recently everyone around me started to read this book atomic habits and i don't want to be left
behind so i carefully read through every single line of the book i read this book also because
i just wanted to become a better person but better i mean get up earlier snooze less cook
more stress eat less exercise more drive less learn more instagram less basically create more
consume less so today i'd like to share with you my biggest takeaways from the book atomic habits
including some details you might miss even if you've already read the book before we talk
about habits we need to talk about success and success is not a finish line success it's a system
in today's world we quantify every single thing that we can the grades you earn in school the
salary you earn at work the likes you get on social media but real success cannot be
really measured by numbers or any metrics it is more like a system that we adapted to the foster
continuous improvement no matter what the current number shows with this mindset that success is
more like a system rather like a finish line we can now talk about how to develop some healthy
and good habits that make us more successful now when it comes to habits this book talks
about the thing that makes keeping good habits so difficult is that it has delayed gratification
but as human beings we always want things that are fast and fun this property is like programmed into
our genes all the way back to ancient time however we have brains from our ancestors but temptations
they never had to face that's why we cannot resist from scrolling through social media or
benign watching netflix in comparison good habits have delayed gratification you don't get fast and
fun when starting an online course you don't get fast and fun when applying to jobs you don't get
fast and fun with running a marathon what you get is first a valley of disappointment followed by
what people call an overnight success you ask one person for feedback every single day for a hundred
days to improve the business idea that you have this process makes you have so much self-doubt
and you don't see much immediate return and one day you get 1 million investment from the vc
you filmed edited published one video per week for a year but didn't even reach 100 subscribers
on youtube until one day one of your video blew up and you got a thousand subscribers in a day
to develop a good habit we need to understand that as human beings we are always intended
to do things that are fast and fun but good habit comes with that valley of disappointment
this valley is worth the climb because whatever come after is something much better than just fast
and fun so how to push ourselves through that valley of disappointment here's what i learned
screw motivation and think about identity quoting from this book the only reason that you are stuck
with a habit is because of your identity for example if we want to get up early every day
the biggest thing that we need to do is to trick our mind and believe that we are morning people
we're not procrastinators we're the type of people that get up early finish things before everyone
even start working without believing that we are that type of people our mind will not help us
when it comes to subconscious choices and if we believe in that identity so hard this mindset
will be reflected on every single actions that we take either consciously or subconsciously second
screw the self-doubt about your self-control you don't lack self-control however we need to think
about whether the habit we're trying to keep is aligned with our strength and personality
this book says that a habit wouldn't stick to you if it doesn't feel easy to you so don't choose
a habit just because you see everyone else is doing it someone else says it is so cool and good
just because somebody else is doing it or somebody else think it's good doesn't mean it's a good
fit for you habits are easier to perform and more satisfying to stick with when they align with our
natural inclinations and abilities this is also super relevant to whether we can become you know
successful in a field the secret is to choose the right game to play i used to think that i
lack self-control to to run every single day like my other friends it turns out that i didn't really
consider what is my strength and what kind of exercise do i like to do i always think that i'm
a dancer i'm not a runner so all it took for me is to change this running habit that i tried to keep
to a dancing habit and now i can exercise every day without even feeling that i'm trying hard to
exercise so we need to try to align our habit with our strength and personality
another thing that helps to get through this value of disappointment is clarity we often
procrastinate on you know getting started with trying out a habit because we don't know exactly
when and where to do what thing we wait for a perfect timing and perfect location or we wait
for when I'm ready or when this idea comes to me there's no such thing as a perfect timing quoting
from this book many people spend the entire life waiting for the time to be right to start making
an improvement that's why we need to bring clarity to this game we need to tell our brain when and
where to do what thing and start small don't need to be perfect the importance is to take an action
we don't need to find a perfect way to lose weight what we need to do is to start losing weight
and obviously i don't have to and there's a difference between being in motion versus
taking an action being in motion is about planning and strategizing or learning
it is good however no results will shown if you don't take an action an action can lead to a
result instead of watching all the youtube videos about how to lose weight we can start by deleting
our food delivery app hide the junk food into a cabinet do one set of exercise and that's all
about clarity setting when and where to do what thing and start small but start taking an action
environment design can be super helpful for forming good habits
i used to think that self-discipline is the secret to success and i don't have such a thing
it turns out that what we call discipline people are simply people who are good at
putting themselves into an environment that doesn't require self-discipline disciplined
people will still eat that bag of junk food if it is placed in front of them however disciplined
people will probably hide their junk foods into a cabinet instead of placing it out there it's
the same for any habit if we surround ourselves by the positive cues of the habit or people who
already developed that habit then it will be super easy and natural for us to develop the same habit
in ancient china we have this thing called feng shui and people pay so much for feng-shuiers
to rearrange the furniture of their home to place the special bamboo at a special corner
and that brings them luck and that's a super obvious example of environment design if your
desk is next to your bed it's very likely for you to go back to bed when you are not supposed to
all you need to do is to change the location of your bed and the desk to face your desk to the
window and you don't see your bed that often so if we want to start a certain habit we can start
by redesigning the environment around us and surround ourselves with the cues of that habit
here's a short summary good habits always come with a valley of disappointment but this value
is worth the climb to develop a good habit we first need to re-identify our identity we need
to design the habit so that it aligns with our strength and personality we need to bring clarity
to our plan and start taking small actions we can also redesign our environment to make positive
cues more obvious and negative cues disappear and what i said in this video is just a small
small small part of this book so if you want to read this book i put the link in the description
and you can check that out finally if you like my video don't forget to like comment and subscribe
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