welcome back and in today's video we're gonna be looking at the sexual
misconduct allegations of Garrett borns these house allegations are very
difficult for all parties involved and I want to be as respectful as I can and
Dylan was such a sensitive topic now from my count they're specifically non
separate claims of misconduct from Garrett Barnes not including the claims
about members of his band it's important for everyone to know that these
allegations are not proven in a court of law however someone reached out to me
and asked if I could please raise awareness for this and my purpose is to
discourage any further misconduct if allegations hold true if you need to
vent join the discord server we have friends ready to listen let's start off
with claim one this is from a young woman named Mia on Twitter she says I
didn't get the courage to share this please understand where I'm coming from
please be safe and always trust your gut I'm so sorry to anyone I'm going to
disappoint or anyone I've straight-up lied to for the past three years to keep
this a secret I'm sorry I've acted like I never knew anything and I'm tired of
acting like everything is okay please understand where I'm coming from and I
know that I never meant or wanted to intentionally lie I don't want the
attention but I only want to use my experience to help out other people to
be safe since 2015 Garrett Barnes aka borns has been a manipulator horrible
friend and user I met him at a concert by myself at a time I didn't have a best
friend or someone close to talk to about the small things we exchanged numbers
and just talked about music traveling living in LA Grand Rapids Chicago how he
wanted me to visit him in LA etc he became someone I could finally talk to
about the little things at this point if friendship was building and I secretly
and slowly started becoming attracted to him without knowing it because I thought
it was something that would freak him out months of just texting go by and he
guest listed me to his Chicago show I was 19 years old at the time during the
show we're making eye contact numerous times and I'm getting flirtatious vibes
but I'm just thinking this is how he performs and after the show he was still
busy I let him
talk to his fans first after that I tried to pull him aside and right when I
did his manager told him he had to leave I texted him as soon as possible to say
thanks for the guest list spot and a great show
instantly he says no problem invited me to his hotel room my gut told me it
wasn't a good idea so I told him I'm already on my way home but next time
we'll have to hang out next time was a month later and right before he texted
me to send pics and to add him on snapchat so if you're young woman and
you're you're talking to a guy and he repeatedly asked you to come over and
hang out and to send pictures that's a red flag be very cautious of this type
of behavior so I would actually send memes as the pics just to throw hints
that I like him but I don't want to be the one-night stand or
friends-with-benefits right after the next show the same thing happened except
he added let's Netflix and chill I said no but
didn't exactly make it Stern that I didn't want a sexual relationship with
him and still tried to make it as a funny situation right after the next
show the same thing happened except he added let's Netflix and chill winky face
I said no but didn't exactly make it Stern that I didn't want a sexual
relationship with him and I still tried to make it a funny situation months go
by when he ignored my messages because I said no to going to his hotel room I
felt so hurt because I started to think I had no one to talk to I only had my
family to talk about this and I was too embarrassed to in confused to say
anything so I just kept it bottled up inside and tried to brush it off his
basis at the time and I came into contact on social media and created a
good bond I was excited because yeh new friend I can talk to about music passion
with a little while had passed and then he became flirtatious by complimenting
me but in a nice way not trying to force anything or seem creepy I still thought
that was a little strange because I thought he contacted me from seeing me
with Garrett but I guess not then I saw him hanging out with Garrett on snapchat
the next day I realized he unfollowed me on social media never replied back to my
text and honestly it's like he disappeared from the face of the earth
have no idea what Garrett is said to him to have him never contact me again
months and months pass and do want to bring up something now during this time
there was other sexual misconduct allegations toward other members of his
band and I'm told about around this allegations is when a member of the band
had deleted their snapchat this could be why he disappeared from the face of the
earth but I have no idea but we'll look into it as we go months and months pass
and I kept hearing boards in public on commercials seeing in social media etc
so I decided to text Garrett and tell him how I actually missed him we started
up conversation again and once again came the syn pics text around this time
I was flying out to LA I got to LA and he sent me an address to tell me to meet
him for drinks I went for it because it's better than come to my hotel room
plus I did miss being around the person he was from when I first met him now I
do want to point out that from what she has said they have not had very many
in-person exchanges and from the exchanges that there was it doesn't seem
like they had enough time to commit through to any type of real bond I feel
like that this person was probably manipulated over a course of messages
from Garrett asking for the pictures and stuff like that but it to me it seemed
pretty obvious that he was only interested in one thing but I'm
interested in what you guys think I was expecting a bar but ended up at his
place I went with it because my uber already dropped me off and I was giving
myself the benefit of a doubt not trusting my gut it was only the two of
us while he was making drinks we are having a great conversation making it
seem like he was so interested in my life suddenly I became drunk and was
completely taken advantage of once everything happened I went to the
bathroom and started bleeding I was completely shocked from the blood and
started to get together and realize what had just happened I blamed myself for
that not because I didn't say no even though I was intoxicated once I came out
of the bathroom he tried to comfort me and acted like everything was okay and
tried to make me feel special of course I fell for it and blamed myself for
getting drunk and letting it happen we kept in touch afterwards without me
confronting him about what happened because he was so good at manipulating
now was he so good at manipulating or was he completely unaware of his actions
there's a difference in that and we really can't be sure at this point we
are both in Chicago a month later this time he said let's hang so I go to hang
out with Garrett and his friends the three of us went to a bar inside a hotel
and they managed to get me in without having to get carded we all shared
drinks inside and then we end up going back outside so they can smoke in public
in front of his friend and the hotel bellhop Garrett put his hands on an
inappropriate place on my body and kept touching me up and down I was a little
drunk at this point but still conscious of what he was doing so I just SCORM
Dawei and continued having the conversation time passed and we ended up
in his hotel room now don't put yourself in these situations learn and I think
that's why these girls are coming forward and why I'm even making this
video because our voice is one of the strongest tools that we have to prevent
others from being in dangerous situations like this
hi I'm passed and we ended up in his hotel room his friend left and Garrett
started telling me how I have good vibes he loves my outfit etc and one thing led
to another and I was filled with a little guilt even though I was a little
drunk in the moment because I actually let him talk me into using me again I
was so naive and at the time I kept telling myself that he actually meant
everything he said to me only because I didn't want to hurt myself also I'd like
to add that he did not use protection and didn't care when I said I wasn't
comfortable with that and was not on birth control at the time time passed
and I kept telling myself I could have stopped no matter what he said and it's
all my fault etc when I blamed myself I still tried
to make myself trust him because I didn't want to think he was a
manipulator or not a friend or I didn't want to think I wasted my time I was
stupid for that later on I continued to tell myself this I kept texting him and
supported him at shows as if he never did anything wrong and that's what I'm
ashamed of there is more to the story but this is as much as I'd like to share
I'm actually thankful for what happened though because it made me a
bigger person made me someone who can stand up for myself and other people I
tried to contact Garrett yesterday to tell him how I felt about everything but
he didn't reply back to my text he blocked me on snapchat because of the
inappropriate saved conversations in the chat and he never read my Instagram DM I
tried to reach out to him for him to see my point of view and hope for an apology
to anyone reading this I'm so sorry I lied to you and kept you in the dark for
so long I hope you understand why also please be safe with anyone that you
think you can trust yourself with don't think you can change someone and don't
wait for them to change don't let anyone try to manipulate you
or take advantage of you because you will find someone better and you deserve
better the purpose of this is not to tear Garrett down or intentionally hurt
him I'm trying to grow more from this and become a bigger better person this
message is to lift a heavy weight off my shoulders I've held for so long and
share a deep personal story with you in case anyone tries to hurt you as well
you can message me if you want to ving about anything I'm here for you and I
finally feel free please don't judge or hate me I hope you understand why I held
it in for so long and I'm honestly I'm still embarrassed by it but I'm still
learning to become a stronger person each day that story was very gripping
and I hate that she had to go through that it really hurts me but it's it's
something that she learned and she learned it for a purpose and the reason
was to share with you guys and anybody out there that's go through something
similar they don't have to be famous these
things happen in our day to day life you might know somebody that's going you
might be going through this right now and you take from this example and save
yourself some pain now because this is the internet we can't take anyone's word
for anything I had to find evidence if this story was actually true and I did
find I have a Google Drive here full of all evidence text messages and
screenshots between her and Garrett this includes verification of Garrett's hotel
room and actual videos of the evidence I will put that link in the
description below it really wasn't a direct reaction from Garrett at first
until he started being removed from festivals lists borns will no longer be
performing at ACL Fest this weekend Oh after they were they started getting
removed from festivals they started removing themselves from tagged pictures
Urban Outfitters actually removed blue Madonna from their floor cells as more
allegations come out they lost more sponsorships and brand deals as of
recent especially with misty voice former borns keyboard player openly
supporting the young women who came forward shortly thereafter he and
several of his band members became silent removing their accounts probably
to prevent anyone else from searching more evidence against them as it's often
advised by their lawyers here's Garrett's statement I'm both hurt and
angered over the disturbing and false allegations that have been spread over
the past few days on social media all of the relationships I have had were legal
and consensual they ended abruptly and they obviously caused hurt feelings but
for anyone to suggest anything beyond that is irresponsible Garrett this is
gonna lead us into claim 2 as the allegations become a little bit more
twisted and dark the Hamburg girl Mathilda 19 years old we started talking
on Instagram diem on the 1st of February when I wrote to him randomly he replied
the very same day I was in shock and so happy happy that he took the time to
talk to me give me attention then it just kept going for months I became like
obsessed with him his attention but he never wanted to get deep or personal
only asking for nudes that sounds very familiar if I didn't send any he ghosted
me for days he made me feel special when he talked to me when he didn't talk to
me I felt like shit he called himself my man I was his little girl he always made
time to talk to me between the concerts but it was always asking for nudes and
sexting I've never seen anything like that before to anyone but I was so
afraid to lose contact with him also so I did what he told me to do and he just
took it further and further he knew that if he ignored me I would come back
giving him what he wanted to it was always on his turn
I loved having him in my life he was still this magical mystery we kept
talking for four months then he flew me to Hamburg during his Europe tour we
spent two days together and it was very sweet he was very kind and gentle to me
I did not like the way he wanted to have sex with me made me scream for daddies
etc etc very uncomfortable then after two days we still had contact talking
the whole summer he kept asking for nudes every nude I sent I felt worse and
worse I tried to talk to him about this but he
did not care he could just ditch me off whenever I was so afraid to lose him
since I got very attached and he knew that I was just like a little puppet in
his game then he asked me for a very gross video he promised to follow my
Instagram if I sent it I didn't really care about that but still if he did
follow me it would be a proof to me that he actually meant something to me then I
was not just another one of those girls I lost all my self-respect during these
months when I sent the video he unfollowed me directly and then messaged
me laughing I was so crushed like it killed me it really sucks when someone
takes advantage of you and it's so hard when it's him you know he has like a
thousand other girls just waiting so just keep sending and doing your best to
keep him happy it's horrible I've only ever said that he was just an asshole in
the most disgusting person I've ever met and I'm gonna stick to that he never did
anything to me in real life that I did not want to but damn he took advantage
of me and then I started talking about it on my story and there's so many other
girls that he had come in contact with began to open up with me and show me
screenshots we realized he plays the same game on everyone makes them
addicted to him makes them feel special constantly asking for nudes and always
describing what he wanted to do to them sexually but when all the girls started
to talk to me I realized how messed up it really was it's very sad so sad and
then she posts some pictures of him and her on the Europe tour
so they definitely did spend time together it was definitely him
now this stuff runs very deep there are nondifferent claims I can't go over
everything in this video but I just wanted to make this video to bring
awareness to this to prevent anything else from happening but is that right
now it is allegations and I'm doing my best to stay neutral and this even
though these things take a lot of empathy out of me and it's really hard
to even talk about these types of things but I want to say that if you guys are
having any trouble you can always reach out to me in discord eum's links are
always in the description but I do care and remember that our voice is the
strongest thing that we have but as interesting as this is there's always
something to me that's right you guessed I want to know what you thinks weren't
you guys leave your creative and your interesting responses in the comment box
be always brothers and sisters I will see you in the next video I try my best
to use my platform to raise awareness for these types of things because a lot
of these things and I'm sick of it get just brushed under the rug as if they're
not that big of a deal but as long as we have a voice we can always talk about
these things and this is the most powerful tool that we have and don't
forget that I want to do more that's why I started to patreon because I want to
get to the point where I can travel and do seminars and talk to everyone and
just tell them that it's ok and that you can move on and turn your negatives into
positives but that being said I know there's ripping in for our rep and your
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