that I believe that's a boot camp
right so that's one of the things we teach on bootcamp right so you don't
have to always be in state you don't always have to be a state
ok so with that being said I think one hand it on over to my buddy here mr.
Matthew artisan ladies gentlemen