- Hey everyone.
Welcome back to my channel.
I'm Hannah Witton and with me today is Shan Boody.
- Shan Boody, what's up?
I'm so happy to be here
and I can not believe you're doing this series.
- I know.
- You know this is my shit.
- I know.
This is my shit.
- This is our shit.
- We're swimming in our shit today.
- Oh, I love it.
Smells so good.
- Yeah.
- So, I planned this whole series, like,
doing different personality tests
and then I was coming over to Shan's today
to record an episode of my podcast about her book,
"The Game of Desire."
And I was on a train here, on a train in California,
crazy.
- Which I thought, I was like...
- I was using public transport.
- When you text me that, I was like,
you're in the wrong country.
We don't have public transportation here.
- But I was reading your book
and you talked about, in the workbook
that you gave these women whose dating lives
you were trying to help, this personality test.
I was like, wait, I've not heard of this one.
- Yeah. (laughs)
- I was like, hold on, this isn't on my list.
So, I immediately texted you, like, okay,
we're filming a video now, as well,
and we have to talk about this.
- Have you heard of the other ones?
- I've heard of, yeah, the other ones.
- What's your apology language?
- Oh no, that was another one I hadn't heard of.
- That one, I think, is really really good too.
- Yeah, everyone do Shan's workbook.
You can, like, do all of these different personality tests
to help with your, like, love life and stuff.
And I'll link all of that below.
- But you also have quizzes that I didn't know about
in your series.
- Yeah, yeah.
- So, we're learning from each other.
We're swimming in each other's shit,
we're eating each other's shit, it's a great day.
- So, this is, The Big Five.
What is The Big Five, tell us a bit about it.
- The Big Five is a way of assessing personality
by five different major characteristics
and an easy way to remember it is the acronym,
O.C.E.A.N.
And so it's Openness,
Conscientiousness,
Extraversion,
Agreeableness,
Neuroticism.
- Okay.
- But every ying has a yang,
so its like you're either open or closed.
You're either agreeable or disagreeable.
You're either conscientious or not conscientious.
You're introverted or extraverted.
You're neurotic or you're emotionally stable.
And so, by doing this you can basically assess
where your strong in your personality
and where your weak areas are.
- But what about, like, introversion/extraversion,
cause its not like one is good or bad, yeah.
- Yeah, that's the truth.
I mean, to be honest with you,
even agreeableness versus disagreeableness.
Agreeable people have better relationships,
a number one determinate of healthy long-term relationships
is how agreeable the people are.
However...
- What happens about, like, the other side of things,
like, potentially being, like, a doormat.
- Yeah, well that's-
- Or is that different?
- It is not quite different, but it kind of is.
Agreeableness in essence is the priority is
to get along versus to get your way.
- Right, yes.
- But that, of course, to an extreme is that, like,
I never have my opinion voiced
and also, disagreeable people make the world go round
because they're the ones who are like, hey,
this iPhone sucks, make a better one.
(laughs)
They are the ones who are causing change
and they're causing disruption,
which is the father of invention or mother of invention.
So, it's like while they can be negative,
they have a positive side to them.
And so, its up to you to assess, like,
for example, for myself, by doing this quiz,
I recognise in what areas being that trait might be good,
and other areas where it's sabotaging my life.
- I'm really excited, so I've never heard of this before,
learned about it a couple hours ago
and I'm going to take the quiz.
- I'm really excited for this.
I actually think I should be...
I want to guess yours.
- Oh, okay.
- Yes.
- Yeah, let's do that.
You guess mine.
The Big Five Personality Test.
Oh, it only takes 10 minutes.
"I have a kind word for everyone."
Not some people.
- I can't imagine you saying something mean to anybody.
- I don't think I could say anything nice
about Donald Trump.
- That's fair, but that's such an extreme.
- Yeah, but...
- They did say everyone, they did.
- There's a sliding scale here as well.
- Okay, fair enough.
- "I believe in the importance of art."
I can't think of, like,
which one of those traits that refers to.
But do you know what, this is good.
I enjoy doing a personality quiz
that I don't know too much about
because then you can't skew the answers to what you want.
- That is the truth, yes.
And in this one, to the point of it,
like, there is no ideal answer to get
and there is no right or wrong.
- Mhmm.
Some of these I'm just like, expose me then.
(laughs)
- Oh, that might have changed my assessment of you.
Let me change that then.
- Ohh. (laughs)
So, what does it come out, like,
you're above average than most people here...
- It's like, about average, above average, below average.
- Right, okay.
And that's just from other people who've taken the quiz.
- Yes.
You know what's good about glancing over your shoulder is?
- Mhmm.
- Actually, I was going to say,
cause a lot of people, like,
they have a hard time committing,
so they're like constantly in the middle.
Whereas in, for you, you seem to like no or,
you're like yes or no.
- Yeah, I don't only bang neutral for, like,
two or three of them.
Like most of the time, I'm like, I do pick a side.
- I think, to your point, a very agreeable person
would be, like, in the middle a lot.
- Maybe.
- Like, yeah.
- Okay, so now its giving me words.
Write each word according to how well it describes you.
- You know what, me looking is probably
adjusting your responses.
- No, it actually isn't, to be honest.
- Cause, if one of them is, like, scumbag.
(laughs)
or like dirty.
- Humble, yeah that's so me.
- Yeah, that's so me.
- Humble.
- I'm so humble
- So, humble.
Here we go.
- Okay.
This is really good.
- Okay, I'm trying to understand what this all means,
cause its given me, like, the O.C.E.A.N thing
of each one and a percentage.
And then you're going to tell me what you are, as well.
- Yes, but...
this is as good as it could probably get, I think.
- I'm so stable.
- You're so perfect, you're so stable.
Because you're only 21% neurotic,
which you would be shocked at how many people,
like a la in the book...
- Score high on that.
- Everyone scored a high on neuroticism.
- But that might be why they were seeking your advice,
cause those are the kinds of people
you probably wanted for the book.
Okay, so my openness is 77%.
So, I'm guessing, like, closer to 100 is...
- Like, you're the most open person on the planet.
C, conscientious, 87.5%, and that's my highest one.
And then, extraversion, 85%.
- Obviously.
- And then, agreeableness 65%.
- Mmmm.
- So, I like that, though, because of what you were saying
about disagreeable people, like,
are the innovators and rock the boat a bit more.
- Yes.
- So, I feel like when it comes to relationships,
I'm agreeable,
but when it comes to maybe only work,
I'm less.
I don't know.
- No, I think it's a really good reading for that.
I am actually very disagreeable.
- Oh, are you?
- Yes and I try to work on that daily.
And then, neuroticism you're a 21.
Did it give you any...
You know what, let's read conscientiousness,
because we didn't have a great one for that.
- This is true.
Conscientiousness describes a person's ability
to exercise self-discipline and control
in order to pursue their goals.
Okay, yes.
High scorers are organised and determined
and are able to forego immediate gratification
for the sake of long term achievement.
Low scorers are impulsive and easily sidetracked.
Shall I do what feels good now or instead do what is
less fun but will pay off in the future.
Are you high conscientiousness?
- I am very high conscientiousness.
- This is why we're successful.
- Maybe not as high as you, Ms. 87%.
- 87.5
- Okay, here was my guess for you.
- Oh, okay, yeah.
Did you give percentages?
- I just said average or below average.
- Oh, okay.
- So I said you're very agreeable.
I said you're very conscientious.
I said you're very extraverted.
I had you at average open, which, not sure.
And then, I changed my answer to average emotionally stable
when you said this quiz was dragging you.
(laughs)
And then, I was like, oh, okay.
She's like putting herself as like,
I'm always nervous, I'm very jealous.
So, I had it high before but I switched it.
So, you did better than I thought.
- I'm just so great.
- What is great about this quiz though,
it should be an opportunity for you
to see where in your character you wanna work on.
- This is going to sound so not humble though, but
bitch is fine.
(laughs)
- You did check off very humble so you may wanna be...
- I didn't check off, like,
I didn't go all the way cause I knew that, like,
sometimes I'm not...
It's this part of me that I'm like,
so I know we said that this quiz isn't
about like what is necessarily good or bad
but I feel like I got great results.
(laughs)
I feel like I'm an amazing person.
(both laugh)
- The quiz said so guys, this is not me.
- I feel like I've got nothing to work on.
And I'm just gonna keep doing what I'm doing.
- Well that part...
- No.
- I mean, the keep doing what you're doing thing
is actually probably accurate.
- Yeah, maybe it's telling me I'm on the right track, so.
- You are on the right track, absolutely.
I mean you could try to get to 100%
in, maybe, neuroticism, but...
- I don't think I wanna try to do that.
- No?
Just keep a little crazy in there.
- You think?
You think I need a little bit of crazy?
- I got medium open, which is actually so true to me
because I am open for everyone else.
I'm like do you, live your best life,
but I'm the kind of person, I know what works for me.
And so, if you suggest things that are just like,
Let's try it, experiment!
I'm like, I know myself, I'm not going to like that.
- See, I feel like I'm a bit more like that.
- Yeah.
- But I don't know how I answered this.
So I came out like 77.
- But that's the thing too.
I think there's two versions of this
because there is, like, I have all the space
in the world for other people, but in myself,
I'm a bit more resistant to change
and so you might've answered it
in regard...
(coughs)
because you're an educator, so you're like,
oh no, the weirder the better, do you.
But if you want it to be me, that's a different story.
Hannah is the benchmark of humanity.
(laughs)
- No, okay, but there is a part of me that believes that too
because one of the questions on it...
- That you're the benchmark of humanity?
- No, was "You think you're better than other people?"
and I was like, "yeah."
(both laugh)
That I kind of do.
If you leave that in, you're such a g.
Such a g.
- Well, you know, you have to answer these things honestly.
- I think it's important to look at yourself, as,
unless you're not, that what's great about this quiz.
I think it's a call to action.
We were both just talking about
how we're both not into astrology.
- Yeah.
- Cause I think astrology encourages...
- That's going to be another one of these videos.
- Oh, I can't wait for that.
I think it encourages complacency,
whereas, in this quiz, like no, like you err
on the side of neuroticism...
- And you can change that.
- You can change that.
- It's like, you have these results,
but it's like, that's not permanent.
- Mhmm.
- Like you can move in either direction.
- Cause I recognise the fact, that like for me, for example,
I'm disagreeable, which I had awful time
in school with teachers and that's
because of that part of my personality
and it's like nobody wants to help
the disagreeable person
- I was the teacher's pet.
- Because they make everything harder.
Yeah, well good, look at you.
65%, just right in that nice spot.
You still have an opinion but you're willing to say,
you know what, they might know more than me.
Whereas in, I'm always like, I think I know more.
And I'm really trying to work on that.
- What do you do to work on it?
- Shut up.
- Okay.
- It's a lot of shutting up.
- Okay.
- And a lot of times, actually, I've learned that
I think I have to insert my opinion
or I have to contradict somebody,
if I'm just quiet for five more minutes,
- That thought passes.
- I'm usually pleasantly surprised.
- Yeah.
- Or I'm like, oh their way actually is fine.
Or you know what, they actually have a point,
or this restaurant really wasn't that bad.
So, it's just shutting up a lot.
- I thought I was going to come out more neurotic
because some people...
- So did I.
That's why I put you higher as neuroticism.
- People sometimes describe me as neurotic
but I think that's because of my, like,
planning and organisational nature,
which I think then,
just in the way that this quiz is laid out,
that boosted up my conscientious thing
rather than boosting up my neuroticism.
- Mhmm.
- But then maybe that's not how this quiz
defines neuroticism.
- Yeah, this is more about emotional stability.
- Yeah, because I feel like emotionally,
I'm very stable.
- That's why we would live together
and do quite well.
Dan, I'm moving in.
- This is our second home when we come to L.A.
- Oh, you're moving in with me now.
- Yeah, yeah.
You have more room.
(both laugh)
Yeah, good.
We agreed.
- Okay, yeah.
I'm going to be agreeable on this one and say yes.
Dan, move in.
- Yes.
He hates America.
He would not be agreeable.
Oh, I love trying to figure out what he is
cause he hates all, like, personality tests and stuff.
And I'm here being like, "You're an INTP
and you're a number 6" and he's like,
"it's all bullshit."
I'm like, "No!"
- It can't be all bullshit.
Some can be bullshit, but there has to be one that hit you,
which is why I love that you're doing this
because find the one that you feel speaks most to you.
But also, be wary of the that speaks to your ego.
So, if you do a quiz how Hannah did...
- This is speaking to my ego so we're going
to be wary of it.
- Right, you gotta keep looking for the one
that points out...
I was saying to you, the mind pattern one, for me,
had me in tears.
- Okay, what is that one?
- It just basically assess, like,
what your thought processes like.
And so, in the next phase of my life I'm trying
to become, like, more of a leader.
And I wanna organise spaces,
I wanna organise groups of people,
I wanna be a thought leader,
but my actual instinct is to be a sceptic.
And a sceptic is not a leader, they're a role player.
And so, when I did the mind pattern quiz,
halfway through, they tell you which one you are
and your either the executive or the sceptic.
I'm like, I'm definitely the executive.
And then, sure enough in the end, I was a sceptic
and I was like, "See, this is why your life isn't
where you want it to be" and I was in tears.
But then, I knew what to do next so it was good.
- Ohh, I wanna do this one.
Thanks for the next video idea.
- Good.
(laughs)
- I don't know the details of that, but I'm the same.
I wanna be a thought leader
and I would want to be an executive,
but I also know I'm a massive cynic.
- Mhmm.
- And I know that I'm super sceptical and judgemental.
Thank so much for introducing me to this quiz
and also just for nerding out
about personality quizzes with me in general.
It's been great.
If you want more of that kind of stuff,
but for, like, dating and your love life
definitely get your hands on Shan's book,
"The Game of Desire."
- That's right, honey.
- And, if you want to hear more about this,
I'm going to be interviewing her on my podcast,
Doing It, and I will leave that in the description,
as well, for you to listen to.
And, we did a video on Shan's channel, as well.
- That was all about Hannah's sex life
in copious amounts of details.
- Oh yeah.
- It's going to be really nice.
- It was very sharey.
Very squishy.
- Oh, squishy.
Thank you so much for watching.
Do give the video a thumbs up, if you enjoyed it
and let us know what your
Big Five O.C.E.A.N percentages are.
I'll leave the link, as well,
to the quiz so you can do it yourself.
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Bye.