Welcome back.
Today we're talking about making a good impression.
First, why is it so important that we make a good first impression and then how we do
that.
And i know we have some conversations about wardrobe.
But also know that there's a lot of other things that we're going to get give deep on
to how to make a good first impression.
Let's talk about the Why's first.
So why is it so important that we make a good first impression?
You only have that first time and that's it.
You better make that first impression good because you're not going to have the second
chance.
So people can tell usually within 30 seconds of meeting you.
A lot about you just based on the way you carry yourself.
Okay.
So, do we...
Do we act one way when we're on certain people or a different way around others?
No.
Be you.
If you're a jerk out there then you know what?
Hey, be a jerk right away so that way you're not wasting my time.
(Laughs) I can get to know you right away right?
No.
One of mine things obviously is you know, dress to impress.
I mean, we've talked about this prior but...
Look good.
You know, are you meeting that person for work?
You know, on a professional basis or is is personal.
So you've got to distinguish too.
And then go from there.
if it's professional, obviously dress your brand, dress the part.
Feel good because it's going to show.
It's going to show.
I am going to be able to tell if you're fidgeting or not comfortable based on how good you feel
about yourself.
So just kind of a psych question.
I've formed my opinion since working with you.
But I don't think that we've actually talked about this and dept.
So, we've talked about...
Okay, if I am going to be speaking at an event or if I am going to a conference.
This is how it can repair, this is how you know, dress to make a good impression or whatnot.
But what about if I am running an errand.
I need to go to the grocery store.
Or you know, is it important to be conscious of those things more casual time or non-professional
time?
You know, I would be lying if I said, "I've never worn..."
(Sighs) Just really quickly.
My cute, fuzzy pj pants to just get a gallon of milk or whatever to the store.
you know I can't say that.
I think we've all done that.
Now, is that the norm?
It's not.
I really...
I mean it's either been like, super, super late at night or I wear a really big cap and
no one can tell who I am.
But you know what?
I feel like I always ran to someone I know.
I'm always dreading on like, "Oh, my gosh.
What if someone sees me looking like this?"
You need to plan for that because you don't know.
A good example is when you travel.
When you're at the airport.
I don't know if you ever ran into this.
But I tell people often, "Even if you're travelling, it matters."
What you look like, what you're wearing.
You don't have to wear a suit or dress.
But there's still...Especially nowadays, really great, cute clothing that is comfortable.
You know, great jeggings or leggings or sweatpants even for men and cool sneakers.
You know, awesome hats that you know, you can still look cool.
You know, look good and be your brand.
There is no reason to look sloppy.
But yeah, you never know.
Okay.
So, we'll talk a lot more about wardrobe and clothing in other episodes.
She's going to be back for more.
But let's talk about some of the other things about you know, the "How to make a good impression?"
Okay.
One of the big ones I think is look at people in the eye, right?
Pay attention to what they're saying.
Don't be like wondering...
I mean, I have spoken to people that they ask me kind of a serious question and I am
telling them and they're kind of like, "Hi!"
Hi-ing to someone else or like paying attention who's coming and going.
That is so rude.
You just asked me a question, please pay attention to what I am trying to tell you.
Another one is just a firm handshake.
You know, none of the...
That little noodle hand.
That what I call it, noodle hands.
And a lot of women, when they shake their hand, when they give me a handshake, it's
not firm.
So ladies, especially you.
Make sure you go in for a firm handshake.
That is something I am actually complemented on a lot by gentlemen is, "Oh, my gosh!
Good handshake."
Let's try it.
What do you think, Nate?
Is that good?
Nice.
Make sure it's a good, good handshake.
That can say a lot about you.
Be careful on what you put on social media, okay?
So before I come to meet you, if it's my first time meeting you.
I always google you.
I always gone Facebook or Google you and see who you are, what you look like or what you
do.
And if I see something that is less than pleasant, I'm going to be a little afraid of meeting
with you.
I'm already going to have judgement of you by the pictures or by your opinions of what
you put on social media.
So unfortunately or fortunately today, everything is out there on social media and whether you
may not want certain things to be on social media, they will always be there to haunt
you.
So be careful what you put on there especially if it's public.
So, first impression doesn't necessarily mean the first time you meet nowadays?
Nowadays, it's always online.
Yeah, because they're going to...
That makes a lot of sense.
So we got to be real, real conscious I guess on what we put on.
Be conscious of what you're putting out there and how you're portraying yourself.
So another one that I think that we ought to be cognizant of is to use our manners,
right?
To say please, thank you or excuse me.
They are so simple.
To remember but yet so often to forgotten.
Have good manners.
I mean, you know, opening a door for someone or if you see someone coming in and you really
want to catch their attention and that's the only moment, make sure to say, "Will you excuse
me, I am sorry, just one quick second."
And then you know...
Do what you need to do.
But following that brings me to a point of a cellphone, okay?
How many times have you been talking to someone and that person takes out their cellphone
and pretends to be looking at you and checking out their messages.
That is so rude.
I can't stand it.
Unless if you are expecting an emergency call or something of that manner.
Do not touch your phone.
Put it down.
And it can wait.
Pay attention to the conversation that you're having with that person.
If you do need to attend to that text or to that phone call, say, "Will you excuse me?
I am waiting for such and such.
I will be right back?"
Excuse yourself and then comeback to the conversation.
Okay, so what I am hearing here that's kind of goes directly an alignment with I am trying
to do better at myself is that to make a good first impression, it's really to focus on
the other person.
Making them feel good about themselves?
That's right.
So, instead of trying to put on a show or say something that will help them think cool
things about me.
If I can pay attention to people, really look at their eyes, listen to what they're saying,
put away the phone, put away the distractions.
Then...
Because I just think about this last conference that I went to.
About a week and a half ago.
Some people that really stood out to me.
Now I can think of people on both examples.
One guy I was talking with and then all of a sudden he's...
He is checking...
I am like, is this guy, he doesn't want to talk to me?
It's like A-T-D all the way around us.
But then there's another guy that I...
I've actually followed him a bit on YouTube.
He's done pretty well.
He's got a big following.
Well there was a social in the evening and I just ended up not even knowing noticing
who am I standing next, "Oh, I know you."
And he was so kind.
He just...
The way that he, you know.
Paid attention so much to me and other that people that came up and autographs and whatnot.
It really did a big...
It really made a good impression on me of him of how gracious he was to be people that
obviously he didn't know and probably he never see again.
It's amazing.
If you ask people questions, if you express interest on them, how much more they'll start
liking you?
It's like, everyone is walking around star for attention because we're always giving
attention to those little electronic gadgets that we carry with us.
That we forget about that personal touch.
Well and...
You said it was so true.
If somebody comes up to me...
Say we...
I am thinking of specific person at this conference.
They came up to me and they just started telling me about themselves and it's like, "Okay,
I'm back in an old fashion networking event."
They just want me to give business card.
But when people come up, I really like when people recognize me.
It's like, "Hey, I seen...
You're stuff is so good."
I don't know.
I think that is...
That gives me a good impression of them.
I'm just kind of like thinking about it and my experience, it makes a lot of sense.
One thing that I do...
I just remember.
When people do recognize me and they come up to me and say, "Oh, my goodness, I know
who you are."
And they start complementing me.
It makes me feel so uncomfortable.
I don't know why.
I am not very good at taking compliments.
I am working on that.
But I always try to divert and say, "So tell me about you.
Remind me who you are.
Remind me what you do.
Where did we meet last?"
So I automatically put a back on them and start expressing.
And I mean it.
Interest in them.
So one thing is we could be better at accepting compliments.
Because that's also good feedback.
If we're supposed to be complimenting them but we can also feel that...
And be gracious too in receiving it, you know?
I used to say, "Oh, my gosh.
Really?
This all thing?
Oh my goodness."
Those are like, "You know what?
Thank you very much.
I appreciate that.
That makes me feel so good."
And be gracious about it.
So people that I've met and complimented that are confident, that are successful, that's
what they do is they just briefly express gratitude for the compliment.
But on the other hand there's a lot of times where I'll compliment somebody and they'll
basically like, "Oh, no.
It was nothing."
Or...
And it's like, why...
No wonder we have a tendency to do that.
I don't know.
But we gravitate to the negative and the positive.
We just kind of shrug it off but stop that.
Accept the compliments.
Alright.
Well, thanks so much Eugenia.
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