This video, we're going to be talking about how to tell if your ex is flirting with you.
But first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life, where we help you get the great loving relationship
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So, your ex might be giving you some interesting behaviors let's say, and you're not really
sure if they're flirting with you or if it's maybe just force of habit, or if it may be
just you misreading signs or something like that. This happens to a lot of people actually.
I've spoken to many women over the years that have ended up on accidental dates. There's
some guy that they think is just some platonic friend and it turns out he thinks that they're
dating each other because they've spent two or three times together or something and so
he does something, makes some sort of grand romantic gesture, or even some sort of modest
romantic gesture, and she is like, "Oh my goodness, you thought we were dating." And
so it can be a little bit confusing sometimes because flirting is something different for
different sorts of people. A lot of people have different definitions of it. So let's
go ahead and get into this. The first way you can tell if your ex is flirting
with you is if they are intentionally doing something that they know that you find attractive.
So, if you complimented them once on a certain outfit and you said, "Wow, you look really
attractive in that outfit. You look really hot in that outfit." And then maybe the two
of you are getting together to meet up or something like that and you notice that they're
wearing the very attractive outfit. You could probably assume that they're doing that to
try to entice you in some way, or to try to build up some sort of romantic tension between
the two of you. Or it might be something else, some sort of thing that they do, some sort
of way that they carry themselves or something like that, that you know, that they know,
that really turns you on. And if they are going out of their way to do this, going out
of their way to put effort into it, then chances are, they're probably doing it as a way of
trying to flirt with you. The second way that you can know that your
ex is trying to flirt with you as if they seem to follow up attractive things like what
we're talking about and then waiting to gauge your response. So maybe they are doing something
that you might think is attractive, that they know that you think is attractive, that they
know turns you on in some way, and they do it, right? And then they're just sort of like
waiting a little bit to kind of see how you respond to it. There's kind of that gap in
there. Usually when we recommend that people flirt, we recommend that you do it sort of
like really smooth and there's not this like, "Hey, I just did something, are you going
to respond to?" Kind of weird moment, but let's just say not everyone is as smooth as
that. And some people think that a flirtatious move or something is some sort of, I don't
know, hadouken or something like that, that then you have to wait and see how the other
person is going to respond to it. And obviously I don't recommend that you do
that, but there are people out there that unfortunately do not follow my advice, because
they don't know that this channel exists or whatever. And by the way, hit that thumbs
up button. You can help tell them that this channel exists. But they might do the hadouken
move and they might be waiting for you to respond in some way and just sort of gauging
your response. And that kind of lets you know that, okay, they were doing something to get
a response out of me. And if the thing that they were doing is something that was something
that you find attractive and they know you find attractive, then chances are, that is
some sort of flirtatious move. The third way that you can tell if your ex
is trying to flirt with you is if they start to put extra effort into their look, when
they know that they're going to see you or interact with you. Kind of touched on this
already, but if they know that they're going to be meeting up with you, because maybe the
two of you have arranged to do so, or maybe you're going to some sort of social gathering
or something like that and they know that you're going to be there, if they seem to
be dressed to kill, dressed to the nines, dressed in tip top style, or whatever term
you may want to use, then you know that they're probably trying to elicit that, "Hey, I'm
attracted to you," response from you. Okay? And that just shows that they're putting extra
effort into their appearance, extra effort into their look, all of that stuff. And this
goes probably mostly for women, but men can also do this too. Especially if you've complimented
him on like, "Oh, I've always loved the way that you look in that," whatever shirt or
something like that. If you tell a guy that he looks hot in a certain
piece of clothing, or a certain outfit, or with his hair a certain way or something like
that, you can bet he's probably not going to forget that. And you can bet if he is interested
in you, he will probably be sure to sport that look very frequently. Before we go on,
I want to let you know that we do have our video playlist on connecting emotionally with
your ex through things that we call advanced relational skills. You can find that video
playlist up there in the corner. I'll go ahead and put a video card for that.
If you are new to all of this stuff, if you're new to this channel, because maybe one of
your friends hit that thumbs up button. You might want to go ahead and check out that
video playlist. It covers a lot of really interesting stuff about advanced relational
skills. This is kind of the cornerstone that a lot of our methodology is built on and it
helps people to really connect a lot with their ex and with their partner. So check
that out. Another way that you can tell if your ex is
flirting with you is if they go out of their way to make physical contact with you. They're
making a point and maybe they touch you on the shoulder, or maybe even do something a
little bit more like maybe even kiss you on the cheek, or maybe do something a little
bit more overt, like kiss you on the lips, or hold hands, or do something along those
lines. Obviously, you can take this to its logical extreme or logical conclusion, but
I want to keep these videos more or less family-friendly so you can fill in the blanks yourself, but
obviously physical contact is something that people do when they want to express their
romantic interest. There are all sorts of reasons for this. Some
people are intentionally doing this, because maybe they've studied things like pickup before
and they know about what they call in the pickup world, kino, kinesthetic means touching,
or maybe they're just unintentionally doing this because they're just trying to be close
to you, trying to make that physical contact because they want to be near a warm body,
especially someone that they're attracted to. And so that definitely can fall within
the realm of flirting, even if it's just something as simple as touching someone's shoulder when
you're making a point, putting your hand on your back, or something more overt, like kissing,
holding hands, something else, and so on and so forth.
And another way that you can tell if your ex is flirting with you is if they do things
that, let's see how to explain it as simply. Okay, so if you could imagine, so you and
your ex you're broken up, but if you could imagine that you were in a new relationship
with someone else and that they were in a relationship with someone else, two hypothetical
new partners, right? Would these hypothetical new partners feel uncomfortable by the way
that you and your ex are interacting? By the way that the two of you are talking, or texting,
or meeting up with one another, or talking with one another, or making physical contact
with one another or something like that. If you could imagine that a hypothetical other
partner, either of yours or of your exes would feel uncomfortable by that, then there is
probably a reasonable chance that your ex and you are flirting with one another. Maybe
not as overtly as like, "Hey, baby," but at least there's something going on beneath the
surface. There's some tangible sense of attraction that is going on beneath the surface there.
That is definitely something that you should probably start paying attention to.
So anyway, hope that's helped you out. Once again, this has been the Five Ways You Can
Tell Your Ex is Flirting With You. If you like what we're doing here, if I have not
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more about that Ex Solution program course, there is a link for it in the description
box down below. And if you like what we are doing here, you may also want to check out
that playlist on the advanced relational skills. You can find that right over here, or you
might want to check out this video over here, but once again, my name is Clay. Thank you
so much for watching this video and I will talk to you next time. Take care.