Uncle C, back in the office and in today's video, I'm going to be discussing why as a
man your mission has to and must come first. And not only that, we're going to be diving
into actually how this applies to your real life skills. Okay? Here's the fact of the
matter. You can watch as many of these videos when it comes to female nature, female dynamic
self improvement, winning your woman back anything like that, you can watch all of them
all day if you'd like. However, if you can't put these into practical application, there's
no way you're going to have any real world success. And that's the entire point of today's
video is to actually give you real world success. Now, if this is your first time on this channel,
for those of you who don't know me, my name is Casey zander. I'm the founder of head men.
And I'm here to revitalize masculinity and help make men full stack. Let's dive into
today's video. So let's dive into number one. The very first point I must make regarding
this entire topic for today is you're the king. So you have to act like it. Let this
sink in for just a second, like seriously, because most men don't feel as if they're
enough, okay, they don't feel as if they're enough for their work life, their career,
they don't feel as if they're enough for their family, they don't feel as if they're enough
for their social group. And because of that, they walk around with this energy that bogs
them down in a state of low status. This is not how you want to live. And this is not
how you want to act, you are the king. So you must act like it. And even if you don't
feel like a king, you have to so to adapt the mindset of a king. So that way you can
carry yourself with the confidence conviction, the tonality when you're around your woman,
which begs me to ask the deeper question here with point number one, kings rule. Do you
think about this? Do you rule your own household? Do you rule your own kingdom? Are you the
final say? Because if you've ever caught yourself saying one of these three things, me and my
woman make decisions together, or me and my woman or a team, or me and my woman always
consult each other before moving forward. That's the exact reason right there why she
doesn't view you as the type of man for her. Because in the end, the king must lead. In
the end, the king has the final say, the king rules, do you? Only you can answer that question
honestly. Because when it comes to the true attraction with your wife, or significant
other or anything like that, these are the cold hard questions, you're going to have
to ask yourself, and throughout this video, I want you to actually ask them truthfully
answer them truthfully, because that's the only way we as a team will be able to grow
and make leaps and bounds together. So the point that I'm trying to make as we loops
down and loop down into point two and three, with Topic number one is more questions. Because
if we don't get to the root question, we're never going to actually be in the standpoint
where we can put the right factual statements in play. The next question I have for you
is what a king submit to His wife's lead. Or for some of you who are in relationships,
or ltrs, things of that nature, what it kings submit to your woman's lead. When you actually
look at what trust building is with a woman trust building is when she knows that she
can trust her man to be a man. And that's when you include you making decisions after
maybe consulting her input, but ultimately, whether she agrees with them or disagrees
with them, there has to be a final say, there has to be a final say in everything. And if
the final say is coming from her, she is assuming the masculine role, the authority, the leadership.
If this has happened one too many times, you're literally living a life of death by 1000 cuts
before that relationship is over. As soon as she wears those pants, that assumes the
roles of where she gets to make these decisions. And ultimately, she attempts to put you in
a category or in a box that strips you of your lead in of your masculine decisiveness,
your masculine rationale your masculine decision making. This is why the relationships failing.
So ask yourself this question right now. Would it King submit to His woman's need? See, just
because she's the queen doesn't necessarily mean that the SE is final. The Queen may have
great input, the Queen may actually know a thing or two, the Queen may be able to aid
help and assist the king. But ultimately, who has the final say this is going to come
with some uncomfortability this is going to come with you putting your big boy pants on
this is going to actually come with you being dominant and decisive in certain areas when
you've probably never been asked to be before. If you truly want success within your life
and within your relationships or within your attraction with women as much as you tell
me that you do. The fact of the matter is if you are not asking yourself these questions,
you will never get to the root of giving yourself Have the right answers.
So what signal does it send her if he's easily controlled? If she knows that all she has
to do is start one argument, send one nasty text to make your heart rate go up quicker,
because you're so worried she's gonna leave, if all she has to do is have bitchy attitude
of one time. And she knows that that's all it's going to take to not only rock the boat,
but crush your internal world where you're willing to totally shift your plans in life,
you're totally willing to shift the dynamic of this relationship, you're totally willing
to shift what you know, is in good spirit for the betterment of the whole of the family
or of the unity of the relationship. If she sees that that's what you're willing to do.
What signal does it send her if he's that easily controlled psychologically and emotionally
around the presence of her? Because this is going to send signals it goes, Hey, I'm half
his size. I'm half a strength. This is the man I signed up for that can bend and break
instantly around me. So bring me back to point number one for some of you, you're going to
be saying, Casey, this is a bit of a longer video. Yeah, I get that. But if you want success,
as much as you tell me you do, you have to ask the deeper rooted questions you are the
king. So it is time to start acting like it. Point number two. And keep in mind, this is
tied to the overarching hierarchy of today's topic of why your mission is first, your mission
must be first because a woman's pleased only one she knows that her man is think about
that for a second, your your woman can only be pleased when she knows that you're pleased.
Think about this and think about this in every way I'm going to possibly
break down. The first part I'm going to break down for you. Is s3
actual serving. Okay, yes, it's a play on words right here. That's how I say sometimes
s three actual right, I don't want to trigger any sort of algorithms or anything like that.
But think about this. For some of you, if you can think back to some of the best experiences
in the bedroom you may have had with your woman or a woman. Typically the times when
she's most turned on, she's most arouse, she's even dripping. What's going to happen, what's
going to happen is that she's entering your frame and virtually serving you that was probably
a time a romantic experience intimacy when you were leading, and she felt as if she was
serving. And because she could serve this heightened arousal, because she could serve
this turn her on, you're going to notice that even some of you who may be biblical, you
follow a biblical aspect to life. It's great if you do. The biblical term for helpmeet
is basically aid or assister assistant of mission assistant of him assistant of the
king. So if these roles have been reversed, your relationship is failing not because of
her fault, but because of your fault. It's your fault. There's three things she'll never
take, she's never going to take ownership, she's never going to take accountability,
and she will never take responsibility for the direction of the relationship. Why? Because
that is his job. And as soon as these roles have been psychologically reversed, you're
in for one hell of a ride, and you're in for a ride for the end of the disruption of that
relationship or marriage. And it doesn't matter if you spent one year, two years, 10 years,
20 years, when she says he does not have the strength to lead when she no longer can serve
him. But he has made it his life's mission of serving her. There is no quicker way to
lose attraction. So she's pleased knowing you're pleased. She's pleased knowing that
you're turned on, she's pleased knowing that she can sleep at night knowing that her king
is pleased. Because that king now can focus on his mission, that King can even have the
aid in his mission that King ultimately can sleep at night knowing that he is worthy.
And he feels good. Why? Because he's putting the right steps in place. So I'm gonna ask
a question, because questions is the point of today's video. So some of you might be
sitting here watching this video, and you're sitting here going, Oh, Casey, how can she
please me? What can I do? Well, she can do this. Whatever relationship you're in, she
can do this by you directing. And when you direct her even in the small stuff, hey, I
want you to do this, Hey, this is what time we're going to be. This is what time we're
going out to eat. I need you to be ready, I need you to do this. Help me do this. That
right there is very attractive to a woman. She gets a sense of femininity, and she can
actually serve to serve. So the real question I have for you is why isn't she concerned?
If you leave? See majority of men watching this video time and time again are concerned
if they're a woman or a woman would leave their presence. They're concerned or she'll
pull away. If she'll lose attraction. If one nasty text message comes up, and all of a
sudden she's angry, but let me ask you this. Why are the roles not reversed? Why is she
not the one constantly waking up every day wondering, I wonder if he'll leave? I wonder
if he'll find somebody better? I wonder if he's the type of man who will have multiple
options. I wonder if he can replace me. See, these are the questions you need to be asking
because if there's a value exchange where she feels way up here and he feels way up
here, there is no sense that she will get the king persona around that presence. It's
just not designed to work. And this is why every single book on love language has every
single trust building every single therapy session, every single counseling session that
most husbands tried to put themselves through, or God forbid, working through trauma has
nothing to do with the actual attraction of why this relationship is crumbling time and
time again, if you want to truly win a woman over this is the attitude demeanor, presence
and ultimately question stack that you're going to have to ask yourself to get to the
deeper root of the question and the deeper root of the correct answer. So moving on with
mission, how do you have a mission? Think of a king think of a leader think of a ruler
think of an emperor, very attractive, very dominant, has direction has sense of control?
This turns a woman on if that man has sense of control, what does that saying that is
sending a signal that his mental point of reference is always first. Who he is mentally
where he wants to go always has to come first? If it doesn't, that's a sense of weakness.
Weakness is the quickest turnoff to lose your king status. Here at ahead, man, we're about
building kings. And had men we build kings point blank period. So nobody comes before
you. You might be saying, but Casey, I have children. But do you see how you KCI? I have
to take care of it. Yeah, okay. Okay, you have other duties. But you see the king is
up top. Because if the king is not satisfied here up top, right, every single stack below
this, let's say your woman, let's say children, let's say Bill's
right, if he is not satisfied, if he is not healthy, if he is not coming first, all of
these issues are going to fail, they will crumble. Why? Because the roles have been
reversed someone she is up here, the kids are second, and all of a sudden the man is
putting himself last. This is sending a statement on a signal of low status. He does that have
the mental mindset, bandwidth or inability to carry on his mission properly every single
day in life to execute that gives her the sense of stability, that she's around a high
value, man. Now this this can occur at any dollar amount. See, this is the other point.
This is the other issue that most men make. They think that dollars, they think that having
a good career, they think that being stable, ultimately will give a sense of security and
a woman's eyes that is false. It's the attitude and psychological control that you have. So
I'm going to give you two scenarios. Here's scenario number one, you have a man, right,
who puts himself first, he puts his woman second, he puts his children below that, right?
This is his stack. This is his hierarchy right here. And let's say this guy makes 50k a year,
okay? But he puts himself first but now let's reverse these roles. Let's say the the wife
is up here, the children are up here and the man puts himself last but this guy down here
in situation number two, this guy makes 250k a year, she will get a actual worse sense
of security around the guy who puts himself last despite making five fold what this guy
does. Why? Because psychologically this guy up top right here shows and proves that he
is willing to lead. That's the stability in long term relational sense that most men seem
to fail. So what does this mean? This means that nobody can come before you nobody in
the family can come before you You are the king, which means that when you act like this,
keep in mind this may result in rude naggy or bitchy behavior. Do you have the strength
to sit through that without getting reactive? Do you have the strength to sit through that
without turning into a 16 year old girl who just got her car keys taken away? Do you have
the strength to do that without arguing? Do you have the strength to do that without getting
moved off your masculine center? Do you have the strength to do that without getting argumentative?
For most men, they don't. They just don't. And they don't due to the fact that they have
never been taught these things. You only want a woman over through the emotions. Emotions
can only be brought out through women when the king status remains high. And when he's
acting the correct way. So really, the men we can just say who cares? Who cares if there's
bad behavior? Who cares if she feels as if you're being rude? Who cares if she feels
a different emotion. People feel different emotions all the time. It's not your job to
be the fixer, man. And it's also not your job to monitor her emotions to always making
sure that she's happy. If she's a grown woman, there will be times where she's happy. There's
times when she said there's sensors, she's angry. There's times when she's healthy, that
says she's horny there says she's depressed. That's called being a human. And it is her
job to monitor those emotions and keep herself in check, not you. You have the whole kingdom
to worry about because you're the king which is ultimately why today we're starting with
your mission first. If your mission does not come first, there is not a single chance that
any woman will find you attractive there. I will say that one more time. You might be
able to fake it for a couple of weeks or a couple months. In the long run. There is not
a single woman that will find you attractive if this mission is not coming first, that
I can guarantee you so a masculine man a man with relationships success, what does he do?
he prioritizes rationale, his rational lead, his logic is rational. His rational intellect
is constantly over her feminine emotions, because as soon as she can prove that her
feminine emotions can knock you off your rational, masculine path, this proves to her one thing
that you're a weak fit for survival. That's it. It's a value exchange. And if your woman
is pulling away from you, it has nothing to do with communication. It has nothing to do
with chemistry, it has everything to do with you having big old balls. And that's it. So
you need a mission. If you haven't noticed yet, by now you need a mission. Because if
you've said to yourself any of these things, she has been my center, she's the center of
my world, I put her before me, I made sure everybody's taking care of besides myself,
if you've been doing those things in hope for a return or an exchange in your investment
that you've put into that relationship, that's the quickest way to prove to her that you
have no idea what the hell you're doing, when it comes to attraction. That is a quickest
way to prove to her that you have no level of competency to actually lead a family or
anything. You want the cold hard facts that no one's gonna tell you in a next in your
next love novel. Here it is. So to tie this in, there's going to be a lot of people that
say, Casey, you acting like this, this whole this whole King King status, right? This this
whole idea. You people are gonna say, Casey, you sound a bit rude. You sound a bit angry.
Right? You sound a bit maybe even evil. This is not the case. This is not the case at all.
Because it doesn't matter if you're Batman, or if you're the Joker.
Think about this one second. Doesn't matter if you're Batman or the Joker. They are both
equally as kings. They're both equally kings in their own universe in their own realm.
Why? Because they both have the mission. They both have the mission dialed in to the tee.
The Joker His mission is to destroy Gotham. 100% That's all he cares about. He's evil.
Okay, what's the reverse of that? Bruce Wayne's mission 100% is to save Gotham. They will
both fight tooth and nail at any accent to do that. You get to choose if you're a head
man. And you play on the side of good you get to choose if you're a tail man, and you
play on the side of evil just because you remain a king just because you act like this
just because you do this just because you assert yourself like this does not make you
a bad man. Why? Because both Batman and the Joker both have a mission. Both lead both
lead on their own terms. Both have a team surrounding them. Right? The Joker has other
evil men the thugs of Gotham The Joker also has Harley Quinn. Batman has Robin. Batman
also has the dude Ah, what's it? What's his name? The dude Ah, I can't remember he's on
the computer. 24/7 helping in the Batcave. Alfred, so both don't give a flying fuck.
And since both of them give a flying fuck, they're both alpha. They're both masculine.
They are both strong in their own way. Why? Because they both take a stand. Most men in
relationships most men in long term relationships. Most men with women, they don't take a stand
for anything. They take a stand of walking on eggshells to hopefully not offend her,
in hopes that in return, she will now get a sense of security and attraction when in
actuality she's drier than sandpaper and doesn't feel anything for you. You can be a lot of
things around a woman but you cannot be weak. And that is where I'm going to wrap up today's
video. Some of you might have said this as a monologue. Some of you might have said this
is a bit too long. Some of you might have even said that I'm crazy. I don't care. My
message today will resonate with a few people and a few men that it does help. You will
see the rapid success in your relationship, the rapid success in your life, life and the
rapid success in how you carry yourself and people will notice when you act this way women
do not want to exit your life. They want to be part of it. And I'm here to make this my
mission to show you the power that you actually hold as a strong powerful head man. So there's
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