Hey everyone, I wasn't sure about coming back, but a friend of mine told me I should come
back and let everyone know what's going on, he frequents these forums.
Well, my soon to be ex-wife went to Australia to be with another man, got pregnant and wanted
to come back.
I told her no.
She still calls nonstop and texts me telling me how much she misses me, wants to be with
me, again, she reaches out to me everyday.
I told her there is no chance of that, people have wondered why I haven't blocked her, I
will block her after the divorce.
I am not going to let her control that.
If she calls me or texts, I choose to answer or not.
Fast forward a month, she is trying to move back in the house and tells me we are married,
and she has every right to be in the house.
Well, she got the police involved and said I won't let her in the house, and the cops
get there and tell me, regardless of the situation, I couldn't just kick her out because she cheated,
she is still my wife.
So, she moves back in, I try to be as cordial as possible and just keep to myself.
I work long hours, so I'm not home much, but when I am home, it's obvious that things are
just awkward and very tense.
The house isn't ours, it's a rental, so, I made the decision to just stop paying rent,
she can't afford to stay there, so, without me, she will be evicted.
A couple of weeks go by, she finds a job at a local gas station working 3 to 11, that's
when I made the decision to take my things and leave without her knowing.
I had conferred with a friend, and he said I could move in with him until I can figure
things out.
I called the landlord and told him the situation, I had a feeling he was going to be upset and
wanted thousands of dollars because I was breaking the lease.
I told him everything, her getting pregnant, she went over to be with another man, he was
very empathetic, and he confirmed what the police said, I couldn't just kick her out.
He worked out a deal with me where he would just keep my security deposit for breaking
the lease.
I was happy with that, he said, he would get me to sign an agreement and we would be okay.
So, that night, while my wife was at work, I decided to make my move, I had to make a
few trips to my friend's house, because I didn't have a truck.
It took me a few hours to move everything I wanted, I didn't care about the furniture,
most of it was given to us, so I didn't care.
At about 1:32am, my phone blows up, there are calls, text messages, you name it, I quickly
turned on DO NOT DISTURB and went back to sleep.
The next morning while I am headed to work , I get a call from my wife, screaming and
hollering at me, telling me how dare I move out and leave her there, she can't afford
the house, she is going to be homeless.
I told her it's not my problem, you made your bed, now lay in it.
She tells me she is going to call the police and have me arrested for abandonment, I told
her to go ahead, but it won't work, because I had already talked to the landlord.
She goes off on me again, screaming and hollering, then she says the magic words "I HATE YOU,
I WISH YOU WERE DEAD"
After I heard that, I just hung up the phone.
This divorce can't come fast enough.
Later that day, I called my attorney and asked him does he have any idea when the divorce
hearing is?
He told me the soonest would be in about 30-45 days, I was disappointed to hear that it would
take that long, but, all I could do was wait.
As time goes on, I start to hear less and less from my soon to be ex-wife, she isn't
calling or texting, it seems like she is giving up.
I was happy and relieved to hear that, I figured, this was a sign that maybe she is starting
to accept the situation, and get on with her life.
Then one day, my phone rings out of nowhere, it's her again coming at me about how I need
to help her with money, she is going to be evicted, she has no food, blah blah blah.
I told her the same thing I told her before, it's not my problem, you made your bed now
lay in it.
A few weeks later, a friend of mine confided in me and told me that the guy she left me
for in Australia, apparently had a wife and the wife found out about my soon to be ex-wife,
that's why she came back.
I asked him how he knew that, he said, he overheard her telling one of her friends.
Apparently, my soon to be ex-wife told her everything, how they were going to start a
new life together in Australia with their baby, and how I am just a pathetic loser.
But, his wife found out about it and he told my soon to be ex-wife to leave and don't come
back.
I thought to myself, yeah, you got exactly what you deserved.
So, the divorce hearing hasn't arrived yet, I have moved out of the house and I am just
waiting.
Thank you all for your support, when the divorce is final, I will come back to let you guys know