welcome to lesson 6 of the beefriend course in our previous lesson we talked
about the three reasons why learning and paying attention to body language is so
important in today's lesson I'm gonna show you the three body language signs
you need to use in all of your future interactions these three so-called
friend signals are the three most powerful signs if used correctly will
make others like you a lot more upon meeting you and also make you seem like
a much more approachable and trustworthy person so let's get started we're gonna
start off with the one sign out of these three that you probably already know
which is the smile smiling is the most powerful friend signal and this is for a
very good reason see when we smile our brain actually releases endorphins which
are chemicals that make us feel good and what's interesting is that people who
see your smile will also release endorphins in their brains so when
you're genuinely smiling during a conversation both you and whoever you're
interacting with will feel good but we have to pay close attention to the word
genuine see the truth of the matter is there are many moments in our lives
where we force ourselves to smile during awkward conversations working retail
with mean customers and dealing with terrible bosses we often put on a fake
smile to pretend that everything is a-okay but the problem is it's pretty
easy to tell the difference between a fake smile and a genuine one if you
smile incorrectly the fake way people will think you are faking your emotions
and they will have a hard time trusting you it's gonna have the opposite effect
of what you want so it's very important that you learn how to create a genuine
smile on command correctly a genuine smile looks something like this when
someone is truly happy and they smile bags will appear under their eyes their
cheeks will raise very high and slight wrinkles called crow's feet will appear
on the edge of their eyes the best way to practice this is by paying attention
to the next time you're actually having a good time when you're actually smiling
or laughing because you feel great pay attention to how your face feels and
then practice it on your own at home in front of a mirror it takes some practice
but you'll eventually be able to pull it off and the crazy thing is when you
learn how to create a genuine smile on command you will actually feel better in
your interactions with others which makes you seem like an even more fun
person to be around second friend signal is what's called
the eyebrow flash this is when you raise and drop your eyebrows very very quickly
in fact you can practice this right now by raising and lowering your eyebrows as
fast as you can just like this if you sit down and watch people in a crowded
area you'll notice that almost all close friends who are meeting up will use it
upon seeing each other it's kind of a way of saying hello so when you use it
with a complete stranger or an acquaintance that you barely know it's
gonna make you appear a lot friendlier because it's a body language sign that
we're accustomed to seeing our friends use so how do we use the eyebrow flash
well it's best used from a distance at least a couple of feet away let's say
you see someone across the room that you'd like to talk to by using the
eyebrow flash combined with a bit of eye contact and a genuine smile you'd be
telling them hey I'm a friendly person and I like to talk to you now it's very
important to note that you have to do this correctly if you do the eyebrow
flash incorrectly you're gonna come off as a complete creep the most common
mistake that people make when using the flash is that they hold their eyebrows
up for too long just like this another common mistake is that they don't smile
if you use the eyebrow flash and just stare at someone without smiling
you're gonna come off as a potential threat so try not to do that alright so
let's move on to the final friend signal which is the head tilt now the head tilt
is a powerful friend signal because of what it implies see the arteries on the
side of our neck are some of the most important arteries in our body so when
we humans and also other mammals feel threatened we tend to tuck our neck in
in order to protect these sensitive areas when you actively tilt your head
to the side you're actually exposing one of the most vulnerable parts of your
body to the world which signals to whoever you're interacting with that you
feel extremely comfortable relaxed and at ease and remember like we mentioned
before when you do something like smile and you feel a certain way whoever
you're interacting with will also feel a little bit of that too so your feeling
of ease and comfort will transfer over to whoever you're interacting with
people are going to think wow this person is so relaxed around me that
makes me feel better even though I just met him now how
exactly do we do the head tilt well it's actually quite simple you want to make
sure that you're tilting your head just a little bit not so much anywhere from
10 to 20 degrees if you tilt your head so much
gonna look kind of weird you want to use the head tilt when you're close to
someone like when you're sitting down at a table or at the bar
it is especially powerful when someone else is talking and you're listening to
them as it will look like you are extremely focused on whatever it is that
they're saying and people love a good listener
now if you combine all three of these powerful friend signals properly then it
should look something like this
and just to give you an idea of how powerful this is let's compare it to the
same person doing none of these things can you see the difference which one
would you want to talk to more these three friends signals are extremely
important when it comes off to giving a good first impression so make sure you
practice using them in all of your future interactions if you do I
guarantee that you will see an improvement in how people receive you in
our next lesson we're gonna talk about body language signs you want to avoid
you just learned about what signals will make you become more likeable but there
are also signals out there that you need to avoid like the plague signals that
will make you unlikable so make sure you subscribe and hit that Bell icon because
you definitely don't want to miss it besides that guys stay tuned