So, I'm going to go over in this video how to quit your job even if you're scared.
And how I delayed this decision for months. I was freaked out of my mind
quitting my job but I did it. And how it can be best decision of your life. I'm
John Crestani and I quit my job in 2012. Now, I was super scared. Let me just
put it that way. I was super scared when I first quit my job. And I would have put
it off indefinitely if something didn't happen and I'll tell you about what that
something was for me which really forced me to think about my life. Just to give
you a little bit about my story. I was paralyzed for months. You know, I had gone
into my boss and I justified all the reasons I wanted to raise. And this was
June in 2012 and I'd had everything to say to him. But I remember he had
responded with saying, "Or what?" And it was the only thing I didn't have a
response to his. You know, I didn't want to just quit. You know, I was
working a job. I wasn't... I believed in this whole ideal of people get
paid what they're worth and you move up. You do good work and you move up. And you
know or other companies hire you. And I didn't know my answer to "Or what?" Because
I wasn't about to threaten anybody with like I'm going to resign or something. But
since I've quit my job at my job as managing AdWords accounts. And I
was making $6,000 per month. In 2015, my company hit my first million.
Seven-figure a year. I made roughly a million dollars profit. Okay?
Just to give you an idea. My first 7-figure year was actually about almost
3 million. We did a 2.8 million and I did about a million dollars profit. And
last year, 2018. My company did about 5 million also. Again, about a million
dollars profit. So, just to give you an idea where I've gone from quitting my
job has been huge. And I'm so happy I did it. But the fact that I'm even
making tea right now I'm in this position and just to give you an idea,
YouTube isn't my main business. You know, YouTube... I have a lot of subscribers on
here. I have people that follow me and all that jazz. But this is not my main
business. I just kind of speak to people here because I like telling people my
story and helping influence the world. I know a lot of people are looking for
information. There's a lot of garbage out there on the internet but hope this can
give you some real insight into what it takes to quit your job. Now, let's zoom
back a second to 2012. After I decided, after my boss had been basically a d-bag
to me and said "Or what?" You know, what I did is I was paralyzed for months. I
decided I was going to quit but I didn't do anything about it. I was too scared. You
know, I was too... I didn't know what my parents would think. I didn't
know what my co-workers would think. I didn't know how I would make
enough money sustainably. I was really worried. You know, I'd wanted to work on
my own, you know? I was looking to actually be an entrepreneur. I was just
tired of the whole kind of job-corporate life. And I was also really freaked out
because I knew when I quit my job and I went to work for myself... You know,
there's a good chance that I worked for myself for a few months then I'd be
right back at a job again. That's what had happened 2 years prior. I graduated
college in 2010 and I try to be an entrepreneur, worked really hard and you
know, 8 months or something like that. 6 or 8 months later, I failed. I
couldn't I couldn't make it. And I had to get a job. And that was a huge blow to my
confidence, right? Because in my mind, I was just going to quit my job, be an
entrepreneur. So, in my mind I had already tried that path. I had already failed
myself. And now, here I was going to quit my job again to work for myself. I think I
was 23 at the time. And everybody around me told me, "John, you're making good money.
You're making 6 grand a month." Right? Most of my other friends who'd graduated
college. They weren't they weren't making 6,000 a month. Most people I knew
weren't making $6,000 a month. Most 23 year olds don't make
6,000 a month. Everybody around me was telling me I was supposed to be happy in
my situation but I knew... You know, inside of myself I knew there was so much unmet
potential that I felt I was living to. I wanted to really have a big effect
on the world. And by the way, keep in mind all during this time I'm taking on
freelance clients. I'm taking on... I'd been freelancing and I had all these clients
paying me 250, 500 dollars a month to manage their
advertising accounts. But I could never get enough people paying me to really
take over my income. It could have been I just didn't have enough time or there
weren't enough people out there. I wasn't pitching high enough. Or maybe it wasn't
that I was valuable enough. I didn't know but it all freaked me out,
right? So, it wasn't until August 2012. I went to a Tony Robbins event. And this is
not a pitch for Tony Robbins event. But this had a huge effect on my life. So,
this is just my personal experience. And I went to his event in Schaumburg
Illinois. And and by the way, for anybody looking to do anything Tony Robbins,
don't watch as YouTube, don't watch his podcast, don't read his books. Just go to
an event. That's where he shines, okay? If you do anything Tony Robbins, just go to
an event. Don't do any of the little stuff. If you can't afford the event,
don't do the little stuff. Just wait until you can afford the event. And his
venture like 500 bucks. So, I went to this event, went out there. I was staying and
like some hostel. I was like you know, scrape together some dollars. Went to it.
Super pumped. I'd heard a lot about it. There's like 10,000 people in this room,
right? It's a huge, there's a ton of people at these things. The energy is off
the hook. So, as the second day... And Tony was
speaking. And what Tony went over was he did this exercise with us called the
Dickens process. And we can kind of go over this a little bit right now. But if
you want to go through the Dickens process, I suggest you can
YouTube it or something. There's, I'm sure there's videos that go over this a
little more in depth. But what the Dickens process is is it's a guided
meditation. Where it forces you to really look inside of yourself and make hard
decisions. And that's all Tony does. What Tony really helps you do is you do a lot
of exercise. But it's all internal stuff. It's, he does
a lot of kind of guided... Basically guided meditation. And he forces you to look at
things in your life and figure out what your goals are, where
you're at, where you want to go. You know, what's happened in your past, how that
affects your present or your future. You know, all that sort of stuff. It's
internal. And... But what the Dickens process is, is he says imagine one thing.
One decision that you know you need to make in your life. But.... But... But you decide
to put it off for a year. When he starte this this guided meditation
off with that, I thought to myself, I said, "Oh, my gosh. I know exactly what decision
it is I'm putting off," Right? "I know exactly what he was talking about. I was
like, "That's me. That's me. And you know, I said I I decided to quit my job and I
haven't done it. And you know again, I was freaked out. I was scared. So, he said, "Put
it off for a year." And he says, "I want you to think about where you're at a year
from now. What are you feeling? Where are you? What's in your life? Are you closer
to your goals? Way further away? What sort of people are you surrounded by?" Now, the
next thing he does is he asked, "Okay, let's back up a second. Let's go 2
years into the future." He's like, "This decision that you know you you need to
make..." He says, "Let's say you do nothing about it." He's like, "Take yourself 2
years in the future. Where are you? How do you feel about life?
What's life like? Who are you surrounded by? What are you wearing? Who do you
interact with on a daily basis? What is in your life? What new things aren't in
your life? What smells are around you?" And he asks you to do that. You go 5 years
in the future. Delay making that decision for 5 years. 5 years. "What are your
feelings? How happy are you? What is life like? Where in the world are you? How much
closer or further away from your goals are. okay? Let's go 10 years in the
future you delay. Your job for 10 whole years. "Where are
you? What sort of people you surrounded by?" I don't know. You know, for me ,I didn't
like any my co-workers. They're just people you're forced to be around. Isn't
that funny? Where... You know, most people don't like
their co-workers isn't that a funny fact, by the way? Why are you spending most of
your life with people you don't even like being around? Who you wouldn't
actually be friends with in real life? The only reason that you're friends with
them or you hang out with them, is because you're forced to work with them,
right? So, imagine spending the next 10 years
of your life being with people that you don't actually like. But you won't
actually be friends with in real life. And he has you do that 25 years in the
future as well. What's your life going to be like? How much closer further away from
your dreams? Your goals or you... In 25 years, if you don't quit your job and you
you delay that decision for 25 years. Crazy and I went through this exercise
he goes much longer much deeper in that. And it was painful baby. It was painful.
Going through that exercise because you really have to imagine delaying that
Decision. You really have to imagine doing nothing and if you really go deep
in your brain you, have eyes closed, you're going there. You realize if you
delay making that decision, it's a big problem. I realized I was so far away. I
had given up so much of my life if I'd waited 25 years to really quit my job. It
was unbearable. It was unbearable, okay? And the second part of the exercise is
he has you imagine how life will be like in 1, 2, 5, 10, 25 years if you do make the
decision. How great life can be. You make this decision what people you're
surrounded by. You're surrounded by self intentioned, entrepreneurs, people are
moving in the same direction as you or whatever that is. The point being,
he really creates what is life like if you don't quit, what can life like be
like if you do quit your job. You've got to really think of these possibilities
and get out of fear. Now, what happened for me was after I went through this
exercise, what happened during this exercise, I actually cried. I'm not a
crying person, I'm Irish. You know, in northern Italian so I'm like very like
you know I don't show emotions. You know like emotions are bad. You know, emotions
are vulnerability and I'm not a vulnerable person because I'm a man.
Right? So, emotions are bad you know in my kind of like culture growing up. So,
you're not supposed to cry. But again, I didn't know anybody at this Tony Robbins
thing. I wasn't thinking about it because I was deep in the exercise. it spoke to
me. and where I was, I was bawling, I was sobbing because I realized you know, I
really had put myself in that place of delaying making decisions I knew I
needed to make for 25 years. and it freaked the hell out of me.
what I imagined was it life wasn't that bad, right? I you know if I delayed
quitting my job. I was, I'm a really good hard worker. I would make more money. I'd
hit that six-figure salary in a few years. it won't take me long to be
hitting 6 figures. you know I'd end up marrying somebody at my work like office
buildings around where I worked. and I would have married some cute girl or
whatever. and you know we would wait a few years to have kids because we wanted
to feel financially sound. and then we'd eventually have kids but we need to get
a mortgage. But the mortgage would put me under financial pressure to make more
money because even though I was making good money we wanted to keep up with the
Joneses and that what kind of freak me out because we
need to make more money but again we met... We're both workers so she
she would support me working and we get a little there'd be a little distance in
a relationship and I'd work harder. And she'd play more with the kids and she'd
take time off. And we'd have a mortgage and I'd have to work harder to
make the mortgage payment and whatever. And all this stuff happens and I never
would have actually accomplished any of my dreams which were to see the world. I
wanted to see Thailand, I wanted to see Morocco, I want to see Brazil. I love
extreme sports. People tell me they love my Stoke because I love doing fun things.
I love skiing, kite surfing. You know, surfing
etc. I love doing these things. Jetski, I love riding a jet ski and just
popping a big wave. You know, I go out in San Diego. It's illegal actually but you
know, I go out on the wave, fly up 10 feet in the air. It's great. But all these
things I would have missed out on had I been working a job. And I would
have settled for not a bad existence. A comfortable existence honestly. But one
where I didn't truly give my gift to the world. And hopefully I'm giving my Stoke...
You know, stoking you. That's California term. But where I didn't truly give my
gift to the world. I didn't truly live out my dream because
I've been working in fear. My advice to you if you're scared about quitting your
job is that it's natural it's normal and it's not your fault. It's the way we are
conditioned to be throughout our whole government or education the media's
taught us. To work a job and have somebody else pay for our value. But the
reality is that you are never going to be able to shine your light on the world.
You're never going to be paid what you're actually worth if you're working
a job. If you spend those years between 25 to 65 eight hours a day, most of your
life is spent working a job and if you and the statistics are 84% of
people hate working where they work. So, if chances are if you're watching this,
you hate your job. In China and Japan and in Asia it's he actually even higher.
Over 90% of people hate their job. So why do you spend the majority of your
life doing something you hate? Makes no sense. So, my advice to you is if you're
scared, don't worry. It's natural, it's not your fault. But at a certain point, you
need to just do it. Now, if you're looking for some information on how to quit your
job, I've got another video. I'll put up here which goes over how to quit your
job gracefully. There's over a few tips about that. But if this video helped you
out at all, hopefully my story did. Let me know, let
me know in the comments if this had any effect on your decisions
or anything that you're going through right now in the comments. It would be
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