a husband and wife were quarreling recently both were suffering from hurt
pride oh yes their Eagles were deflated you know the
wife was weeping had the crying jags temper tantrums both were very angry
glaring at each other both accusing each other blaming each other they had a
daughter each six and she looked at both of them and said both of you deserve a
good spanking both parents laughed the tension was
broken they had to laugh at themselves as they were silly the whole episode was
ludicrous and irrational they were enjoying hurt feelings you know this
psychic trauma robbed you of vitality wholeness beauty energy and you can't
afford hurt feelings because they robbed me of everything requires quick astray
in the worldly get old and wrinkled and sick it's very expensive medicine it
robs you of everything worthwhile Rob's your vitality enthusiasm energy good
discernment and judgment leaves you a mental and physical wreck these there
are some people who get a morbid pseudo satisfaction out of playing the martyr
role they say if you loved me you would do the sand so some say oh I will be
dead and gone and you'll be sorry for the way you treated me you're giving me
a heart attack oh you're killing me now this is
emotional blackmail they're trying to get you to do what they want you to do
certainly they're not interested in your welfare but they're selfish they're
possessive they say do what I want you to do and not the slightest bit interest
in your happiness your peace your joy do you want all your relatives and
associate to think the way you do to believe the way you do to act the way
you wish them to act to vote the same way to go to the same
well if you do you're emotionally immature
it's called infantilism you haven't grown up give you relatives your
grandfather your grandmother everybody give them their freedom permit them to
believe what they want to believe if they want to believe in a devil permit
them to believe in it let them have their peculiarities abnormalities
eccentricities and unconventional ways there's a wonderful saying and therefore
words in why o B that means mind your own business they have the right to do
what they think is right and you have the right to do what you think is right
you're here to do right think right act right and be right you're here to be a
producer you're here to contribute to the world what do you produce Romney
lp's joy abundance security you have no time for criticism condemnation or
self-pity or criticism of others because you're too busy about your own work
you're bringing forth great things your success prosperity peace and happiness
are not dependent upon what others think what others do or they don't do what
they say or they don't say what they think and what they don't think or what
they believe or what they don't believe the only thing that matters is what you
think in your heart and your heart is your subconscious meaning as you think
and feel so are you you responsible for the way you think your relatives aren't
you're responsible for your reactions your thoughts your feelings your
emotions you're the master you're the king the suggestion statements actions
of others have no power to disturb you you disturb yourself by the movement of
your own thought therefore you have the opportunity the courser bless if someone
called you a skunk do you say well now wait a minute I'm I in skunk do I smell
like one or you can say sister you can disturb me today God's peach filled your
soul and go on about your business or say you refuse to give that person power
to give you a headache and a migraine headache
disturb you emotionally or cause you to be irrational and make a fool out of
yourself which is maybe what the other person wants you too smart for that
jealousy is cruel as the grave the Song of Solomon says it's flashes
are flashes of fire jealous competition plays havoc with men a jealous person is
childish and he looks that way Jemma look at a jealous person man or woman in
business or profession or in the home life a jealous man in business is
minding and interfering with the other fellows business his thought is on the
other fellas actions when he comes home the prices in the window how he's
conducting his business and all that he doesn't seem to have any time for his
own business he's not attending to his own business he's working for the other
fellow all day long he gets no pay for it isn't that a waste of energy and
vitality and enthusiasm it certainly is you please others best when you give the
best that you have have your talents your ability your time and everything
else do you think you're blocked by the person you're jealous ah no you thought
governs you your belief governs you you receive to the other person if there's a
woman jealous of another she feels inferior she's full of fear she has a
rejection complex she's placing the other person on the pedestal and saying
you're way up there and I'm down here she's demoting herself and certainly
attracting lack and limitation and impoverishing herself along all lines
it's disastrous some time ago I received letter from a woman in Arizona in which
she said that her sister-in-law and mother-in-law disapproved of her told
her bluntly that they preferred her husband's former wife they never invited
her to their homes would always asked her husband to visit them alone
furthermore although she tried her utmost to be nice to them they
criticized her meals her home or clothing in her speech this woman said
that she felt inferior and rejected and asked me why do they do this what's
wrong with me in reply appointed out that she'd been suffering
unnecessarily and without real warrant unless she had the power to refuse and
to reject the poisonous statements of her in-laws their rudeness and their
incivility I explained further to her that she did not create her mother Laura
sister-in-law and that she was not responsible for their jealous envious
attitudes and complexes I told her to stop placing them on a pedestal and to
stop being a doormat for them a doormat is something when walks on they wiped
their feet on a tomb I added that was quite possible at her charm graciousness
kindness and wonderful character annoy them and that they probably got a
sadistic satisfaction in disturbing her I suggested that she break off all
relations with them and cease abasing herself by toadying to them I told her
that she needed an attitude of self-respect and self-esteem I gave her
the following prayer to be used three times a day where it would sink of
course into her subconscious mind
I completely surrender my in-laws to God God made them and sustains them
I radiate love peace and goodwill to them I wish for them all the blessings
of life I'm a child of the infinite the infinite loves me and cares for him he
created me sustains me with a negative thought of anger fear self-criticism
self condemnation and resentment enters into my mind
I immediately supplanted with the thought of the infinite in the midst of
me I know I have complete dominion over my thoughts and emotions I am the boss I
am the king over my conceptive realm I am a channel of the divine and now
redirect all my feelings and emotions along harmonious constructive lines I
refuse to give power to my in-laws to disturb me or any man woman or child
only God's ideas enter my mind bringing me harmony health and peace whenever I
am prone to demean or demote myself I will look boldly affirm i exalt God in
the midst of me I am one with the infinite and one with the infinite as a
majority if God be for me who can be against me
she follow the above prayer and carried out the other instructions so can you do
the same thing she said thank you for the enclosed prayer she said I phoned my
in-laws and told them not to visit us at any time except when my husband and I
issued a special invitation I also told them that I sincerely wished them well I
meant it I see now where I made my mistake and how I was actually
handicapping myself by thinking I was inferior to them the prayer has worked
wonders for me and my husband said to me the other day honey you were beaming
what happened to you I told him both of us are grateful that's the way to handle
it that's the way to cure hurt feelings because you hurt yourself
nobody has power to hurt you you hurt yourselves the movement of your own
thought your thought is the king your thought is creative is the other
person's thought creative is your thought creative does your belief about
you and God govern you or does the other person's belief governor are you going
to be hypnotized mesmerized brainwashed manipulated by your mother lor
father-in-law or don't you have a mind of your own don't you come to your own
decisions isn't there an infinite intelligence within you where guy the
counselor isn't there something within you that sustains and strengthened you
surely you don't take your instructions from your in-laws some time ago I had a
consultation with the salesman he said he was timid shy resentful looked upon
the world as harsh and cruel actually was trying to escape from taking his
rightful dominion over life he said his wife his bosses so Shia's didn't
appreciate him they criticized him he was full of hurt feelings his children
looked down upon him the cause of all this was this young man had an inner
sense of insecurity inadequacy he was down on himself he said how can I gain
the appreciation of others I gave him a biblical quotation love thy neighbor as
thyself the real meaning of this text is that your neighbor is yourself the real
self of you is the infinite intelligence within you speak thou to him free hears
and spirit and spirit can meet closer see than breathing near the hands and
feet another everyday meaning of the text is
love your neighbor as you love yourself I explained to this young man the truth
about himself and out of love and appreciate himself more along the
following lines if a man the most despised and deprecates himself he can't
live up or give a steam but will and respect to others for it is a cosmic law
of mine that man is constantly projecting his thoughts feelings and
beliefs onto others and what he sends out comes back to him if you're mean and
cruel to yourself others are going to be mean and cruel to you the self of you is
God as your higher self is the supreme intelligence surely you should exalt
that an honor it that's love that's your neighbor and love means to be loyal and
faithful give you a recognition veneration to the supreme intelligence
within you not to any created thing then your loving God which is your neighbour
the closest thing how could you love the fellow text or accept your first love
yourself man is the son of the infinite all the qualities and powers of the
infinite are within him man must love and honor the indwelling presence so
love of self is two on a recognize exalt respect and give your allegiance to the
living spirit within you supreme and omnipotent the supreme intelligence made
you created you animate senses danger it is the life principle within Europe this
has nothing to do with egoism self aggrandizement but on the contrary as
old some veneration for the divinity which shapes your ends the Bible says
that your body is a temple of the infinite but you're here to glorify the
infinite when you honor respect and love the self of you you will automatically
love esteem and honor others the salesman listened and he said I
never heard it explained that way before I can see clearly what I've been doing
I've been down on myself and I've been full of prejudices ill-will and
bitterness and what I've been sending out has reverberated back to me I have
gained a true insight into myself this sales been practiced affirming the
following truths with deep sincerity several times daily knowing that they
would sink down from his conscious to his subconscious mind and like seeds
come forth after their kind I know that I can give
only what I have from this moment I'm going to have a wholesome Reverend deep
respect for my real self which is the infinite I am an expression of the
infinite the infinite have need of me where I am otherwise they would not be
here from this moment forward I honor respect and salute the divinity in all
my associates in all people everywhere I hold the self of every person in
veneration esteem I'm one with the infinite I'm a tremendous success and I
wish for all men but I wish for myself and I am at peace
this has transformed his life he's no longer timid shy or resentful he's gonna
hit by leaps and bounds so can you learn to love your true self and then you will
learn to love and respect others what they'll see is man that to become the
must God if they'll see is God dust if they'll see is just love the self of you
which is the I am within you you're saying I am morning noon a night when
you say I am you're announcing the presence of the Living God within you
means being life awareness and conditioned consciousness