A lot of guys subscribe to the bullshit belief that getting girls is all about being good
looking or having a lot of money. Well let me let you in on a little secret, this belief
is TOTAL fucking bullshit.
I mean just think about it. Imagine you are good looking and rich, are girls just gonna
throw themselves at you, take their clothes off, and call you over to have sex? No of
course not. I know plenty of good looking rich guys who
get no pussy because it still requires you to put in work and to have the skills necessary.
It might make girls interested in you but you still need to know how to make the first
move, how to ask the girl out, how to keep her interested in you for more than 5 minutes,
how to pull her back to your place, and everything else in between.
This idea that you just need looks and money is usually said by guys who claim “they’ve
tried everything” and girls still don’t like them.
This is a bullshit story guys claim so that they don’t have to take responsibility for
the fact that they just suck at getting girls and they don’t practice.
Most guys don’t realize that picking up girls is a skillset, just like anything else.
If you’re not actively practicing this skill, you’re not gonna get any better, and you’re
not gonna get any results.
If you want to get good at picking up women, you need to put in the hours of work it takes
to learn how to properly act in social situations, how to interact with women in an appropriate
and non-creepy way, and how to escalate the interactions.
The best way to exponentially get better at game is to go out alone. Yes, go out alone.
Whether it’s going out during the day and approaching girls at the mall or in a busy
public place, or at night at a bar or club. Going out alone is the key element to dramatically
improving your game at a super FAST pace.
When you go out with other people or with friends, it’s really easy to procrastinate
approaching and make excuses and instead just stay huddled in your corner with your friends.
Your friend group literally creates a physical comfort zone for you when you go out. And
the more time you spend within that comfort zone, the less likely you’re gonna be to
go out and approach girls and try to make something happen.
When you go out solo is when you’re FORCED to be social and talk to people because the
alternative is much weirder. If you go out alone and you don’t socialize and you stay
to yourself then you’re gonna end up standing in a corner and looking weirder than if you
just approached people and acted social.
The easiest way to build confidence in social situations and when approaching women is to
build enough experience so that you feel comfortable. Experienced pickup guys have a TON of confidence
when it comes to social situations because they know they can walk into any place, in
any city, literally at any time, and pull a girl or just have a really fun night out.
Knowing you can walk into any social situation, at any place, and come out having a successful
night is one of the most powerful ways to build confidence that lasts. What kind of
confidence do you think will be longer lasting and impactful… the fake it til you make
it bullshit? Or hard reference experience from dozens of hours in REAL social situations
you’ve been in?
Going out without a wingman simplifies things for you because you don’t have to worry
about your wingman saying something stupid that might ruin your interaction with the
girls you’re talking to. You also don’t have to worry about finding a hot girl for
your friend. Often times, you or your wingman will approach one hot girl with an ugly friend
and one of you ends the night unhappy because you end up spending 2 hours dealing with the
ugly friend you’re not interested in. I personally hate doing this and this is why
I love going out alone. You don’t have to fall on a grenade for your friend if you go
out solo.
And on top of that, you can leave at any time, whenever you want, without having to worry
about what your friends are doing and it leaves you open to go to another place with the girl
and her friends if necessary.
Sometimes it’s hard to pull when you’re with a group of guys. It makes the social
situation of her going home with you and 3 other guys scarier to the girl and it’ll
make her friends more resistant to letting her go. I mean hey, do you blame them? With
all the creepy dudes out there I’d probably be the same way. Trying to pull a girl while
you’re with a ton of other guys creates tons of social pressure meanwhile if it’s
just you leaving with her it’s much easier and laid back.
Remember, when the girl feels the most comfortable and safe, is when she’ll be most open to
spending more time with you, so you should actively make it your goal to make her feel
comfortable. Besides, not only is it better for you if she’s more comfortable but you
also want to always maintain a certain level of respect and decency that you show to the
girl.
And perhaps, one of the most surprising things you’ll find from going out solo is that
girls actually respect you way more when they find out you’re out alone because it shows
confidence, strength, and the ability to handle social pressure. It also shows her you’re
not a pussy who’s afraid of social situations and can’t handle a little awkwardness because
if you were, you wouldn’t be out alone like a badass.
And that my friends, is it.
Now I encourage you to ACTUALLY go out solo at least once just to try it out. Doing this
will increase your confidence and results like crazy. Solo game is one of the most powerful
things you can do.
Don’t just watch this video, and take no action. Actually go out, take action, and
do the things I’m telling you. Otherwise you just wasted 5 minutes of your life watching
this video for nothing.
And trust me, I’ll know if you went out and did it or not, I’m watching you.