This video is about = "Why Overcoming Obstacles in Life is So Important." I'm going to reveal
why overcoming obstacles in life, and the adversity that you face as well is
vitally important...To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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Obstacles are problems that get in the way of our goals ideals and morals. This is commonly used to
describe hardships in life, and maybe even issues in relationships. Life is unfortunately suffering
just look at the pandemic and the devastation its caused across the globe (not just medically
but economically as well) then the recent war....life is unpredictable and uncontrollable...
We often think (thanks to living in our little bubbles, communities etc) that we have maybe a
good handle on life, and those around us... and then "Murphy's Law" comes into play and they can knock us
directly off our feet.... What is "Murphy's Law?" = anything that can go wrong, will go wrong...
In March 2020 the pandemic swept the globe... the UK fell into lockdown... everything was shut and people
were forced to self-quarantine...Around this time my dad fell sick and his health deteriorated really
fast.... it was a shocking and traumatic time (aka Murphy's Law was in full swing) an ambulance came
to take him to hospital....a few days later he was on a ventilator....a week later three life support
machines at once.... and then a week just after that he sadly passed away at the age of 62....(RIP)
Anything that could go wrong went wrong for him, and my family....I record this on the
eve of the anniversary of his passing away.... still shocked that he's no longer with us, and how grief
particularly in a lockdown was too much for us to handle. The problems also kept piling on top
of us.... it was an awful time. But as I look back on how me and my family dealt with such adversity
(in a scary isolating period) I do so with such pride. I'm not wishing adversity on anyone by the
way, but I do believe it's important for people to grow and see their full potential as human beings...
Therefore = here is how, and why overcoming obstacles in life is so important....
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As problems and obstacles pile on top of us in life and throw us off course
I can guarantee you that also unnecessary drama... might rear its ugly head...
What's a Drama Queen? = a drama queen can be applied to anyone and is typically a person
who has excessively over-the-top emotional reactions. The drama queens want to make
whatever crisis or problem ALL about themselves! They'll insist variations of the following -
"I can't cope with this... oh I'm struggling help me!!.. What am I gonna do in this situation?! Why me, why me...
why is it always me?! We're doomed, doomed!" On top of their unhelpful cries for attention and validation
also expect the drama queens to pull stunts alongside this. They may cause a real public scene,
they may do something extremely inappropriate, they may publicly humiliate themselves and everyone
around them, and they may lie manipulate and change any narrative to suit them...At the end of the day
when you are already facing such adversity... do you really need the drama from such people?
Do you really have the time, energy, emotional capacity to deal with such lunacy? ...absolutely not...
Distance yourself from drama = when my dad died the narcissists and drama queens were in full
swing... causing panic, disruption, and more misery to those who entertained them... amazingly I showed such
strength to deny them my time, energy, and attention and have still refused to do so... Two years later I
distanced myself from the drama, I stopped taking the texts and calls talking and associating with
such people. And in doing so (despite the enormous adversity my family faced) I have come out better....
stronger and more peaceful as a result! So cut the cord = this could be family... this could be friends
this could be co-workers... it could be your neighbor.... it could be anyone to overcome obstacles in life
especially something that is really difficult... you need and MUST distance yourself from drama...
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Thanks to the internet friends and close family I've been able to overcome huge obstacles
by seeking out role models and people to inspire me to be for the better. And a role model is a
person looked to by others as an example to be imitated. If you're new to my content, you may be
unaware that I suffered from a gambling addiction for 14 years... the addiction was on and off and as
I approached sobriety (eventually) I gambled the worst and the most I ever done so before...
Sometimes you need to go to rock bottom... because there's nowhere lower for you to fall...
There were many ways and reasons behind me officially quitting gambling...
but one thing that inspired me most was my younger brother! He's a very sensible honest and good man...
he never gambled and if he ever did, he'd do it once in a blue moon on a random night out...
he hardly ever drank... avoided drugs, you name it! I never had the guts to tell him about my addiction....
but I remember a week before quitting just watching him...
and how he lived his life = was on top of his job, relationship, friends etc... he wasn't like
me where gambling was incessantly on my mind, plaguing my every move, thought, action...
I remember asking him "when you wake up, what do you think about?" "Well" he said "a work day I
think about my job, if it's the weekend it's about relaxing and enjoying my time off..." I said "do you
ever think about gambling or smoking or drinking?" He said "no, why would I waste my time thinking
about things that are going to hurt me?" Unlike my brother, gambling was on my mind all the time...
I saw a sensible young man, who went about his life and something like gambling or going to the casino
never crossing his mind... I then thought to myself "if he can live his life without thinking about
gambling... so can I!" It's been an incredible three years since I gambled! I pinch myself in disbelief!
In fact just the other day, I walked straight past the particular casino I used to go to all the time
with no urge to go inside....I owe my brother the credit for being my role model to inspire me to
change... Please don't forget to Subscribe and hit the bell notification so you never miss
any of my videos! It is vitally important to stay focused when trying to overcome any obstacle...
you have in your life! This in my opinion is a huge issue when it comes to people who face adversity...
They wake up and strive for change, insist things will improve... but by the end of that
day end up in a worse position than desired...they keep making the same mistakes and insanity is
doing the same thing over and over... expecting different results. Life doesn't work like that...
obstacles are never resolved in that manner. Trust me as a former addict, and a man who experienced
trauma recently losing his Dad in a lockdown... staying focused is your best shot at redemption!
What do I mean by "staying focused?" For the sake of argument, I will use how I overcame my addiction
to gambling as an obstacle...The goal was simple = to never gamble again and give it up for good!
Easy to say, difficult to do.... But here's the plan I laid out = I read a book about gambling addiction
several times to embody the message, made a solemn vow to never gambled again, I deleted all my
accounts with online casinos and betting agencies, I removed myself from all email lists and posts
for like casinos and stuff, I banned myself from all local betting shops, and then banned
myself from more casinos, I cut ties with friends who were addicts (who insisted and gave me peer
pressure to carry on gambling) I refused to never talk about gambling again, and I shared my story
to inspire others and felt the duty to stay true to my vow! All the above took a lot of work
perseverance, guts, and focus! I would never been able to become clean and sober, and remain that way
had I not stayed focused! Focused on the fact that gambling was ruining my life and instead
said I wanted to live a good healthy happy one, not a miserable one....Please remember to
always stay incredibly focused on climbing out of your adversity, no matter what you're facing...
I know it's cliche, but simply taking one step at a time slowly and surely you will overcome your
obstacles. and the adversity to get to the other side. If you stay focused and persistent
with a positive attitude you'll look back on difficult times with pride... Never rush through
adversity = when my Dad died, I absolutely hated the grief, because it was in a lockdown and the lead
up to his death was a lot to handle.... I was advised by people who had been through similar things that
around the two-year mark things get a bit more manageable...Therefore I wanted to rush through the
grief... I hated it so much....I hated being isolated in the home my Dad got sick...I hated not being able to
go out due to lockdown... I hated not being comforted by friends and family due to the pandemic it was
pure agony, and pain for me and the family to go through.... But sadly that was the obstacle to endure
Looking back on those dark times as the two-year anniversary approaches... I can say that
grief and adversity was a process. Sure I can just snap my fingers and try it hard not to feel sad
but I'm not wired that way. Yes I can announce sobriety from gambling but there's a process
behind it... There will always be triggers, reminders, weak moments... moments where we feel very vulnerable
but if we still continue to put one foot after the other and move forward eventually and surely
we can come through to the other side! You have two choices when obstacles hit = to sink
or to swim...I choose to be a swimmer.... one stroke... one step... at a time...