This video is meant to educate you and perhaps warn you in case you are doing
any of these things.
Isn't it better to actually get corrected and improve yourself so that you have
better success?
Rather than doing things over and over and over again that you
are not noticing are actually making other people dislike you.
But you're not aware of it because you haven't ever thought about it
or nobody has corrected you.
So this video is here to help you.
Maybe raise a little bit of awareness on some
topics that really does make oftentimes affluent people dislike you and maybe
not want to befriend you.
For those of you who do not know,
my name is Anna and I run an online finishing school called
School Of Affluence.
That's where I teach women about high society,
how to navigate successfully in it and also how to become more elegant and refined.
If you want to start that transformation, just visit
www.SchoolOfAffluence.com.
This is probably one of the most common ones
because a lot of the times when newcomers
or people who are in affluent circles, they navigate and they might
feel deep down, a little bit insecure.
So to be able to raise their own value and they appear more confident,
they make this brutal mistake of trying too hard to impress
and especially start with the whole name dropping game,
big no no!
This is such an old trick in the book that never works,
but in case it really does make people around you annoyed and especially
affluent people.
Affluent people oftentimes don't feel easily impressed by these things,
they easily see through whenever you try to do this.
Because a lot of people are doing this,
so maybe it impresses an average Joe out there in the wildness,
but definitely not somebody who is more experienced, well-traveled,
and international. They have seen in a heard it all.
So don't try too hard to impress.
Truly just be yourself and even if you have very interesting names that you
could drop around and make everybody really impressed.
Make sure that that information reached the people in another way
and not from your mouth.
Now, the second point,
usually come from a very particular type of person,
but perhaps somebody who is a little bit more opportunistic.
I'm talking about asking question after question after question,
without talking anything about yourself,
you're just there interrogating, interviewing,
chasing for some source of information and you're not sharing anything yourself.
This is extremely intrusive and especially with people you do not know.
It also comes across as very aggressive because you appear as a very
opportunistic person who seem to be chasing something or wanting something
out of the other person by continuously asking all of these questions.
Now I do speak about in my online training program,
the importance of showing interest in the person for networking reasons.
But the thing is that there is,
a limit to how many questions you can ask and this is what you really
have to pay attention to.
You don't want the other person to feel uncomfortable or to be put on the spot.
You also don't want them to feel like you are after something.
Don't want to make them feel that you're with them for the wrong reasons.
So when you are curious and when you want to ask a lot of questions, it's okay,
but just alternate it and blend it out somehow.
Make sure you reciprocate by sharing your own stories and make them ask you
questions that you actually answer.
So it's a very natural back and forth situation without you being too much,
what can I find out about you type of attitude.
This third , quite important pets peeve, I know of a lot of affluent people.
You have to understand one thing, affluent people,
they're not better human beings than the average person,
but what affluent people have is that they oftentimes have more wealth,
more power, more status.
And for that reason, they require more privacy and safety than the average person.
So a lot of the times affluent people,
they do not like it when you have their contact details.
And you share these contact details to other people for whatever reason it is,
even if you're doing the affluent person a favor,
without asking for their permission first.
It's really important you ask for permission whenever you're giving out
somebody's contact details, even if it's
social media, email, especially through phone number and address.
Respect people's privacy and respect the fact
that people want to be the decision-maker and wants
to be in control over how their confidential information is being shared.
Number four, I don't know if you have watched my video,
Are Elegant Women Stiff and Boring?
If not, you should definitely watch it because it really touches upon this subject that
I'm about to raise,
things that make affluent people dislike somebody.
If somebody is plain and simple, stiff and boring,
there are of course affluent people who are boring and the stiff themselves,
but the majority are actually quite normal people.
And nobody likes a person who is
dead serious the entire time, never smiles and never laughs,
never opens up in any way.
What happens with these stiff and boring people is that they ended up not having
much success in high society. Regardless if you're a man or a woman,
the key to success is truly networking, right?
And if you are somebody who have very bad people skills and you are boring and
you're not inviting and you're not sharing anything positive about you or can
vibe it on a happy and outgoing energy,
then it's going to be very challenging for you to network in high society.
So I do recommend to, if you feel it touched by that
start thinking about how you can spice yourself up a bit
because you will need it on this journey.
Another kind of persona that is a little bit similar but might come across as a
bit strange to you that I mentioned this,
but a lot of the times, affluent people don't like it
when you're out there,
little miss perfect, little miss nice,
you are this little nice girl and you are a little perfect little angel.
Not saying now you have to, you cannot be nice,
you cannot be polite and you cannot act with good manners,
absolutely not what I'm talking about.
I'm talking about when you are kind of being
very plain in terms of just there as a nice girl and you have nothing to say.
There's no kind of, there's nothing interesting about you,
there's no depth.
You just somehow trying too hard to be perfect and this perfectionism,
it makes you appear very plain and very, very boring.
So a lot of the times affluent people, they do like a bit of personality.
They do like somebody who can maybe be a little bit of a character or have
some form of edginess to them, not in big doses.
I'm not talking about you becoming this super flamboyant persona that it has to
be center of attention and acts like a clown, absolutely not.
Of course, we're talking balance here, talking about that
it's important to add those little touches of personality of who you are,
of what's unique about you and so on.
And not just trying to fit into some form, very rigid form that is,
"hello, I'm this little nice girl and I'm here to say yes to everything that you asked me for."
You know, that's not really what affluent people are looking for,
so they will definitely not like you that much if you this
little Ms. nice and perfect girl.
Okay. Lastly, ladies,
and this goes out to all the people with a bit of a narcissistic traits in them.
Even if you're not a narcissist,
you might have inherited a few traits from perhaps your family or somebody else,
or maybe you have developed it for some reason.
But listen, ladies,
people will not like you if you have no curiosity,
if you are lacking any form of interest in the other person.
And this is so basic, but it really needs to be reminded,
because I'm sure, you've been in a conversation with somebody and you can see,
you can spot in their eyes that they are just dying for you to stop talking so
that they can talk instead and get to say what they want to say.
Meaning, they couldn't care less what you say, what you think, who you are,
what you do, blah, blah, blah.
All they want to do is to talk themselves and have their words said and being
heard and being seen., very narcissistic.
But unfortunately this is still a very common behavior,
but this is probably one of the worst things that put off people the most.
You do not want to go that direction because you want to have success
in high society after all.
We all have goals that we want to achieve and for this reason, I am offering you
these type of videos and I also have my own life finishing school where
I really teach women in-depth on how they can perfect their skills and
refine themselves and really achieve success in high society.
Because sometimes it's about mastering very fine things that can truly pivot
your success and make you achieve the goals that you have set for yourself.
If you haven't watched my video,
Things You Should Never Tell Affluent People.
Then make sure you watch that video now and I will see you in that video.