what does it look like for that type 3 the achiever to be on their path of growth today's
video is all about that growth path also known as the growth arrow and line of integration
it's where the three goes when they're growing when they're going down a healthy path and that
path is they go towards the healthy side of a type 6 that loyalist and stay tuned because after
i teach you all about the growth path of the type 3 i'm going to be teaching you three growth tips
for the enneagram type 3. if you're new here i'm hillary i'm a certified enneagram coach i'm a
certified life coach i also run an etsy shop where i create and design enneagram stickers
and different types of things like that and i love to teach you guys the enneagram in
the easiest and simplest way possible here on this platform okay so let's dive into being a three and
what a three looks like when it's growing like i said that enneagram type three the achiever
travels down the path towards the enneagram type six the loyalist when they are doing good they're
growing and they are taking the time to take care of themselves this is where they go they utilize
the healthy tools in that healthy side of the six okay so breaking this down even further what that
would actually look like in the type three is the first thing you're going to notice in yourself
is you start to slow down and think deeper about your life you think about your relationships
what they look like what you want them to look like you really start to slow down
and just focus in on yourself and relationships another thing you're going to notice is that your
energy starts to be used in a more balanced approach that side of you that tends to
overwork until you're burnt out relaxes and you begin to allow for rest time when you need it
so one thing i've noticed is threes tend to go towards their goals and their agendas without
ever really thinking it through but when going towards that type six where do you go you go
to the head triad the five six and seven are in that head try it you start to use discernment and
more informed decision making instead of quickly and carelessly just running towards those goals
one thing to watch out for is that type 3 starts to think that everybody else's success takes away
from their own success which is not true so as that three is moving down that healthy path
towards the six they really become a true team player that wants the best for everyone
and they begin to realize that everybody's success is important and that other people's success does
not take away from their own success i really believe that true success for that type three
is when they are running their race with everybody they're taking everyone with them
they're not running it alone which leads me into a type 3 could find success in becoming a coach of
some kind a mentor in someone's life why because they really really can ignite inspiration of other
people they start to cheer them on and want to see them succeed and those roles really allow for that
truthfully threes are super hard working and when they start to use that for the greater good
it it's the healthiest thing for the three they are great leaders they are great cheerleaders and
very inspirational for people around them what do you think guys do you see this show up in
your life but all of these things that i've talked about as you're traveling down that growth path do
you see a lot of them show up and when you do see them show up you know you're traveling down the
right path the path that you're meant to go down so let's go ahead and move right along into growth
tip number one like i promised you i'm gonna share three growth tips to help you and the first growth
tip for that enneagram type three failure it's part of the process it's going to happen and i
know it's a core fear right for the type three it's a core fear failure is one of their fears
and truthfully everybody's fears happen right all nine types have different fears that motivate them
you know to go a different way and because what do we do we're running away from our
fears we're running towards our desires those are our motivation those are some of our motivations
and honestly i can totally relate with you guys right one of yours is for your failure and one
of mine is fear of conflict but let's be honest i can't go through life without ever having conflict
and and so i hope that helps you understand you're not going to be able to go through life without
ever having failure or experienced failure right it's what you do with it that matters
but the growth is when you learn to walk with it to walk through it and to learn from it
that's when failure no longer has to stay a fear the lesson that we learn through failures
can be hard right i agree with that i mean i don't like failure either but it's usually
necessary to go through to get where we want to go one thing that i think is super important for
the type three is please do not assume that failure or going through failure makes you
failure as a person because it absolutely does not it makes you better it makes you stronger
and when you're finally able to accept failure and not allow it to stop you from going after what you
want that is truly the healthiest path you could be on so don't avoid it at all cost or hide it or
feel shame about it own it use it give it away to somebody so that it can help them maybe not have
to go through that but really really take it into account of your life and use it for the greater
good failure is part of the journey and what i want you to ask yourself um as we get to the end
of this first growth tip is why is failure a bad thing really ask yourself that kind of dig into
that and i think you're going to uncover um some things and and be able to grow from that okay so
let's move along to the second growth tip which is discover who you really are apart from your image
threes tend to focus so much on that image they're creating or the success and accomplishments that
they're chasing because they help them look good right and uphold that image that they're trying to
present and i think honestly this allows the three to lose sight of who they really are what they
actually want in life and how they really want to live threes if you don't know your authentic
who what and how it's really time to dig deeper and discover this who are you what do you really
want out of life and how do you want to go about it right go deeper go past the image part go past
the part that you feel like you have to put this mask on so that people will maybe accept you or
love you or anything like that and start to ask yourself these really hard questions they are
really hard for three push through that take some time and start to ask yourself if you really do
know who you are apart from that image that you are wanting i'm here to say that you can be loved
for who you are apart from your successes your achievements your image you are seriously lovable
just how you are if you've been around here a while you know that i have a type three son
three wing four who is gonna be 21 this summer and this is a message that i try and teach them all
the time that you know apart from all of this the success everything you think you need to achieve
achievements aren't wrong success isn't wrong i think it's beautiful i think it's great that
you're hard-working i think there are such great qualities about you but don't confuse success and
achievement with love and that's the only way to get it that's the growth tip so all right i feel
like that got kind of heavy but let's go ahead and move on to growth tip number three which is
learn to identify and feel your feelings and your emotions threes you guys know i think you try and
remain super busy over schedule overwork research what you think the next best thing is or the next
thing you need in your life or anything like that right sometimes it's even hobbies it's like
um oh i think i want to be a musician now or i think i want to you know it's all these little
things all the time what's that next thing that you want to buy because a lot of threes do you
like to shop and i do like to buy things my purpose in telling you this is make sure you're
not doing these things to help you escape dealing with your emotions and dealing with your feelings
threes will do those things to run from their feelings sometimes i know it kind of sounds like
a seven right because the seven the enneagram seven um can do that a little bit and so the
the threes can do it too but it looks differently where that seven is going after adventure and
and excitement and different things the three is more like overworking overachieving okay what
can i buy just different things like that that's how it looks a little different in those two the
interesting part is the three is smack dab in the middle of the heart triad two three and fours are
in the heart triad and the three's in the middle and so those three wings the two or the four are
in the heart triad too so it's a whole lot of heart it's a whole lot of feelings and emotions
and i think it tends to overwhelm the three to where they just completely ignore them and
this causes them to have such a hard time dealing with them truthfully threes your
emotions and your feelings can be your blind spot and so that's why i wanted this to be
a growth tip i wanted to make sure you knew it make sure you're slowing down enough to look at
your own emotions look at your own feelings and ask yourself questions ask yourself in the when
you are overworking or you are like i gotta buy this or or whatever is going on in your head am i
not dealing with something that's in my heart that's what i want you to ask yourself
really observe how you relate to your own emotions just ask yourself what's going on
when you just don't have time or you are too busy and don't have room for your own emotions
all right guys so that's all i have for you know what it looks like for a three to be growing
and going towards the healthy side of the six and those three growth tips that should help you um
just you know be in a better space and understand yourself a little better i really hope this helped
you learn about yourself your own needs and if you're not a three but you are watching first
good job you guys know i love that when you guys um take a step outside yourself and
learn about the people in your life but i hope you're walking away understanding those threes
in your life better so anyways that's all i have for today um you guys know i don't ever
like to close these without letting you know that if you've gotten to this point and you go
i don't even know my enneagram type hillary well i do offer an enneagram typing session
um all that information can be found down below but it's a one-hour zoom call with me and usually
we can get down to your um type so that's all i have though for today guys until next time bye