Heya playa, I wanna sit here today and talk to you about why you shouldn't compare yourself
to others but then I'd feel like a hypocrite because it's something I do.
I want to tell you guys all about it.
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Now the reason why I consider myself a hypocrite is because I do it too.
I look at other people's successes and wins and think to myself what am I lacking?
What am I doing wrong?
How come I'm not at their level?
I wanna get real with you guys here so I'll share a real story.
There's a YouTube channel called Depression to Expression.
It's run by someone named Scott and over the years I've seen him take his whole entire
brand, the whole Depression to Expression brand, just lift it up and do exactly what
he wants to do with it.
From his website which is laid out specifically for teachers and parents and students and
all these different things to his social media posts and social media accounts which all
have the same look and feel to them.
This is something that every single time he posts something or shares something new, I
ask myself what am I doing wrong?
And I know it's the wrong way to approach the situation What would Josh say?
Josh would probably tell you you're focusing too much on other people.
You need to start worrying and thinking about yourself.
How you can learn and grow, what you can do to improve.
But I still have that nagging feeling?
It's that I want to see him succeed, I want to see him do all these amazing things but
I feel like in comparison, I'm just nowhere where I actually want to be.
I end up looking at his stuff and just constantly thinking to myself where am I going wrong?
How come I'm not getting as many paid speaking gigs?
How come I don't have a cool fancy video on my site showing me speaking?
How come I don't have the resources and everything so well put together so that it just fits
like a glove?
Why does everything seem so disjointed for me?
And Scott is not the only creator that I do this with.
There are other creators like Shan Boody who I just see blowing up.
She just came out with a book called The Game of Desire.
I purchased it because I love her content, I want to support her in every possible way.
But when I look at how her book rolled out, how she's promoting it, what she's doing for
it and I look at my own book and think well how come I didn't have that same type of gung-ho
and thought process and reaction?
Usually, when I get into this mindset, I try to think more practically about it.
I tell myself look, I don't have a team like they probably do.
I'm not working with a bunch of people to bring my ideas to life.
A lot of times anything I work on is me putting it out there and any knowledge I kind of have
about that thing.
And although that realist's voice pops up, the pessimist voice pops up too and tells
me things like "how come you're not stepping your game up?", "how come you're not finding
a team to work with?", "how come you don't have the same drive that they do to succeed?".
Sometimes it really does beat me down.
I look at all the hard work and effort I put into the things that I want to grow and I
don't really see the type of success that I want.
For example, look at my YouTube videos.
If you look at my channel metrics here, you can see that they were growing and exploding
from 2013 to 2015 and then they started to taper off.
The YouTube algorithm changed, the YouTube platform changed, new creators came on board,
my content kind of remained the same.
It wasn't so much different and with so much change within it and I think because of that
simple simple thing, a lot of people started to grow up and move on.
Now don't get me wrong, I think everyone watches different YouTubers at different stages of
their life because they're helpful at that point.
Maybe you're someone who's in middle school and my videos really help you feel the confidence
to talk to your crush.
Maybe you're in high school and you want to start thinking about college, the future and
what you want to do.
Maybe you're in college and you're thinking how do I make an actual relationship work
and last, how do I build a partnership with someone?
No matter where you are in your life you might find a piece of what I make to be helpful
for you.
But there may be a point in your life where you're like I just want straight-up dating
advice and how to text my crush and how to flirt with them and how to bang them so I'm
gonna watch someone like Based Zeus which is totally fine.
That's what he's there for, to help you accomplish those things in your life but I tend to feel
like a lot of people that discover my channel and discover my videos come in for the dating
advice but don't really stick around for learning how to be their best selves which is ok but
it does kind of really reflect in the numbers.
I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm human too.
I suffer from imposter syndrome like so many other people.
I doubt my abilities and skills.
I feel like I'm not qualified enough, who am I to be giving advice to people.
Why should people care about what I have to say?
These are questions that I constantly think about but then I get the feedback from people
like you and it helps me kind of understand it a little bit better.
I may not be at the level that ShanBoody is at, I may not be at the level that Scott from
Depression to Expression is at or other people that I look up to and highly admire but I
am where I need to be.
And that's something I think a lot more people need to hear, you are exactly where you need
to be.
You're experiencing struggles and challenges in your life so you can learn and grow.
So you can step out of your comfort zone, so you can challenge yourself in ways you've
never done before.
One thing I want to spend more time doing is practicing gratitude.
Really looking at all that I've accomplished in life, where I am and just being super grateful
for what I have.
Because look, there are other creators that are smaller than me either in size or in scale
or in ability that really probably look up to where I am and say wow, I want to be where
Josh is, even though I do that with people above me.
I'm sure the people above me do the same thing with people above them.
Life is full of comparison but if you let it beat you down, if you let it take over
your thought process you're gonna stop yourself in your tracks and you're not gonna work towards
being somebody great.
This is a bit of a different type of video than I normally do, it isn't five steps to
do this or how to accomplish this.
I want to just be open and real with you guys.
I think going forward in the future I want to do more videos like this.
I want to share my experiences and let you know what's going on in my life.
Now one way to get a more behind the scenes look to see what's going on in my life is
to join me over on Patreon or as a YouTube channel member.
At the community level you'll get behind the scenes videos kind of exploring what I'm working
on and what I'm talking about.
I'm gonna link it out over here and in the description below if you want to check it
out.
Patreon is something I've really gotten deeper into along with YouTube Channel Memberships
so if you want to support the channel, you want to get behind the scenes footage or you
kind of want to get behind the scenes footage or you want to talk to me one on one in a
video chat there are options for you to do that.
And if you're still beating yourself up and comparing yourself to others, you definitely
need to watch this video over here where I break down the different steps to get through
that mindset.
Also, I want to give a special shout out to the different patrons and YouTube channel
members here that support me and what I do.
I'm gonna list them up over here.
Your name can be featured here as well.
Thank you guys so much for watching this video and hearing my story and hearing what I had
to share.
As always, love and peace.