I wanna tell you why I think you've been doing that,
and I made a list actually.
Okay.
Because I think there have been some traumas
that you have experienced.
And in September of '15,
there was a stairwell attack at school.
And no need to go into a lot of detail about what it was,
you and I know what all was involved there,
because you've been forthcoming with us about that,
but it was certainly traumatic, right?
Yes, sir.
And by the way, I'm very sorry that that happened to you,
that's not okay.
Then next, summer of '16, you experienced rape by a friend,
that's very traumatic.
And then somewhere between summer of '16
and October/November, which we'll get to in a minute,
there was an isolated incident with a boyfriend
that was drunk and you were abused
in that isolated incident.
And then October/November of '16
is when the miscarriage takes place.
I'm very sorry for that as well.
And then February, assault again,
this time hand around the neck,
throws you against a wall, hits you head against the wall,
enough that you've got to go get an MRI.
And that's not good.
So we have this trauma, this trauma, this trauma,
this trauma, this trauma, and it's very next month
that you start this obsession with Jasmine.
Sometimes, as a defense mechanism,
we do what's called dissociate,
and we decide it's much safer
if we just kind of live in our heads a little bit.
We kind of escape into a fantasy that can't hurt you,
it doesn't hit you, it doesn't attack you,
doesn't assault you, it doesn't, it's one-sided
and so there's not a lot of risk in it
because you're controlling all the narrative.
And you start to interpret things to support your beliefs
that just aren't true.
And I hope you're seeing that they're not true,
what do you think?
I think you're right.
I truly, I think that I did use
going and putting my emotional state in somebody else,
I did, I found a relationship that was separate,
where someone couldn't hurt me
and I thought, and I was under the pretense
that she was coming here.
And I see now that
you cannot make somebody love you,
you cannot force somebody to love you.
And so I see that what I did was not,
that I do like, I do need some help.
I just, I don't know what to say to you all
because I just, I see my place now.
Does that make sense?
Well it does if,
I keep saying you're very smart,
and I want you be honest about it,
I don't want you to tell me what you think I want to hear
by just agreeing with whatever I'm saying.
Because I really want to help you here.
And one thing I can tell you for certain,
is that Jasmine is not interested
in a relationship with you,
she doesn't have anything against you,
she doesn't even know you.
But she has her own life, her own friends,
her own loves, her own pursuits, she doesn't know you,
she has no interest in knowing you.
She's got nothing against you, she just doesn't know you.
And she doesn't deserve to be harassed by you.
No she does not.
And you don't deserve to be wasting time
in a fantasy relationship, you need to heal yourself
and have a healthy relationship.
And you think smoking pot doesn't really hurt anything,
but that's really not true, is it?
It definitely hurts a lot.
It changes your brain chemistry.
You're already running from pain to non-pain,
and now you're also numbing yourself,
so you don't ever have to feel anything.
So you've gotta get sober
and then you gotta come back to reality,
and deal with the painful events of your life
and get past them.