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- Does your father expect you to tell him
when you're not a virgin?
- No.
- Do you think I'm a virgin?
- No.
No.
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- [Producer] I'm gonna hand you these white boards.
I'm going to ask you guys questions,
and you're gonna write down the answer
and then you guys will show it.
What age is appropriate to lose your virginity?
- Are we gonna have the same answer?
(laughing)
- 21.
- What is that?
- Oh.
- You don't even know how to wash the dishes.
- Oh my God.
- [Producer] What age did you lose your virginity?
- Better not be 10.
- 10?
- Oh my God.
- I was a late bloomer.
- I haven't yet.
It's a question mark.
- I don't even wanna fucking know.
(laughing)
I don't wanna know.
- [Producer] How many people do you think
the other person has slept with?
- Oh.
- Are we're talking about domestic?
No no, for real.
Or international.
Nah, babe.
- Let's not say if the other person is correct or incorrect.
(gasping)
- [Ernesto] Me?
- Yeah.
You think I slept with two people?
Stop, stop.
Oh my God.
They're gonna watch this and they're gonna be like,
is that Ernesto?
He got old.
- Which parent gave you the sex talk?
We didn't have it.
- Never did.
Never did.
- We just don't talk.
It's not a joke, that's why it's funny.
- He literally gave me the dictionary
and told me to look up words and that was it.
- Because you're smarter than I am.
- You were really into baking,
so we used a cake analogy that the father
has some ingredients and the mother has some ingredients.
- My mom one time brought up birth control,
but that's as far as we've ever gotten sex talk wise.
- I wanted to have the sex talk with my mom,
but she was like, "No, talk to your dad."
So he gave all the siblings the sex talk.
- Yeah, I gave the sex talk.
I want my daughter to be safe when it comes to things,
not just pregnancy, just, you know,
predators or what have you.
- How do you know when someone is ready to have sex?
The age of consent.
- Look, I do think there's a maturity level
that I believe that you had.
I was comfortable knowing that you had sex
and that you were mature enough.
- I think, one, they'll tell you.
And when they think it's right and it's the right person
that they're in love with.
- You know, it happened for me real young
and I thought it was really cool.
And now that I'm a dad, I think well what a little shit.
You know? - Yeah.
I wouldn't want it to be the same for you.
I would want it to be meaningful.
Not pressured.
Not because you're drunk.
Not because someone took advantage of you.
- It really depends on the person
because there's been people,
like my current significant other,
where I literally like knew within hours,
but there's folks that I've like waited
for a long amount of time and then had sex with them
and it didn't feel right.
And so like this whole like when are you ready,
I think like you know that internally.
And like sticking with your like moral compass there.
- Do you know one another's birth control regimen?
I went to the doctor on my own when I was a teenager.
And then I asked him to pick up medication from the pharmacy
and I forgot that they were giving me my birth control.
And he was just like...
- I don't know.
- I started this year birth control.
I'm not really feeling it,
just because I don't really like how it makes my body feel.
So I'm trying to see if I want to just not take it
or find a different kind.
- Condoms.
And I'm gonna get snipped.
(gasping)
- Really?
- Yes.
I don't want any more kids.
- What would you do if I were to come home pregnant?
- Drink and cry first.
I think after that, I mean I'd support you.
I mean, I wanna stand behind you anyway,
and I wouldn't be mad.
That wouldn't be the last thing on my mind
is getting mad at you.
- I always knew that if something big like that
even happened, they'd rather know so they can keep us safe,
rather than us hiding it.
- I would just ask you are you ready?
If you're ready and you said yes, fine, who is the father?
If you don't know the father, what can I do?
Is he going to marry you?
If you don't know the answer, we will raise the kids.
That's normal life.
- I love how in all these scenarios,
it's worst case scenario.
It's never like, oh my goodness,
somebody wants to marry you and have kids with you.
- I mean, ultimately it would be her decision.
Obviously I'd be upset and it would be her decision.
I would push for an abortion.
- You would?
- Yeah, I would.
I just think that she's too young to raise a kid.
- I always told myself that like,
that I would wanna keep it.
So I always wondered like, would you like, support me?
- Well, I would have to support you,
because it would be your decision.
- If I asked you for help, like financially and stuff,
like, would you help me?
Or like, if I needed like a place to-
- No I would help you.
- You would? - Yeah.
I was always scared of that.
- I'd have to.
I'd have to help you.
- Oh, thanks.
- Have you ever discussed consent with your daughter?
- We discuss that a lot because it's...
- It's my job.
- It's her job.
- Yeah, I work in women's health
and around sexual assault survivors.
So it's a huge like point of conversation.
But it was not a point of conversation growing up.
- So, like you said, like, you didn't want anyone
to take advantage of me and stuff.
It's like me being conscious enough
and like not being pressured into anything.
- I'm kind of hardcore about this one.
You know, we were talking about that boyfriend
you had back in high school. - High school.
So when everything came to light and I found out
that he had kind of pushed his self on my daughter,
it really pissed me off.
And you either gotta grow up or teach your kids
how they need to treat someone else.
You know, I'm sorry, but I know I've been
kind of hardcore about that one, but...
- It's a good thing to be hardcore about.
- It is.
I mean, it just is.
- Knowing what I would hope her boyfriends would...
The way I would want them to act, put also,
you know, additional thoughts in my mind
of that I should act the same way too.
- How do you feel knowing your daughter is
or is not sexually active?
- I am like worried because you have to
think about safe sex.
Let's be honest, nowadays.
Safe sex, safe sex, safe sex.
You need to be healthy.
- That's really, you know, intense for you to say that
because in the Philippines,
when somebody has an STD or pregnancy and you're unmarried,
it's a social suicide kind of thing.
And for him to say that, that he wants to still
talk to me and support me, I didn't know that.
This kind of talk, this kind of thing happening,
you get disowned.
- It's a part of life.
It's nature.
It's bound to happen.
I feel like, you know, relief that we can have this
open communication because I didn't...
My mother and I, we had good conversations,
but we really didn't go in depth.
And my father, my stepfather, he didn't talk to me
about the birds and bees and what have you.
We just always going to Dodger games or whatever.
You know, the wood, but not the wood.
(laughing)
- What's something you wish your parent
taught you about sex?
- That it is beautiful.
First of all. - Aw.
It is something like you need to have it
and learn how to be, you know, interact while you are there.
- I wish my parents told me it was a beautiful thing
because I've had moments when it wasn't exactly
a beautiful thing.
And when it became something beautiful,
I didn't know it could be something like that.
- That there should be no shame.
I wish my mother would have told me that.
- Like more in-depth of talking about
how serious attachment can be after.
Sometimes you're going to feel like
if that person doesn't talk to you anymore,
like it's the end of the world.
- Oh yes.
- The thing that I think has been the best thing between us
is being able to listen to them and not react
in sort of the ways that maybe fathers would be reacting,
by either getting mad or not wanting to hear it at all.
Sometimes it was hard for me to hear things
that you were telling me,
but I knew that if I reacted or downplayed it,
that maybe the next time you wouldn't bring it up at all.
- Yeah.
- Oh.
- [Producer] Three, two, one.
- Hi.
(laughing)
- I thought I would recognize at least one thing.
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for your private parts.
- I specifically like the purple.
- I don't know what this does.
- I feel like this is like the conch shell
from "Lord of the Flies".
(laughing)
- I'm guessing that's a suction mechanism.
- On a certain region, and could make someone very happy.
- Oh, it's so different on your face than your hand.
These aren't used, right?
- This is literally a mystery to me.
I have no idea what this can do.
- I'm gonna hold up these cue cards
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- [Producer] So it's a clit sucker.
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- I also like the lavender.
But don't tell my pastor I have this.
(chuckles)
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(laughing)
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