Hey guys! It's Jamie Scrimgeour here!
Second wife, stepmom of three and mom of one!
As I'm sure you're aware, Sunday is Mother's Day ...
which I'm not going to lie can be a pretty awkward day for stepmoms.
and because I like to talk about things that most people don't feel comfortable talking about
today I'm gonna tell you what stepmoms really hope for on this special day
so what do stepmom's want on Mother's Day?
they want the same thing that all moms want
a little love and a little appreciation for all that they do
It's pretty simple.. but for so many stepmoms this just doesn't happen
for that reason so many stepmoms find Mother's Day really tough
it's like they feel like they're good enough until they're not...
they're good enough for the pickup's
they're good enough for the drop-offs
they're good enough for the lunches
they're good enough for the homework
they're good enough to make the dinner
they're good enough for all the nitty-gritty that comes with parenting
but then when it
comes to those special days like Mother's Day
they better back off and know their place
now there are going to be some people who just absolutely don't agree with what I have to say here
they think that stepmoms are not real moms so they have absolutely no right over Mother's Day
which I do get, I see both sides
While I do respect the special bond that exists between a mom and a child
I do really think that a little acknowledgment can go a long way for a stepmom on Mother's Day
because even more than motherhood, step-motherhood is a thankless job
but I will say this
if you're a stepmom who doesn't get acknowledged on Mother's Day
I don't think that you should let this get you down
I think that you should do your very best to override those feelings of jealousy and hurt
because honestly your Mother's Day celebration or lack there of
does not define the level of love and appreciation that your stepchildren have for you
and here are five reasons why!
NUMBER ONE: kids rely on the adults in their life to guide them through this stuff
so if no one in their life has told them that they should celebrate you on Mother's Day
they're not even going to think about it
for example last year before Father's Day I asked my stepson what he wanted to get his dad
he didn't even know Father's Day was coming up
he had no idea and if I hadn't asked him about it
and his teacher hadn't had him do a special craft, he would have had no idea
NUMBER TWO: real moms get gipped all the time
whether you're a stepmom or not sometimes dads just drop the ball
they're going to be so many "real moms" on Mother's Day who feel like their Mother's Day celebration
didn't measure up to their expectations
I can assure you that these women are still loved and respected by their family
it's kind of like Valentine's Day, some people go all out
and other people not so much
NUMBER THREE: if you're not a stepmom you don't understand what it's like to be a stepmom
a while back I had a conversation with my husband about stepmoms and Mother's Day
and he said to me,
"you know I never thought that stepmoms might like to be recognized on Mother's Day - it didn't even occur to me"
and I'm like "yeah buddy you and everyone else"
he had never even considered that this may be a tough day for me
NUMBER 4: it is Mother's Day and she is their mom
I do feel like as their mom she 100% has right over this day
to be honest without being a stepmom myself
if I were in Mom's shoes I'm not sure that I would be encouraging my children to celebrate Mother's Day
with their dad's wife...
not out of spite, but more out of ignorance
having never jumped in and cared for someone else's children as if they were my own
I honestly don't even think it would occur to me
NUMBER FIVE: kids are loyal
I feel like in so many blended family situations, kids just feel torn
they have loyalty binds and feel like if they celebrate their stepmom on Mother's Day
it'll hurt their mom's feelings
the truth is picking up the phone and calling their stepmom on Mother's Day
may cause issues for stepchildren while they're with their mom
so even though it would be nice to hear their voice on Mother's Day
take comfort in knowing that they have not put themselves in an awkward situation
so if you're a stepmom whose husband and stepchildren celebrate you on Mother's Day
good for you honestly you are one lucky woman!
if you are a stepmom who's husband's ex-wife makes a point to acknowledge
the important role that you have and her children's life, even better
that is so freakin admirable her and again you're very lucky
but if you're not
if you're one of those stepmoms whose phone doesn't ring,
who gets caught up on those hearts and sparkles Mother's Day posts on their facebook newsfeed
who feels a jealous and unappreciated, remember what I said
your Mother's Day celebration or lack there of does not define the amount of love and appreciation
that your step-children have for you
and it certainly doesn't define the type of KICK-A** Stepmom that you are
alright guys thank-you so much for watching
as always don't forget to like, comment and share this video with all the stepmoms in your community
and hey, if you aren't a stepmom
but know one, be sure to tag them in the comments below and let them know just
how kick-a** you think they are
thanks for watching guys!
Have a great Mother's Day!