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Now you my dear viewer watching,
you probably have goals, aspirations,
things that you wanna go after in life,
an idea of who you wanna be in the future.
And this video is gonna talk
about how your personality type,
whichever one of the 16 Myers-Briggs personalities you are.
That personality type is gonna get in your way.
I'm gonna talk about how each of the personalities
kinda get in their own way.
can kinda prevent themselves from moving forward
and achieving what they want in life.
So if you wanna figure out
how your particular personality type
may very well be causing obstacles in your path
towards the life you want, stay tuned,
I'm gonna talk all about it.
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Let's talk about the EJ types.
Now these types, I feel like tend to be very successful
just in a general stereotypical way,
especially the ESTJ and ENTJ. They just get stuff done.
I think a lot of it is,
they're good at getting a team together, assembling people,
getting them to work together toward a common goal.
ESTJ and ENTJ just good at driving a bunch of people
towards whatever end point they're trying to get to,
getting results.
They might not be happy about it, but they're getting there.
The ESFJ and ENFJ good at getting people,
the comradery of the group,
people feeling good about working together.
Might not be doing it the most efficient way
or getting results as quickly, but they're doing it.
So then why... What is the issue?
What is the obstacle with these types?
well I think what it is,
is that they are so focused on the outside world.
Specifically what all the people
around them are telling them,
that when they are moving towards these goals,
whatever they are, they are suppressing their inner voice.
Whether it is what they feel
and what's important to them with the ENTJ and ESTJ,
or what they think is the correct path to go down
for the ESFJ and ENFJ.
The problem with that, is that they might realize
as they are going down a certain path.
It's like I just did what everyone around me told me to do.
Like, I just did what I thought would get some results
and what would make people happy?
And there's really none of me in this.
It's just me kind of, yeah, sure.
It might seem to the outside world
that I am getting results, I am having some success here,
but it just doesn't mean anything to me.
And this can get these types stuck.
They're like, what am I even doing?
So the people who are EJs,
who are able to like have sustained continued success,
and really go for something
and achieve what they want in life,
are able to step back and listen to that inner voice.
To not just be totally beholden
to that outside extroverted world,
but to really tap into what they want.
What is their identity and who are they?
That's a very scary thing for EJs to be like, who am I?
What does that mean for which direction I go in the world?
The EJs don't necessarily wanna be thinking that way.
They feel like that's not right.
I have to think about what's gonna get stuff done
in the outside world.
What matters to other people.
What does everyone else think is the right path to go down.
So for all you EJs out there, start thinking about who am I?
What is my identity?
How do I really put myself and what I want
and the right path for me into what I'm doing?
And sometimes it might mean putting the brakes on.
Like not just getting started on something right away,
but really thinking about, what do I want?
On the other side of that,
we have the IP types who have the opposite problem,
where they're just too stuck on what they want,
what they feel is right, what they think is right.
That's what gets them stuck.
And the IP types, I think the stereotype is that,
they have a lot of great ideas,
but they don't necessarily get stuff done.
And a lot of it has to do with, whereas the EJs and the IJs
might get started a little too fast on stuff,
It's like, I have a great idea,
let me start working on it now,
get some results to the outside world,
The IP types are like, let me think about this a bit more.
Let me gather in a little bit more information
and just see how I'm feeling about it
or what I'm thinking about it.
And really let it marinate up there in my brain.
I hear from so many IP types
and it... A lot of the issue they have,
is like there's all this stuff I wanna do,
and I just don't do it.
I think about it a lot.
And this comes from the IPs having this big imbalance
of the the introverted inner world,
which is what they're all about.
For the ISFP and INFP, what do I feel
and what do I think is important?
For the INTP and ISTP it's like,
what do I think is logical?
And what's gonna work for me.
Getting it to work and the outside world,
or getting other people on board with it,
and making them happy about what I'm trying to do,
I don't care. Not, I'm not responsible for that.
For the ISFP and INFP,
it's like, how do I just get some results in the real world?
Even if I don't I feel like this is the greatest thing,
and even though I might...
My emotions might be getting in the way,
it's like, how do I just get something done?
Then with the INTP and ISTP,
they have a lot of brilliant ideas
about like stuff they can do,
the way they can get stuff to work,
the path they wanna go down but they might often forget.
Like it has to be a value to everyone else.
Like if you really want to accomplish things
that matter in the world, it's gotta matter not just to you,
but to everyone else around you. In general, in the world.
So for all these types, the IP types,
you gotta think less about what matters to me?
What do I think is going to work?
What interests me?
I think about getting results in the outside world.
What do other people like? what do they value?
What's gonna bring value to them?
And also what's just going to get results
in the outside world.
What is logical to everyone else
so maybe I can try a bit of that?
Even if I'm not feeling it myself
and in general, for the IP types,
It's just like doing something.
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Speaking of which, the EP types man,
they also deal with that issue
where it's like, I'd rather just go from thing to thing.
I'd rather keep seeing what's out there,
keep my options open before I really settle on a path
that I'm gonna go down.
And you could see that it's like not a good way
to go about moving towards success in life.
It is the nature of the EP types
to want to always find something new.
For the ENFP and ENTP,
it's like, how do I just find new, intuitive abstract ideas
that I like or that I think are cool?
that I find interesting?
And how do I just keep gathering those in.
And for the ESTP and ESFP it's like,
how do I find new things and new experiences that I like?
And that are interesting to me?
And the problem is they don't want to stop and stay
in one spot and just start building there.
It's especially tough for the ENTP and ENFP
because they are intuitive.
They have ...They don't like to just stop
and start building something step-by-step in the real world.
That's really tough for them.
And that's a big obstacle. You'll see them get started,
they'll put down one block, put down another block,
and they'd be like, there's something else.
That seems more interesting.
Let me go see what that's all about.
And when you're going for a goal,
you need to have a plan. Right?
And you need to be organized.
And the EPs are like, why? Why should I do that?
I feel like I'm pretty good at just going with the flow
and taking life as it comes.
Especially the ESTP and ESFP,
they're like I don't wanna like,
have to plan out the future.
Like I'm good at just going bit by bit.
The other thing is they don't wanna come up
with like a way of working smarter rather than harder.
I think the ESTP and ESFP are good at grinding it out.
Which is a good thing but they could be so much quicker
to where they wanna go,
if they could tap into some of that intuition
which is a problem for them.
Which is like, how do I kinda circumvent the real world
and doing stuff here? Plan it out a bit,
and make some leaps forward and make my work more efficient,
is a bit of a struggle for them.
So for all these EP types,
it's a matter of just learning to stop, stop for a second,
stop looking for new stuff, and just stay where you are,
and figure out a way to build right now.
And the place that you are towards your goal.
For the the ENTP and ENFP,
it's a matter of like,
okay, how do I get all my ducks in a row?
How do I get really organized willows garbage,
in the real world, that's so stupid.
But you gotta do it.
For the ESFP and ESTP,
it's about like, a bit more how do I plan about the future?
How do I find a way to work more efficiently
rather than grinding all the time?
Now we move on to the IJ types who have the problem
of being a bit too narrowly focused, a bit too restrictive.
We have the ISTJ and ISFJ,
who are like, I have a good procedure.
I'm good at doing my routine,
working bit by bit towards something.
But then the issue is like the...
When new ideas come at them,
it's like, this could actually be really good.
This is... I'm thinking outside the box
with how we can move towards this.
They're like, no, I don't wanna do that.
Meanwhile, the IMTJ and INFJ,
they're like, I've got a great plan for how to move forward,
I've figured it all out how I can just work efficiently.
I've got a system set up. It's great.
And then reality comes along.
It's like, actually, here's this new variable
that you didn't account for.
And then the INFJ and INTJ are like,
"Oh no, this is like the worst thing that's ever happened."
So these types need to be able to dip more
into the ability to kinda roll with the punches,
to go with the flow,
to take in the new changing landscape around them.
Whether it be like, the new ideas that are intuitive
that the ISTJ at ISFJ have have issues with accepting.
Or with the INFJ and INTJ just like, what's happening?
Like what are the actual things that are happening now
that we didn't account for?
And for these types,
it's like a bit of letting go of control.
That's... The issue that these types have,
is they wanna have so much control over everything,
that they become overly rigid.
And they can't adapt as quickly as some of the other types.
So what they really need to do, is to realize,
okay, as things are changing,
I can't have control over all of it.
I can have control over some things,
and then there are other things I just kinda gotta let go.
And I got of, instead of trying to work my way around them
with my little routine or my plan,
I need to just work with them as they come.
I need to explore those new options and see where,
or maybe what I didn't think about before,
or I need to take the new info that's coming in
and take that into account to do my research
to gather in more information.
The IJs hate doing that.
They don't wanna take in new information,
but doing that is very important for their success.
I mean, just talking about taking an information,
these types could be like the kind of people
who plan out all this business they're gonna make,
and they didn't like, do any research
to see if anyone else has made a business like that
and to see was it successful or not.
Those simple things that trip up the IJs
because they're not looking out there and trying to gather
in more information.
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