What’s up YouTube, Breakup Brad here… and in this video, I’ll be sharing
seven proven effective tips that will help you get your ex back as quickly and easily as possible.
Some of these tactics I’ll be sharing are new, some of them are a bit devious, and all of them
can and do actually work. So, if you want a second chance with your ex… keep watching!
Proven Tip #1: Hide your emotions from your ex.
As callous as it sounds to say this… the truth is,
there’s nothing attractive about someone who is heartbroken and emotionally distraught.
The more your ex sees you struggling to deal with the breakup and the emotions that come with it,
the more you’ll confirm that they’ve made the right decision by breaking up.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t feel depressed or heartbroken… those feelings are only
natural after a breakup, and you obviously can’t completely control those emotions.
But what you can do is hide them from your ex… put on a happy face
and try your best to make it look to those around you like you’re quickly
recovering from the breakup and you’re moving on to bigger and better things.
Another benefit of keeping your emotions hidden from your ex is that it upends their
expectations -- it’s the opposite to what they’re expecting after the breakup. They expect you to be
desperate, heartbroken, emotional… they don’t expect to see you quickly get back on your feet
and start thriving again. This will make your ex question how and why you’ve gotten over the
breakup so quickly, and second-guess whether they’ve made a mistake in letting you go.
Proven Tip #2: Use “reverse psychology” on your ex.
Using reverse psychology on your ex can prove very useful. However, as with a number of the
tips I’ll share in this video, you do have to proceed with caution and make sure you’re
using this advice properly and at the right time… but if you use this tactic correctly,
it can have a very powerful effect! So for example, you could say
something to your ex along the lines of… “You know what, I think it’s good that we broke
up… I think we really needed this time apart.” Or how about something like…
“I know it sounds kinda crazy, but breaking up has been the catalyst I needed to make some
positive changes in my life… I think I’m going to see it as a good thing in the long run.”
Something subtle like this can send a very sneaky message to your ex that you’ve moved on,
and force your ex to constantly wonder why your feelings have changed so dramatically.
Sometimes, giving your ex this sense of “loss” can be enough to kick them back into gear and
force them to start chasing you again But again, I have to caution you that
you need to do this properly – if you’re unsure about your current situation, please consider
signing up for my 1-on-1 coaching program to get my personal ongoing advice. You can see
my current availability and get all the details at BreakupBrad.com/coaching. I promise it’s WAY
more affordable than you might think, so just go to BreakupBrad.com/COaching right after this
video so we can get started on improving your situation and get your ex back into your arms.
Proven Tip #3: Trust the power of No Contact.
You didn’t really think I could go an entire video without mentioning No Contact, did you?
I mean, this video is called 7 PROVEN tips to get your ex back… and there’s no strategy that’s
been tried and tested more thoroughly than the No Contact method. I’ve been teaching this technique
for over 13 years now, and it’s worked for literally tens of thousands of my past clients…
allowing many of them to get a second chance with their ex.
So, if you want to become another success story and get your ex back too… don’t underestimate the
importance and the effectiveness of a period of No Contact. You can learn more about No Contact
in many of my other past videos -- I’ll link to a couple in the description below -- but for the
sake of this video, I just want to stress how important No Contact is to changing your ex’s
mind about breaking up and getting them to give your relationship another shot.
I typically recommend around 30 days of No Contact, although that can change slightly
depending on the details of your breakup… but, even if you only apply No Contact for a
couple of weeks, it’s better than nothing and it’s almost guaranteed to improve your odds
and make your ex more likely to take you back.
If you want to know where you stand with your ex right now -- whether there’s still any chance
of getting them back -- take my free quiz at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz right after this video. It
takes 3 or 4 minutes, just fill out some simple questions and then you’ll get a score showing
how likely it is your ex will take you back. Go to BreakupBrad.com/Quiz to try it out for free.
Proven Tip #4: Use the law of pre-selection to your advantage.
I’ve talked about the concept of “pre-selection” a few times in my past videos,
but it’s an important psychological trick that often works extremely well. And by the way,
this works even if you’re single and you’re looking for a potential partner…
so in the event that you don’t want your ex back, this tip is still going to work.
In essence, the law of pre-selection states that the more a person is highly sought after by the
opposite sex, the more desirable they become to them. It’s basically a positive feedback loop.
So the more people that are attracted to you, the more others will also find you attractive… and
your ex is no exception. Maybe you’ve observed this phenomenon in your life
– maybe a bunch of your friends had a crush on this one guy or girl at your work… and even
though they might not be your type, the fact that your friends are clamouring over this one person
makes them seem a bit more appealing, right? There are a multitude of ways to showcase
pre-selection, but one of the best ways is through word of mouth. So for example… you
can think about a very chatty and “gossipy” mutual friend that you share with your ex, and ask him or
her out for coffee to catch up. Then come up with a story about how there are two girls or guys that
are just constantly chasing you and keep asking you out… but come up with an entertaining story
so that it’s totally memorable. You’re banking on the fact that this chatty friend is going to blab
to your ex about all the gossip that they just heard. And once your ex gets wind of how highly
sought after you are, they’re going to be second questioning their decision to break up with you.
Does this all sound a bit abstract and unrealistic? I get that,
but remember that this all happens on a subconscious level for your
ex -- they won’t realize that they’ve fallen for the “pre-selection” bias,
but they almost certainly will be affected by it and see you as more attractive as a result.
Proven Tip #5: Always be positive around your ex.
We already talked about the importance of hiding your emotions in tip #1 earlier… and as
you’ll recall, I said that outwardly exhibiting negative emotions and heartache is a bad idea,
especially if your ex sees it. But to take this even further, you can actually help your ex change
their perception of you as a romantic partner by just generally being an overtly positive person.
It’s no secret that humans are genetically hard-wired to prefer the company of positive
people. Those who are often bad-mouthing others, always complaining about things
or always being in a bad mood… those kind of people are just not very enjoyable to be around.
And when it comes to your ex, it’s the same story: he or she will want to be around you more
if you’re positive. If you’re upbeat, happy, and just generally friendlier and more fun.
You can obviously show your positivity and upbeat approach to life when you see your ex in person,
but I recommend just generally being a positive person overall -- in all aspects of life.
This is especially true on social media and any time you’re with mutual friends who you
share in common with your ex… make an effort to be fun, upbeat, and positive and your ex will
eventually notice and be more attracted to you and more keen on spending time with you.
Proven Tip #6: Learn to say no and refuse your ex.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to get their ex back is that they become
far too agreeable. They’ll roll over and do whatever their ex asks of them,
no matter the circumstance. On the surface, this makes sense… but in reality,
this is low “social-value” behaviour and it will only push your ex further and further away.
Instead, don’t be a pushover. Learn to say “NO” to your ex from time to time – by doing so,
you’ll show your ex that you’re independent and that you have a
backbone. People are scientifically attracted to these characteristics, so once your ex sees
that you’re sticking up for what you want, you will become a lot more attractive to him or her…
don’t be surprised if your ex begins texting you more and wanting to spend time with you more.
This doesn’t have to be complicated or difficult… it can be as simple as occasionally letting your
ex’s call go to voicemail, or declining an invite to do something because you’ve already got plans.
Just remember not to be too much of a pushover,
and have the confidence to show your self-worth and occasionally say no.
Proven Tip #7: Leverage the power of FOMO.
You all know about “FOMO” by now… it’s the “Fear of Missing Out”
that we all feel when we see some of our friends posting about something awesome
they’re doing on Instagram. You see your friends going sailing in Greece without you,
and you can’t help but wish you were there and feel like you’re missing out, right?
You can induce this sort of feeling inside your ex’s mind quite easily…
all you have to do is showcase to the world that you’re living the best life possible…
and you can do this by showing off some pictures on your Instagram, Facebook, or Snapchat. You
don’t even have to book a sailing trip to Greece, either… you can just show videos and pictures
from a fun hike you did, or a weekend camping trip you did with a few friends.
Once your ex sees how much fun you’re having, you’re going to induce a lot of subconscious
FOMO inside his or her mind… and it’ll only be a matter of time before they start messaging YOU
and asking you to hang out again to ensure they don’t miss out on whatever
other awesome stuff you have planned.
Alright, that’s 7 proven tips to help you get your ex back… maybe not all of them are going
to be appropriate or helpful for your specific situation, but I guarantee you that employing
at least a few of these tactics will increase your chances of getting them back before it’s too late.
And remember, if you want my personal help with your unique or unusual situation,
you can go to BreakupBrad.com/Coaching and sign up for my 1-on-1 ongoing coaching.
I’d love to work with you and help you maximize your odds of getting another chance with your ex.
Thanks for watching, thanks for liking and subscribing… best of luck and see you again soon!