Hello everyone, now I have a question for you, “are you one of those people who everyone
gets instantly attracted to?” Or, “are you one of those people who everyone is kind
of awkward or uncomfortable around?” For years I believed that what I said would attract
people to me, I was so wrong now of course you must have good vocabulary but that's not
the whole package. Now pay close attention, because I'm here today to tell you something
that you don't know. People who are known to be charismatic, when they speak on stage
or those who crack their interview or people who have a lot of people around them and everyone
loves them they have one common secret. A secret that makes them instantly likeable.
Yes! They give away some signals that make them attractive within the first five minutes
of meeting them. So today I'm gonna show you three main things that make you instantly
attractive. To know what they are, stay tuned with me and watch this complete video on Skillopedia,
the place to learn skills for the real world.
Now these little babies are very useful. Yes, is a known fact that the way your hands move
or the right hand gestures show two things, ‘intention’ and ‘explanation’. Let
me help you understand, if people who meet you instantly know what your intentions are
and what you're trying to exactly say, they will trust you and therefore like you more.
You will therefore obviously end up being more charismatic. Now I have observed that
people who are socially successful have a list of certain hand gestures that they always
use. Okay so what's all those gestures? First one is called the “emotional hand gesture”.
So why is it called emotional? Okay when you feel strongly about something, make sure your
hand gesture is near the chest or somewhere around the heart. So in an interview you can
say, “I am deeply passionate about working with children.” Or if you are going to be
on stage and give a moving speech you can say something like, “now this story I’m
gonna tell you means so much to me.” See? A simple hand gesture but the person in front
of you is going like, “wow! She is passionate about what she is talking about and she is
definitely quite sincere about what she is saying.” So guys remember use the emotional
hand gesture to convey authenticity. Now when you are talking you always want to explain
concepts, right? So it's important to use what I call the ‘compare and contrast approach’
and then make your point. So there's a gesture for that. Let's see for example if I am talking
about two things one is listening one is speaking in English to become fluent I will say it
like this, “now listening is important because you get to understand the different sounds
used in English words however, speaking in English also makes you accustomed to using
the right language in any situation so that's why we need both to become fluent English
speakers.” What have I done? One hand talks about a certain point that I was trying to
make and then the other hand was also making another point but then what did I do, I kind
of joined both these ideas and brought them together to make people understand my final
concept. In meetings at your workplace and places where important decisions are made
you will see top level leaders always use these hand gestures very often now sometimes
we have to explain things in terms of increase or decrease you know like growth or decline
so to explain both this is how you do it you can say there has been a major increase in
our supply this year however our demand is on the decline. Also please remember that
when you are talking about numbers within five, it's a great idea to actually show them
like this like number two or number three so you can say yes it took us nearly three
years to finally come out with this product. Actually when you make gestures like these
to show increase or decrease or numbers like a three or a four people remember you, they
understand you and they definitely give you attention. Now this is my favourite one because
it is what I call the “we” gesture. The we gesture shows unity it shows that the people
listening you are involved in what you're saying to them and that makes them feel loved
it makes them feel important so you can say something like this, “we as a team can make
all the difference.” As you can see it's an outwardly gesture which shows that you
are friendly and likeable and very approachable and that makes you very attractive to people.
Now I know that pointing has been considered to be rude but I don't quite believe that's
totally true. Sometimes when you want to make a very strong point and want people to give
their immediate attention to you, you can point. However to make it seem a little less
aggressive you can try pointing with your hand open like this so I can say something
like this you need to have true love and passion for your job if you want to make it a successful
career or you can say you have the capability to do whatever you set your heart upon, see
I'm drawing your attention without really pointing with my finger and coming all in
your face if you know what I really mean. So guys remember use the pointing gesture
but don't make it look too aggressive. Of course at the end of everything I want to
make sure and you want to make sure that hand gestures should look genuine, which means
that your hand gestures whatever they may be they should match your words, okay? So
don't use too many hand gestures either, because that may confuse people and think that you
are a little weird, okay? So use hand gestures but use them appropriately.
Now along with hand gestures the quality of your voice is so important. Back in the early
days of my career I was told that if people like your voice they will be instantly attracted
to you. So what's a good voice? Well a good voice is one which is energetic. So instead
of saying I'm a data analyst you can be a little bit more upbeat about it and say I
am a data analyst. Now depending on your message it's also important to change the tone and
the pitch of your voice so if you are talking about something exciting you can say it like
this, digital media is booming like nothing you've ever seen and it's here to stay. But
sometimes you need to have a sober voice when talking about routine things or when giving
instructions for day-to-day tasks that's when you can sound something like this this switch
right here will help you get to the doorway on the left and that's where you make an exit.
So you see guys vocal variety as you can see also shows your real intention and makes people
remember you and definitely makes people want to be with you and be around you.
Now I know everyone has heard about the power of a smile and that it's kind of getting a
little too cliché to even talk about it. The truth is that sometimes we don't even
know that we are not smiling or that our smile looks quite fake and as if it's plastered
on our faces. My first presentation I remember was around 10 years ago and after it was done
a friend told me hey Ceema I liked your content but why were you so nervous. Can you believe
that? I actually thought I was smiling and being pleasant throughout my talk but I was
actually giving away a really nervous smile. So guys if you want to make sure your smile
is genuine here's what you should do, first you need to try to make sure you loosen your
jaw okay, so just make sure you kind of just losing it out here okay and then breathe deep
and once you do that your facial muscles will be relaxed enough to give the best smile you
possibly can. All right guys thanks for watching go ahead and make the best first impression
by making yourself likeable and instantly attractive in less than 5 minutes and before
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