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I’m Brad Browning, AKA Breakup Brad, and you’re tuned in to the #1 breakup advice
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This time, I’m going to answer a question that I’m asked regularly… is it TOO LATE
to win back your ex?
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OK, now… is it too late to get your ex back?
The answer to that question, as you can probably imagine, is “it depends”.
Let’s start with the hard truth of the matter: time is definitely a factor when it comes
to your chances of reversing a breakup and getting a second chance with your ex.
Typically, with a few exceptions that I’ll be discussing later in this video, the longer
it’s been since your breakup, the more challenging it’s going to be to win back your ex.
That being said, just because it’s been many months -- or even years -- since you
broke up, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve got no chance of getting them
back.
In fact, just last week I helped one of my coaching clients re-unite with their ex after
more than 6 years apart… so, believe me, it’s absolutely possible in some cases to
get back together after years.
Unfortunately, though, there’s really no question that time is not your friend in this
situation… and if it’s been a year or more since you broke up, there’s a good
chance you’ll need to start thinking about moving on and letting go of your ex.
Here are a few of the factors that influence whether it’ll still be possible to get back
together…
#1 – If your breakup involved mental or physical abuse, it’s probably time to move
on.
If your relationship ended severely, where abuse of any kind was involved -- or if one
partner suffered from extreme mental instability -- the chances of rekindling a successful
relationship is close to zero.
In addition, if your relationship with your ex was this toxic, then I would never suggest
reviving a relationship that should have never started in the first place.
I mean… even though I specialize in helping people get back together with their ex, there
are situations where I do suggest my clients to move onwards and upwards.
And in cases where abuse is involved, or things are extremely hostile between you and your
ex, my recommendation is almost always to give up on this person and move on to someone
you’re more compatible with.
#2 -- If there were multiple cases of cheating or infidelity that led to the breakup, it’s
often unwise to even try to get back together..
If you were the victim of being cheated on multiple times, or if you were the one that
was doing the cheating, then the chances of you getting back together with your ex (and
have a healthy relationship) are very slim.
This shouldn’t really be surprising, I don’t think.
Even in the unlikely event that you are able to get your ex back, don’t expect the relationship
to last long.
I have coached couples battling through affairs or spates of infidelity and it is possible
to completely salvage a toxic relationship like this, but these instances are rare and
I often encourage my clients to simply move on.
#3 -- If your ex is in a new, serious, long-term relationship… chances of getting them back
are slim.
A few weeks ago, I was coaching a really nice guy who we’ll call “John”...
John had been trying to get his ex back for a little over two years.
His ex girlfriend had moved on and found another guy, and they had just recently gotten engaged.
Needless to say, John’s situation was dire and he was facing a huge uphill battle.
When John signed up for my coaching program, he had told me he was willing to do anything
to stop his ex from getting married to this new person… including begging his ex to
come back, and promising her that things would be different this time around if she agreed
to give their relationship another shot.
Unfortunately, this was one of those situations where I had to be honest and do the right
thing by dissuading John from continuing to pursue his now-engaged ex girlfriend.
Thankfully, I was able to convince John NOT to contact his ex and break up their marriage...
and, eventually, I helped him emotionally recover from the breakup and begin working
on moving on to someone new.
In fact, John’s story ended really well, and I was able to help him meet someone new
and give up on his ex.
Last I heard, they were still happily together, and John is now doing well.
The moral of the story?
Well, if it’s been many months or years since breaking up, and your ex is now in a
serious relationship with someone new….
Odds are slim that you’ll ever be able to get this person back, and it’s probably
time to move on.
And if your ex has re-married already, you need to accept that they’re gone for good,
as difficult as that may be to hear.
If you want my personal help navigating through your difficult breakup, or need a second opinion
about whether you still have a realistic shot at getting back together, please sign up for
my 1-on-1 perosnal coaching service right now by visiting BreakupBrad.com/Coaching.
I’d love to work with you and help you figure out the best strategy moving forward, and
I promise my coaching program is a lot more affordable than you might think.
Again, check out BreakupBrad.com/Coaching for all the details.
And finally…
#4 -- The chances of getting a second chance with your ex are slim if you’ve already
begged, pleaded, and harassed your ex extensively.
Sometimes, I get people who sign up for my coaching program far too late… long after
they’ve made a number of critical mistakes.
This typically happens when people think that they can just “go it alone” and figure
out how to win back their ex on their own.
Unfortunately, what most people assume is the “right way” to get their ex back is
usually the exact opposite of what you should actually be doing.
Think of it this way: when your new iPhone stops working, you’re not going to try and
repair it by yourself, are you?
Of course not.
You’ll just take the phone to an expert who actually knows how to safely take it apart
and repair it properly, right?
The same thing goes for breakups and relationships… you need to know what you’re doing, or else
you’ll likely end up making major mistakes, such as begging and pleading your ex to come
back for months on end.
This type of post-breakup harassment is guaranteed to hurt your chances of ever getting them
back, especially when it’s been a year or more since the initial breakup.
If you don’t know what you’re doing, then trying to get your ex back on your own will
most certainly blow up in your face.
And if you’ve been doing this for several months, then your window of opportunity rapidly
closes.
That’s not to say it’s definitely a lost cause at this point, but these types of mistakes
are definitely going to make it less likely you’ll be able to get them back.
So, if you’re in this type of situation… or if you’re just not sure whether you’ve
still got any hope of ever getting back together with your ex… the best thing you can do
right now is to take my free quiz at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz.
The quiz takes no more than 5 minutes to complete, and will evaluate where you stand with your
ex right now.
You’ll also get some personalized recommendations on how to maximize your chances based on your
quiz answers.
So, I definitely suggest you take my quiz right now by visiting BreakupBrad.com/Quiz.
OK, folks… hopefully, at this point, you’ve got a better understanding about whether it’s
too late to get your ex back….
Be sure to leave your questions and feedback below the video in the comments if you want
my personal input on your situation.
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