I'm going to tell you what 10 things never,
ever, ever
to do with narcissists
by the end of this video.
Hey there. I'm Rebecca Zung
and I am an attorney.
I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert
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10 things.
Are you ready?
So, number one.
Never do this with narcissists
you better be careful.
Never do this.
Right? I mean, here's the thing.
It’s so hard because they tell you that they're the most loyal person.
They're going to tell you,
“Oh, I'm so devoted to you.”
and they come on
so strong at the beginning,
right?
They come on like,
“Ah, you're my soulmate.”
even if it's a business relationship.
That's how they come on.
You know like, “We have never been so more well-suited for each other.
I can't believe
where have you been all my life!”
But never expect loyalty because they're only loyal to themselves
because they have
no inner sense of value.
So they're always chasing
that external source of supply.
They need someone to
validate them all the time.
They need something or someone or that external source of validation
and when you're that insecure, constantly
they’re never going to be loyal. They don't think highly enough of themselves
to be loyal.
They’re not even loyal to themselves,
really
so you can’t expect them
to be loyal to you.
Okay.
Their word means nothing.
So don't expect loyalty.
Never ever do that with narcissists.
Right?
So be careful.
You know
what else you should never do with a narcissist?
Number two
Never try to
like, explain ever try to make excuses,
and justify
because they're never going to go,
“Oh, you know what?
You're right. Now,
I believe you.
Now I give in.
Now I see your side.
I wasn't going to but now I do.”
That's never gonna happen!
It's not going to go that way.
So what are you doing?
Where do you think this is going?
Come on.
You know better than that. So stop. Never. Never do that with narcissists.
and I have a whole video
by the way
on Stop Defending Yourself
and do this instead.
Check it out.
It will definitely help you.
Number three. Never do this with narcissists.
They’re not going to change.
Sit around and like
watch your toenails grow instead.
It's definitely a better use of your time. Never expect them to change.
Never do that with narcissists either.
You know what what else
you should never do with narcissists?
because they're never going to.
You're not going to take responsibility
for their actions.
They can't.
They'd rather die.
They just can't do that. They don't have enough of a sense of self to do that.
They feel like if they do that,
like they would,
you know, somehow collapse. Like literally it’s like their downfall.
It's like their undoing
if they would have to do that.
Number five.
That gives them narcissistic supply.
That's what they want.
Don't give them bait.
Don't give them ammunition.
Number six.
When you make excuses for them,
it feeds their conditioning.
I know you want to because it allows you to sort of justify your own behavior sometimes
or why you've stayed or whatever,
but don't do that.
Never.
Never do that with narcissists either.
Next thing is
Again. You get sucked down into it and now you're in it and now you're down there.
And where do you think
you're going down there?
And the only place you end up is now they end up using that against you.
And now they’d accuse you
of being the emotional one
and now they've got all kinds of ammunition they’re going to use against you and
Blah, blah, blah,
and the cycle keeps going.
It's not good. It's not good.
Remember, by the way,
that it's like being with a narcissist is like getting arrested.
Anything you do or say is going to end up being used against you.
So what are you gonna do with that?
So I want you to write right now
in the comments.
“I will stay out of the mud”.
Put that in the comments right now.
“I will stay out of the mud”
and then
That's another thing that you're not going to do with narcissists.
I will never get sucked back in
and I will not get sucked back in.
Number nine
never fall for the future lies.
Never fall for,
“I promise I will be different.”
“I promise it's
never going to be like this again.”
“I promise that from now on
it's going to be different”.
What roses,
rainbows and kittens and butterflies,
never fall for the future fake.
That's the number nine thing.
Never to do with narcissist.
Number 10.
This is from my attorney heart to you.
Don't sign something
that you don't want to see again,
or put something in writing
that you don't want to see again,
because, remember that anything you put your hand to is a potential trial exhibit.
So, don't sign something.
Don't sign a contract.
Don't send something.
Don't sign.
Don't send texts, emails,
post things on Instagram,
Facebook, anything like that
that you don't think that you ever want to see again because you will,
you will.
With a very inopportune time,
you know, cross-examination,
whatever
that you don't want to see again
because they will. They’ll make sure to use it and they're going to try,
They're going to beat you,
trigger you, use it against you
and you're not going to be happy about it.
So, never put anything in writing
that you're not going to be happy
about having to see again.
So, those are the ten things
never to do with narcissists.
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Make sure to remember that
today is a great day to
start negotiating your best life.
Remember,
today is a great day to slay.
Namaslay.
Slay all day.
You know,
you guys can do this.
Just make a choice.
Decide to decide that you can.
Mindset is everything.
You have a choice.
Decide that you can.
They don't have
power over your mind.
Your soul knows.
It's a soul decision.
Your soul knows that it needs to be free
and it can be.
Today's the day.
Picture a day
when you have power over that
narcissist and that grip is gone.
You can do it.
All right.
I'm going to see you guys in the next video.