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Being the nice guy also is considered as a guy being stuck in the friend zone. we are
going to discuss the common things I see men doing and my clients doing whenever they date
a woman that quickly makes you fall into the friend zone and the nice guy trap.
Let me be clear on one thing.
Being a nice guy is not harmful and is not a bad thing, but you have to have a little
bit of backbone when you’re a nice guy.
If you master this, I know you will have plenty of women at your fingertips!
Tip #1 Say what you want: At the end of the day if you’re going to take this girl out
on a date call it a date.
If you’re going to take her out to dinner don’t just say “wanna grab a bit to eat”
this isn’t making your presence known and you are not claiming what you want from her.
Call it a date!
If you’re going to cultivate a relationship with her say what you want.
Don’t be shy to say precisely what it is that you want.
Say what you want and what you need.
Do not always fish her compliments and giving her feedback only on what she wants to hear.
Men, this is not what women want.
If you don’t like something or don’t want to do something, then state your opinion,
desires, and needs.how to stop being the nice guy
Tip #2 Say “no”: Don’t be afraid to be brutally honest.
If a woman is asking for your opinion on something and it’s an opposite answer of what want
then speak up.
Say “no” and don’t always give in.
If you have a people pleaser mentality then its time to stop pleasing others and start
pleasing yourself.
Tip #3 Have goals and put yourself first.
Get used to saying “no” more then saying “yes’ especially if you are a people pleaser.
If you don’t have goals or you do then now is your time to continue to focus on them.
If you don’t have goals then now is your time to find them.
Tip #4 Stop seeking approval: most humans always look for validation because it feels
pretty damn good especially when someone likes you.
But when you get into the mentality of seeking approval and getting validation from another,
it can become addictive.
Then once its addictive you subconsciously ignore the fact that you seek approval from
others and the woman can see this.
You hold back, or you think that she or other people won’t like you.
A woman wants a man that has his own opinion because it shows confidence and that your
stable with yourself.
Tip #5 Face your fears & challenge your mindset: Do the things that scare you and always challenge
yourself.
Example: What if you’re scared of skiing, but you want to learn.
Then its time that you hire an instructor to teach you.
Why?
Not only because its good to challenge yourself since you can grow from it and learn so much
from it but as a man you become more confident within when you challenge yourself with your
fears, and then you conquer them.
This is what makes you stop seeking validation and approval from others because you already
have it within.
Tip # 6 Avoiding Confrontation: Avoiding telling others when you disagree with them can also
be a form of manipulation because it will be brought up later.
They try to keep things as kosher as possible on a surface level but avoid the deeper feeling
behind it all.
If you disagree with a woman, you have to let her know.
Of course, keep respect in mine, but women are not attracted to a man who lets his values
or personal needs down or set aside to only follow hers.
Tip # 7 Slow down your conversations: If you are someone who tends to talk a lot and possibly
even talk about other men with her then stop.
Understand what you have to bring to the table and leave some mystery of what you’re offering.
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