- Now when you get back into the dating scene,
you're gonna see a lot of crazy (bleep),
as if I have to tell you that.
And the way to be successful at finding love,
is to cut your losses quickly.
Look, if a relationship isn't working out,
you need to focus your emotional energy elsewhere.
You can not waste your time on the wrong guys.
So here are four types of relationships
that you'll probably experience over the next year or so
of getting back out there and dating.
Keep watching.
Hey there, Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com
where I help you create your love story.
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Now this video, I'm gonna be diving deep into
four types of relationships you'll probably experience
as you're getting out there and meeting new guys.
Now there is this amazing study that came out
called the Pathways to Commitment to Wed.
And this is basically a study that looked at
different types of relationships.
And basically what they did is they looked at
how people changed in their desire to commit to one another
and they classified couples into
these four different categories.
And every single month they would get feedback
from the participants in this study,
and really identify four commitment patterns.
The first commitment pattern is the dramatic.
And this is %34 of people from the sample.
These are the type of people that you probably dated before.
They go from up to down to crazy to normal,
and you just think, am I (bleep) crazy,
or is this person (bleep) crazy.
And these types of people have much more steep
changes in commitment than the other groups.
I mean these people spend more time apart
and had much lower opinions of the relationship,
and their friends and family were
much less supportive of their relationship.
If you've experienced a dramatic relationship in the past,
leave a comment saying, yes drama all the way.
The second type of relationship that came out of this study
is a conflict-ridden relationship.
And this is 12% of the sample.
This group includes the fighters,
the people who just love to get in arguments
over the smallest things.
And just like the dramatic group,
this group had a large number of downturns,
as you might imagine.
Now surprisingly, the changes of commitment
weren't quite as steep as in the dramatic group,
but still, the conflict-ridden group
were people that just could not get along.
And it coulda been one person who is conflict-ridden,
or both people who are conflict-ridden.
Thus creating an enormous bomb in the relationship.
Have you ever been in a conflict-ridden relationship?
Leave a comment below saying, conflict all the way.
The third type of relationship
you'll probably find yourself in,
is what is called a socially involved relationship.
And this is 19% of the sample.
Now this group experienced a very little variability
in commitment, and most importantly,
very few downturns than those in the dramatic,
and the conflict-ridden group.
Interestingly enough, when these changes
in commitment feelings did happen,
it was mostly determined by the amount of interaction
they had with their social network.
Or, the other factor is they cared a lot about
what their friends and family thought of their relationship.
If their friends and family didn't think
highly of their relationship,
then they were very unlikely to want to commit.
Pretty simple, right?
Have you ever been in a relationship like this?
Comment below saying, yes a little too social.
And finally commitment type number four,
is what is known as partner-focused.
And this was 30% of the sample.
This group, as you might imagine,
had the strongest relationships in the study,
and this really had the,
my partner is the center of my universe approach
to commitment, and experienced very little downturn.
And not surprisingly, their changes in commitment,
and how they felt about commitment,
really just hinged on how much
time they were spending together.
Have you ever been in a partner-focused relationship?
Comment below saying, yes I have.
Now you may not be surprised,
but people who are in the dramatic group,
or the conflict-ridden group,
were more than twice more likely to break up
than any of the other groups.
And for those poor souls who
didn't break up and were in those groups,
their lives are probably misery for the
rest of their lives, you don't want that.
So as you're getting out there, meeting new people,
try to fit the guys that you're meeting
into these various categories as best as possible.
It's not gonna be easy to do
in the first two to three months,
it's really as you get to know someone.
Once you get to that six month, nine month,
year long relationship, you're gonna to get a feel,
are they too dramatic?
Are they conflict-ridden?
Are they social?
Or are they partner-focused?
And most important to all of this,
take a look in the mirror.
How are you interacting in relationships?
And which category do you fall in?
Because really, if you look at
every relationship in your life,
there's one common denominator to all them,
and that is you.
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Thank you so much for watching,
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Bye bye.