As Britney Spears' conservatorship appears to be closer to an end,
it's important to understand that her whole family were all responsible for the last 13 years.
And after a handful of documentaries and facts that come to light,
there's little doubt that the Spears are the perfect example of a narcissistic family.
In this video I'm going to dissect what is the role of every one of them,
and how can you tell if you're living the same situation as Britney.
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When I first began researching Britney's case, it was almost too obvious that her father, Jamie
Spears, was the main perpetrator of all the abuse she had suffered over all these years, and that
was one of the conclusions of my first video where I analyzed the messages in her instagram account.
But as I began studying the other members of the Spears family,
I noticed that I was not looking at the bigger picture. I began to notice a pattern.
A pattern of narcissistic abuse in a narcissistic family. And just to be clear,
the term "narcissistic family", doesn't mean that everyone in the family is a narcissist.
In fact, all you need is just one member, that is usually a parent,
to be a narcissist and develop this system around their wishes.
In this case, we already know that Jamie Spears is the main abuser here.
But what about the other actors?
The next mention should be Britney herself. Britney is what is called a Scapegoat. The
Scapegoat is the one that basically receives and suffers all the punishment, control,
humiliation that the family's tyrant, in this case her own father, decides to unleash on her.
The scapegoat is usually one of the children because it's much,
much easier to manipulate them since they are born.
There could be more than one scapegoat in the family, but in this case is just Britney.
All that has been revealed so far, the isolation, the gaslighting through her children, that she
has to behave as Jamie says because if she does not then she won't be able to see her children,
toxic control and surveillance, even the forced administration of meds are
just a handful of examples of how a parent can just play with one of his children's sanity.
This is a problem of sadistic power. The narcissistic parent wants everything to be
revolving around their wishes. And when that doesn't happen,
then the scapegoat is the way that they vent their frustration.
It's absolutely sickening, yes. But then, there are other actors
that contribute to this toxic dynamic. And one of them is the Flying Monkey.
The Flying Monkey term is an analogy for the Wizard of Oz,
where the Witch had these flying monkeys that were like her henchmen.
And that's exactly what the Flying Monkey is to the narcissist.
That is, another member of the family, that is usually another child that just
goes with whatever the narcissistic parent wants. In this way they protect themselves
from being the scapegoat and try to establish like some kind of status.
They don't hurt the scapegoat directly, but following the orders of the narcissistic parent.
They're still responsible because their actions still hurt one of their siblings,
and in the case of the Spears,
it is Britney's older brother, Bryan, the one that goes with everything that his father says.
What's more, if you remember my video analysis about him, you already know that he despises
Britney, says that singing and dancing is the only thing that she can do, despite the
fact that Britney's fortune is what has paid for all his lifestyle, and the entire family.
Anyway, flying monkeys are optional,
but one piece that is always present in a narcissistic family is the enabler.
The enabler is usually the other parent, the one that is not a narcissist, but that
chooses the wrong path of condoning, supporting, agreeing, following what the narcissist does.
This is pretty much like the Flying Monkey's intentions. The enabler does this to stay out
of harm's way from the narcissist. In this case, the enabler is Britney's mother Lynne.
And what is interesting is that even if the enabler divorces the narcissist,
the influence can remain there. For example, maybe you're the scapegoat inside a family,
and your mother is a narcissist, and your father, after many years decides to divorce her,
something that is really hard for a person that has been many years with a narcissist.
You might think that from the moment they divorce, then your father is going to be
more supportive with you, or try to mend the fact that he did not act sooner,
or in any way, not interact with your narcissistic mother, but sadly this is not always the case.
The influence of a narcissistic parent on the enabler can last even after
divorce. It can even get worse after divorce, especially if the children are still young.
So, if you're expecting that your enabling parent is going to change their behavior
towards you after they divorce your narcissistic parent, don't hold your breath.
An enabler's divorce is usually to save themselves,
or at least have less interaction with the tyrant.
There are too many signals from Britney's mother Lynne that show that she's not really
been supporting her. I mean, I haven't done a body language analysis on her yet, but just
the fact that she used Britney's virginity story to sell more books... that's trash.
But then, we've got one member left. And that's Britney's sister Jamie Lynn.
When I heard that Jamie Lynn was the trustee, or the sole beneficiary of
Britney's state in case of Britney's death, that fact alone sets all kind of alarms.
Besides the fact of how Bryan talks about Jamie Lynn and how her career has been like a forced
riding over Britney's back. I have little doubt that Jamie Lynn is the Golden Child of the family.
A Golden Child in a narcissistic family is the one that no matter how much they mess up,
no matter how they behave, no matter all the trouble they cause they will be treated like
kings or queens. And this usually happens with the youngest child, and it fits in this case.
So far we have a complete picture of what's being around Britney all these years.
But then, there's the question. Many people survive narcissistic families.
And I think that Britney could have pulled that off if wasn't for the conservatorship.
This is what I think happened.
I've been studying Britney's professional output, before and after what I call the Federline Event.
And if you're a Britney fan it would not be that hard to notice that after that Federline Event,
and the start of the conservatorship, Britney's professional output was twice as much per year,
to say the least, than before marrying Kevin Federline.
Counting specifically, live events, concerts, tours and residences. And we already know from the
documentaries that her work schedule was insane and she was given no time to recover or rest.
Why is this important? because this happened just due to greed.
You can imagine how much money was NOT made in those years of the Federline Event.
Yes, Britney became a mother and that's something that she absolutely wanted
and loved, but then the business bosses thought that they needed the money making machine back.
And they could not afford a second Federline Event to happen.
They had to find a way to control her life and turn her into a submissive cash cow.
Of course, those Business Bosses could not do it alone; they needed her family
to become the emotional bridge of that plan. Specifically, Jamie Spears as conservator.
He, and the rest of the family, complied with that plan without batting an eye.
And that's why they deserve what's coming to them.
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