- You think like women should be cooking and stuff?
- Oh no.
- Like that type of traditional?
- I'll cook for you everyday if you see what I'm saying.
That's not a problem.
Since I've been here,
I've just been kind of like swiping.
All right.
If I get a pick up line,
I just delete the message.
I'm like ugh why.
I like conversation starters like
"oh what book would you read if you're
on a desert island?"
And, if you get like a "hey sexy"
I'm like uh, he didn't even read my bio.
No.
- I believe in lust at first sight.
That's what I believe in.
I don't think you can love somebody
just by looking at them.
Unless, you're that...
Yeah.
I'm not even want to put an adjective on that.
- Your name is Ryan,
and this is your story.
You are 23 years old.
For work, you're a photographer.
You grew up in Detroit.
You have three siblings,
and you have two older and one younger.
- My name's Craig.
I'm 24.
I would say I'm an entrepreneur
like graphic design.
I have a clothing line as well as a developing label.
- Wow.
- I grew up in New Orleans.
I'm a twin, so it's like we're the youngest
out of like five.
So, I'm just a little bit older than him
by two minutes. It counts.
And, you're name is Renee.
And this is your story.
You're 22.
I would say you're like a barista/creative.
I think you grew up in New York.
I will say you have like three siblings
and you're probably the oldest.
- My name is Whitley.
I'm 24.
I'm a grad student.
- Nice.
- I grew up in Delaware,
but I feel like New York was a compliment.
- Yeah.
- So, thanks.
- No problem.
- I have four siblings, and I'm the middle child.
So, there's five of us.
- So what did you major for?
- Medical Genetics.
- Elaborate for me.
- Yeah.
- What is that?
- So, it's like the study of your genes.
And like how your genes get kind of passed down.
But you have a clothing line?
- Yes.
This is a clothing line. It's a label.
- That's dope.
If I was creative, I would.
- So, you don't create?
- Yeah, I have no creative bone in my body.
Before I moved to New Orleans,
I was in a really long term relationship.
And then that was three years,
so I've just been swiping.
I don't know anybody here,
so let's just kind of like see what's out there.
- I have not been in a long term relationship before.
I would say the longest period of time has been
roughly six months.
There's many times where I've wondered
will I actually ever find a soul mate.
I can honestly say I don't know how soul mates work,
because I don't think I've encountered one.
So, I'd rather
you know just leave it to the wind.
For your dream dinner guest would be Trey Songz.
I would say it is important for your partner
to be close with your family.
Traditional gender roles are...
I say they are required for a stable home.
You're probably an early bird,
because I feel like you have a career.
You're last meal would probably be like
curry chicken.
I don't know why I said curry chicken.
But yeah.
- So my dream dinner guest would be Michelle Obama.
- Okay.
- It is important for my partner to be close to my family.
Traditional gender roles aren't required for a stable home.
I am an early bird,
because they get the worm.
- Hey facts.
- My last meal would be
Shrimp Alfredo with cashew sauce,
so like not dairy.
- That sounds interesting.
- It's actually really good.
- Oh man.
- So, your dream dinner guest would be Jay-Z.
It just rolled off of my head.
- I feel like you're close.
- It is important for your partner to be close
with your family.
Traditional gender roles are not required
for a stable home for you.
You're a night owl,
because creativity flows at night.
Your last meal would be a medium rare filet.
I don't know.
- I would say Warren Buffet would be
my dream dinner guest.
- Okay.
- Tell me what you don't tell the internet
and everything you see what I'm saying.
- Yeah.
- I'm trying to be up there.
- I would say initially, it isn't unbearable
if you know they're close with your family and all,
only because, they have to get know them.
Traditional gender roles.
I say it is, but that's only because like
I feel as though a man should definitely provide
for the household.
A mom should definitely show
a certain type of love to the child
as far as upbringing.
- Do you think like women should be cooking and stuff?
- Oh no.
- Like that type of traditional?
- I'll cook for you everyday if you see what I'm saying.
That's not the problem.
- Would you be upset if the woman was the provider?
- I wouldn't be upset.
I appreciate people who are very goal-driven and motivated.
So, if you are making more money
doing what you're doing, and you're happy doing it.
You see what I'm saying.
You know, we can be happy together.
And, you are correct.
I'm a night owl.
My last meal would be lasagna.
That's oh god.
That's that.
- That's a lot of cheese.
- Oh man.
- Okay.
I think the only deal breaker I have
is how you view me as a woman.
So, if you think like
I'm gonna come home after 12 hours and whatever and cook
No.
I'm sorry.
I'm definitely not the stereotypical
I'm gonna cook for you
or I'm gonna do laundry
or wash your.
No.
Absolutely not.
- It's definitely important in my situation together
before I give myself to somebody
only for the simple fact that I grew up
with I guess a man taking care of the household.
So, that's what is instilled in to me.
That's why I'm making sure, I'm having my business
before I get a family.
- My mom was like a teacher.
Then she became a pastor.
And then my dad was the breadwinner.
She would cook
all the time.
That would be a big deal breaker.
Like if you view me as like a woman from the 60s
or something.
I'm just like, sorry.
Religion is needed for you for a strong moral compass.
If money didn't matter,
you would spend your life designing clothes.
One thing you love about yourself
is your ability to create.
Your deal breakers in a relationship are
not believing in your dreams.
- I like that. That was fun.
I didn't put that down,
but I definitely like that one.
Religion, I would say is not,
only because
I just have good morals.
I was raised by my Grandma.
She did instill religion.
- Oh so did you all go to church?
- Every Sunday. Every other Sunday.
- So wouldn't consider yourself religious now?
- I would say more spiritual.
I just know that there is a higher being.
It's not like a religion basis, definitely spiritual.
If money didn't matter,
I would definitely be helping a lot of people.
Whether it's mentally, physically.
Whatever helps somebody you know.
One thing I love about myself is my humor.
I can joke around all day.
And my deal breaker is not communicating.
I feel like anything could be communicated.
- You think you're a good communicator?
- Oh definitely.
I'm very straightforward
when it comes to
I guess speaking on things.
I don't like people beating me around the bush.
- Yeah like just be
- Direct. Definitely.
Whether we're gonna be together or not.
If we communicate what's bothering us
or anything like that or what's on our mind,
then there should be no problem
with our relationship at all.
I will say religion isn't needed
for a strong moral compass.
If money didn't matter,
I would say you would be exploring
like going everywhere.
- That's a good answer actually.
- One thing you love about yourself is determination
like your drive.
You have to be very determined in order to get past college.
I just know that for a fact.
And a deal breaker in a relationship,
I feel like is the person not being honest with you.
Religion is not needed for a strong moral compass.
I was pretty much the same thing like grew up.
Like my mom's a pastor and all.
But then I kinda...
- Oh so you're really
- Yeah off the beaten path there.
If money didn't matter to me,
I would spend the rest of my life lobbying
for the homeless.
One thing I love about myself is my compassion for others.
And, my deal breaker in a relationship is not
treating me equally or believing women
shouldn't have equal rights.
- When I first saw you,
I said
I would.
Your style is dope.
Clothes are different.
That's how I knew you weren't from New Orleans.
After speaking to you,
I said I would.
You're a pretty interesting person.
- Thanks.
- I feel like I would definitely
like to get to know you better.
I feel like that sums it up.
- So when I first saw you,
I said I would.
- All right.
- Yeah like initially, I was like okay
like nice style.
And then,
after meeting you,
I also said I would.
- Fine.
- I was a little nervous though
when you said something about
traditional gender roles, I was like uh that's not me.
- Trust me .
- But, then you said something about communication,
and I was like okay.
So, you seem like a blunt person,
so you wouldn't be upset
if I was very direct and honest.
- People come from different backgrounds and walks of life.
- Exactly.
And it's just like you have
to just appreciate someone for where they come from
and their experiences in life.
- When people meet people, they have to learn
to accept that person once you even love them.
It's not just .
- Initially, I hope nothing gets taken out of context,
but if it does,
that's even better for conversation.
Like when you said Renee,
I was like "Renee?"
I don't know.
What's a Renee?
It's my middle name.
- Oh really?
- I don't know why that came to my mind so.
- I'm kinda that way anyway.
I'm very like "hey let's just talk about all this
you know awkward but deep stuff"
- Sometimes opposites attract,
and at the same time you leave it open
for somebody to be different
that would really leave open for y'all
to accept each other.
- Yeah.
- It's time to go.
- Time to go.
- It was definitely nice to meet you.
- Nice meeting you.
- Let me hug down here.
- Right. I was like
I never met anybody down here that shakes hands.
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