The ability to be positive is one of the most useful skills you can ever have, and it's
something I've personally been improving at a lot lately, so I want to teach you guys
how to do the same.
This'll help you stay in a positive mood all the time or almost all the time, boost your
confidence and self worth, and start developing yourself and improving in ALL areas of your
life.
I'm not gonna spend a lot of time hyping it up or giving motivational quotes - these are
gonna be SPECIFIC THINGS that you can actually start DOING right now.
#1 Any time you have a problem, either (1) solve it, or (2) get over it.
Sounds simple, right?
But I can't tell you how many times I've had a problem in my life and instead of solving
it or getting over it I just sat there complaining about it and getting really stressed out.
Sound familiar?
Yeah, you've done it too, haven't you.
Of course, I'm not saying I NEVER complain about anything anymore, but I can honestly
say it's REALLY rare.
You just want to catch yourself as fast as possible.
If you have a problem, maybe your TV broke, or a girl doesn't like you, or you don't know
what to do with your life, or whatever it is - either SOLVE IT, or GET OVER IT.
Option 3 - complain about it - is only for weak-minded people.
Are you one of those people?
No?
Then stop acting like you are.
So let's say your TV breaks.
"God damn it!
Fuck Samsung!
I just bought this shit 2 months ago!
I'm gonna go on the internet and write a long ass essay complaining about it and telling
everyone how much Samsung FUCKING SUCKS!"
Yeah, you COULD do that, but stop and think ... how do you actually BENEFIT from acting
like that?
The answer is, obviously, you don't.
Solve it or get over it.
Solve it: buy a new TV, send it in for warranty, sell it on ebay as "slightly used," just watch
TV on your computer instead, realize you should probably be watching less TV anyway, or text
a girl and use it as a pickup line - "hey my TV broke and The Flash is on at 7, can
I come watch it at your house?".
Come up with a list of possible solutions, either write em down or just do it in your
head, and then pick at least one, and do it.
If you don't know which one to pick, then just pick one and try it.
That's IT!
Or, if you don't like any of those solutions, then just get over it.
Just decide that you're over it and stop stressing out, and you'll find that you forget about
it VERY QUICKLY.
Now, there are some problems that are a lot bigger than this.
Maybe you just totaled your car that you spent years saving up for.
Well, it's the same thing.
Come up with some solutions: start saving for a new car, look for a job that pays better,
start a business, ride a bike instead, carpool with a friend, learn how to time travel and
stop yourself from totaling it.
"But if I travel back in time and stop myself from totaling it, then I wouldn't have traveled
back in time in the first place because it wouldn't have been totaled, so it'll still
be totaled.
Wait what?".
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but honestly, you're either gonna need to solve
it, or get over it.
That's all you can do.
Complaining won't do anything, and it'll just keep you in a negative state of mind for longer
and longer.
#2 Get away from external validation.
This means not worrying about what other people think about you.
Stop spending your time taking selfies to post on Instagram, or coming up with clever
ways to phrase your Twitter bio, or wondering what outfit to wear to impress the random
people who will see you walking down the street.
Guess what?
Nobody fucking cares.
And if they do, they probably aren't the kinds of people that YOU should care about anyway.
If you're on social media all day, either limit yourself to 15 minutes a day, or just
delete it.
Do the stuff you want to do, and don't do the stuff you don't want to do.
Do you think ANYONE, in the history of time, has ever laid on their deathbed and thought
"damn, I really wish I had done more to impress all those random people I ran into during
my life."
Yeah, I don't think so.
If you're buying a cool new car, make sure you're ONLY buying it because you, yourself
like it.
Don't buy it because you're hoping to impress your neighbors, or the people at your gym.
Because guess what?
They'll be impressed for like 10 minutes, and then they'll go back to their lives and
not give a fuck anymore.
Living your life for other people is not only stupid but it's also completely pointless,
because nobody even cares anyway.
#3 Stop getting offended.
You're offended.
Guess what?
Nobody gives a fuck.
Stop playing the victim, and stop taking other peoples' words so seriously.
Most of the time people just talk without really thinking about what they're saying,
or they don't fully mean what they're saying and there's another motivation behind it,
like maybe they're just having a bad day.
So there's no reason to take everything so seriously.
Getting offended just shows that you're really insecure and that you care deeply about what
other people think of you, and that's a really negative mindset to have.
Also, stop worrying about what other people are doing, at all!
Just do YOU.
Worry about YOURSELF.
Do your OWN thing.
Like if you think someone's religion is stupid, who cares?
Stop wasting your time trying to explain it to them and just do your own thing instead!
You know that quote, "the best revenge is massive success"?
No it isn't!
If you CARE about getting revenge, you already failed!
The best revenge is, stop worrying about revenge, forget about that person and just DO YOU.
#4 Do things NOW.
If you want to do something, do it NOW.
Just start.
Just start doing stuff.
If you don't know how to do it, just try something.
For example if you want to start a new diet, just start it RIGHT NOW.
Don't put it off and be like "so I'm gonna announce this on Facebook and have a big celebration
and then start my new diet next Sunday!"
Fuck that.
If you want to start the diet, start it NOW.
Don't put things off.
Just do stuff.
Doing the stuff you want to do makes you feel good about yourself.
#5 Have goals, and do things that benefit them.
Having goals is one of THE MOST IMPORTANT ways to be positive.
If you don't really care about anything, then how can you be happy?
This doesn't necessarily mean things like, "I want to be a billionaire" or "I want to
have a really hot girlfriend and a six pack."
If you have to think and come up with goals, then they're not your real goals.
Think about what YOU actually WANT.
What do you want?
Once you know what you want, start working to get it.
Achieving your goals is all about your mindset.
"It's all in the mind."
It's all in the mind, nothing else matters, it doesn't matter what other people are doing
or what obstacles there are or what's happening in your life or in the environment or in politics,
it's all YOU.
You think if HERCULES has a goal, and someone is doing something to prevent it from happening,
he's just gonna be like "oh, well I guess I can't do it then!
goal failed!"
Fuck no!
He's gonna find a way to do it no matter what!
Want to know another great quote?
"If someone ever tells you you can't do something ... that person is a fucking loser."
Who CARES what other people are doing?
Who fucking cares?
Just do what YOU want to do.
Don't do what your Instagram followers or your coworkers or your society want you to
do.
Do what YOU want to do.
Having goals also gives you excitement, it gives you things to look forward to, it gives
you a purpose.
And the purpose of your life isn't what other people think it is, the purpose of your life
is whatever you decide it is.
#6 Visualize.
ANY TIME I visualize something I want, I end up getting it.
Now, that might be because I am literally a god, but don't worry, regular humans can
do it too!
All you have to do is imagine yourself doing what you want to be doing, doing the things
that lead up to what you want to be doing, and see it and feel it in detail.
The fantastical explanation for this is you put out energy into the universe and it makes
it more likely to happen.
The more down to earth explanation is it affects you on a subconscious level and makes YOU
more likely to MAKE it happen.
For example, if you visualize something negative, like getting rejected, then you'll be more
likely to doubt yourself next time you talk to a girl, which will make you appear less
attractive to her and she'll reject you.
Whichever explanation you think is more likely, is fine, the why is irrelevant, all that matters
is it happens.
So not only does it make you get the thing you want, it also puts you in a positive mood
because you're thinking about badass stuff.
#7 Improve yourself Learning new skills and evolving as a person
will seriously boost your positivity.
First, growing and maturing will allow you to see things in a better light, and to interpret
things in a way that benefits you.
You'll be able to control your thoughts and emotions better and you won't be as bothered
by things.
You can also focus on specific skills, such as problem solving, because being able to
solve problems allows you to control situations better, which will lead to you getting the
outcomes you want, and being happier.
#8 Break addictions and dependencies If you ALLOW yourself to be addicted to something,
if you CHOOSE to be addicted to it, you're constantly reinforcing to yourself that you're
not in control of yourself, that you have really poor self control and willpower, and
that you can't control your life.
These are really negative beliefs and it'll send you in a downward spiral, affecting everything
in your life.
If you can't control something as simple as whether or not you drink caffeine in the morning,
how are you gonna control something more complex?
If you constantly choose to let other things control you, you'll turn into one of those
stereotypical reality TV characters who just blunder around making fools of themselves
and saying things like "I can't do this anymore, I just can't do this, I can't, I can't!"
And I don't think I have to tell you why THAT isn't conducive to being a positive person.
#9 Hobbies Have hobbies!
This is a simple one that helps a lot.
Have fun shit in your life!
If you like playing a musical instrument, or building things, or if you really like
style or working out or reading or traveling, pursue it!
You'll always have something really fun that you can do whenever you want.
First, doing that thing will make you happy.
And second, knowing you can do that thing whenever you want, will make you happy - for
example, if you're having a stressful day at work, and you know all you're gonna do
after is go home and sit in your recliner and drink beer and do nothing, well that's
depressing.
But if you're having that same stressful day at work, and you're really excited about getting
home to practice the violin, or going to your weekly painting class, or whatever it is you're
doing - well, the stress isn't as big a deal anymore.
#10 Family and friends This is where a lot of people go wrong.
Guys are despereate to get girlfriends and girls are desperate to get boyfriends because
their lives suck and they think being in a relationship will magically make them happy.
This is a negative outlook to have because you're placing all of your happiness in someone
else's hands.
If you're really desperate to get a girlfriend, then you're gonna be less attractive to girls
in general and you're just gonna get rejected, and talking to girls will no longer be any
fun.
And then even if you get a girlfriend, you'll always be concerned about her dumping you
because you know if she does you'll just become a sad sack again, so you'll ruin the entire
experience.
You always want to build up yourself first, and then supplement your life with other positive
people.
Don't rely SOLELY on them.
But if done correctly, having family and friends can be a great way to have fun, to share thoughts
and ideas with other people, to learn from them, to try new things together, and to just
relax and have people there to help if you need it.
Just make sure that the people you choose to bring into your life are on the same level
as you.
If you choose to be around negative people who are gonna complain about stuff and start
drama and talk about really mundane bullshit that you don't care about and then invite
you to stuff you don't care about but you go to it anyway because you don't want to
disappoint them, well guess what, that's even worse than having nobody in the first place.
Be selective about the people you interact with.
#11, and this is the last one: Be healthy!
Eat a healthy diet, take supplements if they help you, exercise 30-60 minutes a day, and
get some good sleep at night.
Being healthy will boost your positivity, because, if you have no energy throughout
the day, and your brain is foggy and you can't concentrate and all that, then you're obviously
not gonna be very happy.
Having a clear mind will make you a much more positive person.
I already did a couple videos about diet and exercise so I'll have those linked on the
screen right now
So that's it!
Try these tips and then come back and leave a comment and let me know if they worked for
you.
And if you have any tips of your own, leave them in the comments below and I'll include
them in another video - I'm gonna be reading ALL the comments on this video and replying
to a bunch of them, because this is a topic I really like.
OUTRO: Comment your tips for leading a positive life below!
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