Hey, it’s Mat Boggs, and today I want to share with you three ways to have a great
first date.
Now, after coaching hundreds and hundreds of women, I’ve noticed a pattern that tends
to happen when dating, and if you’ve been going on a lot of dates, you can fall into
one of two dating traps.
The first dating traps is when you’ve been going on a lot of dates and none of them have
yielded any real connection or attraction.
And if that’s the case, then when you finally meet someone online that has the qualities
you want, they’re attractive, you talk on the phone and you connect, there can be this
level of excitement and anticipation and this, “Oh my God, let this be the one.
I’m so tired of dating.
Let him really like me, please.”
That can be the first trap.
The second trap you can fall into is if you’ve been going on a lot of dates and haven’t
had success and you see some person online and you decide to go on a date with them but
they’re not 100% aligned with everything that you want, they’re not incredibly attractive,
you talk to them on the phone and they’re nice.
There can be this sense of, “God, here I go again on another date and please just don’t
let this be a waste of time,” and you go into the date resistant.
Well, that resistance energy is actually another way to guard ourselves from disappointment
and entering a date in a sour sort of negative mood, you might be thinking that you’re
masking it.
You might put on a happy face and on the outside, you’re like, “Hey, I’m so happy to meet
you and I’m so glad to be here,” but underlying that, if you’re in a sour mood and you’re
negative about with your resistance to that date, although he might not pick up on it
on a conscious level, subconsciously, he’s going to read the vibe because that’s the
energy that you’re broadcasting.
And your vibe is actually closed off to creating anything great from that moment.
So those are very, very easy and natural states to be in when you’ve gone on a lot of dating.
That’s actually the natural human tendency, which is why so many women perpetuate their
dating process, because they fall into those two ruts and they never shift their energy
back to a state of possibility.
So I’m going to give you three tools that you can use, these three ways to help create
a great first date experience that can shift you out of negative energy or scarcity energy
into possibility and love abundance energy.
And the first secret is gratitude.
See, gratitude – and I know that you know this and I know I’m preaching to the choir
here, but just like saying that nobody can do our pushups for us – if we want to get
better and be more fit, we’ve got to the be ones to do the exercise, gratitude is that
way, too.
There is no mistaking it: gratitude puts you in connection with abundance.
Gratitude is the feeling tone that’s connected to opportunity and abundance and more of what
you want.
So as you’re going on your date, generate a state of gratitude.
What can you be grateful for in this moment, in this present moment without futurizing?
Resisting the temptation to think, “Where will this go?” and, “What will this lead
to,” but, “What can I be grateful for just in this moment with this other human
being?”
The next key, step number two, is let your mind focus on, “What can I give?”
instead of, “What can I get?”
See, most people, when they’re going into a dating situation, they focus on, “What
can I get?
Will this turn into a relationship for me?
Will this turn into an amazing partner for me?”
Now that “get” energy actually puts them into scarcity because they’re focused on
what they don’t have: “Hopefully this person can fill my life with something that
I don’t currently have.”
Giving energy helps you anchor to love abundance.
So put your mind on, “What can I give to this interaction right now?
Can I leave this person feeling more loved, more joy-filled, better about themselves than
when they first arrived on this date?”
When you choose to become a person of increase and give love to this person, love expands
in your life.
And the third key is to come from the state that he has to earn the role of being your
man.
See, the role of being your life partner, going through life with you, that is a sacred
role.
It’s an honor to be the man who would be by your side, journeying through life with
you.
And so your job, when you put yourself in this state of honoring that and not giving
it away freely, it subtly communicates just through your vibe that any man that you’re
seeing has to earn that role.
So your job on the date is not to get him to like you, but instead discover who he is
and let him demonstrate over time that he has the qualities to be your man and to fill
that role.
And when he knows he has to earn it, he’ll value it.
See, we as men, we value what we earn.
We don’t value what’s given away freely.
And so when that if your vibe, that you’re going to have an amazing man by your life
and you’re just discovering if he’s got the qualities to earn this role with you,
it speaks to the part of him that wants to earn the role and it helps to ignite the desire
and the attraction for you.
So those three states of being – gratitude, giving, and remembering that he is earning
the role of your man – those set you up for having an amazing experience for whether
or not he becomes your man, it’s great, and whether or not it’s just a one-date
experience, you will leave that date hope-filled, you will leave that date fulfilled, you will
leave that date in a greater state of love and presence, and you’re going to keep yourself
at a way of being, at a vibration, that more rapidly attracts your man into your life.
Now, it’s one thing to hear these for the first time and understand them; it’s a very
different thing to embody then when it matters as you’re heading into another date.
So to help you, to support you in that, I’ve created a great gift that you are going to
love and I’ve recorded an audio that helps remind you of these things and helps you embody
them as you’re on your way to your date so you can listen to this audio to help put
yourself in an amazing, abundant, open-hearted, loving state as you head into these dates.
There’s a link in this video.
Go ahead and click that link and you can get that audio.
It’s completely complimentary – my gift to you to help support you on your journey
of love.
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thanks so much for watching.
I appreciate it.
I’ll see you soon.