- Now if you've ever been in a bad relationship,
I think you'll agree that when it's bad,
everything in your life sucks.
Work ends up going to total (beep)
because you're just like a little bit off
and you can't focus on projects.
Your social life completely suffers because
no one wants to hang out with your miserable self.
You end up gaining weight because Ben and Jerry's
seems to be the only men who really understands you
and if you've ever gotten out of a bad relationship,
you'll also agree that after a few months go by,
you look back at that (beep) relationship
and think what the (beep) was I thinking
wasting my time with that person?
So I'm creating this video right now
to help kind of speed up that process
if you're right now in kind of a bad situation
or if you're single, this video's gonna help you
avoid one of those bad relationships in the future.
Keep watching.
Hey there, my name's Adam Lodolce.
I'm the founder of SexyConfidence.com
where I help you create your love story
and part one of this video are the 13 signs
of a bad relationship and this is the video
I'm presenting to you right now and then
there's actually a part two of this video
that's only available to my Sexy Confidence Club members
and that's the three ways to find a good relationship.
These are my three best tips and if you want access
to the full video rather than the one that
I'm just releasing on YouTube right now,
then you can click the link right in the description
that is a link to the Sexy Confidence Club membership area.
I'd love to have you a part of this club
where we also have monthly group coaching calls
and also you can access the forums
or you can ask me any question you want.
So go ahead and check that out if you want access
to the full part of this video.
So without further ado, let's jump into
the 13 signs you're in a bad relationship.
Number one is you're more miserable now
than you were when you were single.
Number two is you feel more alone now
than you did when you were single.
If you feel like you're having more lonely nights
and you feel like you have less people
to even connect with now or your boyfriend
or your husband now than back when you were single,
there is a serious problem.
Number three is that you constantly
misunderstand each other.
Now while some bickering is even pretty healthy for
a relationship, a constant misunderstanding
is a very bad sign.
According to Sue Collad, a psychoanalyst in New York City,
she talks a lot about as couples get to know each other
better, there should really be a progression towards
more understanding rather than less understanding
because poor communication that never improves
ends up being toxic because without that communication,
a relationship can never move forward
and I've found in any group relationship I've been in,
you find that as you get to know each other better,
you know almost how they're going to react
so you almost can get past the issues in the fight
and you can move forward and get on the same page
much quicker than in the bad relationships,
you know you can't even say a word.
If that's every happened to you, leave a comment below.
Number four, you're always walking on egg shells.
You can't talk about anything or say anything
because you don't know when that person's
just going to blow up on you.
Number five is that your partner or your boyfriend
implies that they only value you for one thing
whether it's only for sex or just for your looks
or maybe it's for money, who knows,
but they only want you for one thing
rather than the entire package.
Very, very toxic.
Number six is you're just not a
good influence on each other.
Maybe he loves to drink a lot and it's making you drink
a lot more whereas you love to eat really unhealthy food
and it's causing him to much more unhealthy food.
Basically, this is a bad sign if the sum of your parts
makes you worse than the whole.
Number seven is you constantly catch your partner lying.
I think lying is truly the worst thing that you can have
in a relationship and if you find that you're with someone
who cannot just be honest with you
and will lie even about the small things
or you find that they're constantly lying to other people
and you're catching them in those lies
and they can't seem to stop lying,
this is a terrible, terrible sign.
And you should also be aware of this in your own life.
I read a great book by someone I follow,
his name is Sam Harris who wrote a book called Lying
and it really changed my entire perspective
about how toxic lying is in your life
and most of the time, I was never a big liar
in my life anyways but even you find the smallest moments
in your life, once you start becoming aware of it
where you do have these like little white lies,
even the smallest like do you like this food?
(laughs)
Do I look good in this shirt?
You can start to learn how to tell the truth
and live by a code of telling the truth
without hurting other people's feelings.
It's really empowering once you make that decision in life
to never lie.
Number eight is you feel just totally trapped
in the relationship.
You shouldn't feel trapped in a relationship.
You should want to be in a relationship
and if you don't want to be in the relationship,
you should leave.
Number nine is your partner thinks that you are lucky
to have them but not the reverse.
It's almost like he thinks that he has more value
than you do in the relationship.
Bad sign.
Number 10 is your partner threatens you.
Number 11, your boyfriend flat-out just refuses
to talk about really important relationship topics
such as moving in together or getting married
or where you're going to live in the future
or do you want to have kids.
When it's not possible to have those real conversations
about the future and discuss those big kind of
relationship topics, then there's a real issue.
Back when I used to coach a lot,
back when I used to do a lot of one on one dating coaches,
I would have clients who would literally talk to their
boyfriends about the future or their expectations
for a relationship and when they would do it,
their boyfriend would disappear for like four days
and wouldn't respond to texts or wouldn't talk to them.
If that happens, that is a bad sign
and imagine if that's happening now,
imagine what it would be like being married to that person.
Number 12, there's no respect in the relationship
and number 13, finally, is that there's any type
of physical violence in a relationship.
If he ever lays a hand on you or ever touches you
or ever hurts you physically,
I can't imagine how hard it would be being in a relationship
where you're physically threatened
and men have a distinct advantage in relationships
where most of the time, since men are physically
generally bigger than women, we don't have that fear.
So if you're finding you are fearing that
or you're in that situation,
please, I beg you to leave that relationship
or find help.
So I want to hear from you.
Have you ever been in a bad relationship?
Leave a comment right there below
and also if you want part two of this video
which is how to get out there and find a great boyfriend,
a great relationship, then again
I would check out the Sexy Confidence Club.
There's a link in the description right there below.
I would love to see you in there
so thank you so much for watching
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Speak to you very soon. Buh-bye.