I'm gonna tell you in this video.
Okay, so Will Smith has not left Jada Pinkett
and they don't seem to be divorcing any time soon.
But I'm going to tell you the real reasons
that I think that he will not leave her
and it's not what you guys might think.
So things have calmed down a little bit
since that massive huge slap
because he's been over in India doing some Zen.
He's been doing some yoga
and doing some meditation
and things have calmed down slightly,
but I wanted to do a little bit more.
I did do a whole video on why
I think that he should divorce her now
and you guys can check out that video if you'd like,
but I wanted to do a little bit more of a deep dive on it
because I have some more thoughts on it
and it's not what you guys think.
Now, will has talked very, very publicly in the past
about his thoughts on marriage
and his whole idea on
till death do you part and basically that he's in it to death.
I mean, he's either going to stay married
or he's going to die and that’s some really great quotes on marriage
and basically that it's a vow
and people give up too quickly
and you don't vowed, eat cheesecake,
you know, you vow to do things that are really really hard
and I get that and I think that that's really true in a lot of ways
and I can tell you as a divorce attorney,
I have seen people give up I think maybe too early
and not even just as a divorce attorney,
but it's somebody who's been married for 22 years.
You do have to work hard at it
and you do have to show up and you
do have to work through the hard things.
That's definitely true.
But when you are married to somebody who is toxic,
when you were married to
somebody who does not have your best interests at heart.
When you are married to somebody who is clearly
a narcissist, that is different story.
Now, some people have said,
he's a narcissist too.
It be definitely true.
But I'm telling you that
when you look at the signs of who Jada Pinkett Smith is
and what has gone on in the history of their relationship.
I think the signs definitely point to the fact
that she has clearly not put him first,
and all you have to do is listen to the things
that she has said over the years
and the way that she has conducted herself
in this relationship and even now after the slap
and what she has done in the kinds of things that she has done.
If that does not go into
why I think the he won't divorce her.
A lot of people think,
oh, it's because he doesn't want to give up half of the money.
I don't know that that's necessarily the case
and here's why I'm going to say that,
I don't think that's why.
Because if you listen to the way he has
spoken over the years very very publicly.
He's actually talked about his ideas on the Law of Attraction
and his ideas on the way thoughts become things
and he's talked about The Alchemist
and how he very much believes that you can create your thoughts
and how you can create whatever you want.
So I don't believe that he
doesn't think that even if he handed over
half of whatever he makes or half of whatever he's made to her.
He doesn't think that he could go out and do it again
and by the way, clearly she's been a B Level movie star
at best and that's being generous.
Had she not been married to him,
we would barely barely know her name.
Let's just be honest here.
She wouldn't even have her read tabletalk or any of that stuff
if she had not been married to him.
She wouldn't even be continuing to be relevant
If she weren't married to him.
He is clearly the what who has the name, the talent and all of that.
So yes, this is all been a difficult situation for him.
But, you know, I'm not unconvinced
that he wouldn't be able to go out and do something else
even if you gave her half the money,
he probably would still have
plenty enough to live on for the rest of his life.
Anyway, so whatever about,
I don't think it's the money that
you know, would stop him from divorcing her.
Hmm. No.
Somebody said secrets
which you go around and tell the secrets.
Well, maybe because you know
how it is to divorce a narcissist, right?
I mean she would make his life a living hell.
That could definitely be a deterrent.
Potentially that could be it.
I don't think that's it either.
I don't.
I think the real reason is that he's trauma bonded to her.
I honestly think that he has this bond to her,
which people develop, as a result
where you become emotionally bonded to your perpetrator,
and it happens as a result of childhood
wounds of people develop in their childhood
which he had clearly from his father
who was a perpetrator.
Talks, very, very openly about that.
He was freeze.
Remember, he said, his brother was fighting
his sister with flight.
He was freeze
as he was already this person who was
emotionally wounded when he came into this relationship,
and it allowed himself to not feel worthy in the relationship.
You know, he talks about, for example,
her relationship with Tupac.
He was very, very jealous of that.
He allowed her to sort of walk all over him with that
and you know, she constantly pushed that in his face.
how close she was to him and everything else
and you know that she was throwing that in his face
for years and years and years
and you know, how we know that because
in 2012 or something,
Willow posted something on the Internet,
some letter that said
“Dear Tupac, Please come back and make our family happy.
I know that if you came back,
you would make mommy and me really happy.
Because I know my mommy really misses you
and I wish you were here.”
All of this.
She wrote this letter to this
man and posted it on the internet
that she had never even met.
What was going on in that house?
What was she saying about Tupac?
What was Jada saying to Will
and to these children about this man that caused her daughter
to write this letter and put this on the internet.
I mean, clearly this kind of emotional abuse
was happening and remember with trauma bonding,
it also gets caused by intermittent reinforcement,
good and then bad,
love-bombing, devaluing,
love-bombing devaluating.
That's how they get you to be trauma bonded to them.
So I believe that he is trauma bonded to her.
You know, she's also gone on Red Table Talk
and so dissed him about their love life.
She's talked about how you know,
he's not necessarily good and bad and things like that.
I mean, I think even now he's over there,
he's trying to get healing in India and she flew over there.
So I don't know that he's necessarily
going to get healing that he needs
because he can't get away from her.
You know, In order for him to get a healing that he needs,
he needs to get away from her.
By the way, while he's trying to get the spiritual cleansing and he's an India,
she's posting things on her Instagram
saying things like
“life is a gift and so are you”
and she's posting pictures of herself
meaning I'm a gift.
Where is her post about saying
“Hey, I'm supporting my husband and I hope that he's healing.”
“I’m supporting anything about Chris Rock.”
She's never done anything to come out
and say anything about the situation itself.
Clearly. She's a narcissist,
but the real reason I don't think that he'll ever leave her is
because I think that he's trauma bonded to her.
I would love to know what you guys think.
Should he stay or should he go?
I would love to know what you guys think about that.
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