you uh so you might be like oh my gosh tabitha's here well that's the truth i am here with tabitha
taylor you guys what we're going to be talking about today is uh what business can really look
like you know what it really what you thought it was before and then what it can really look like
uh whenever you're working it from home and that sort of thing first things first though i do need
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and then and i see you guys saying hello in the live chat so we're gonna pop back around
after this interview and then put some of you guys up on screen so stick around and also just um what
i really love with interviews is just to show people love that are sharing their story so you
know if you want to ask questions ask questions but always make sure that like let's edify in
the journey let's edify in the story itself because it takes all of us you know so all right
i have tabitha taylor here with me thank you so much for coming on super excited thank you
of course so what we're going to talk about is
what was what was life and business because because this isn't whenever you started with
my stuff isn't like the first time that you ever started business you've been doing this
for a while so what did it look like let's say one to two years ago where were you at with it
we were in transition one to two years ago my husband and i have always been self-employed our
non-negotiables are to work together from home so we can homeschool our kids and support them in
competitive tennis and dance period that's our non-negotiable i love it and we've always made
it happen and we owned a business for nine years the market changed the internet changed and
we could not compete any longer and it wasn't fun we did not enjoy it and we made the decision
to close that business in august of 2019 and went back into another business we had done previously
and then in november of 2019 my husband broke his back on the job and we were like now what
because we were lost we had put all of our savings back into the company we literally we were down
to nothing and we had to make a quick decision and then at the same time in december of 2019
um my stepfather was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and i was going back and forth between
missouri and my husband's back surgery and back to missouri and trying to homeschool kids and i mean
it was just it was major adversity we were going through major transition and in january of 2020
we made the decision to start another company
that was a very visual product it was a woodworking company and we laid out a marketing
plan for trade shows events home and garden shows any where we could be visually and what happened
and we went to online and i told my husband you know this isn't working we've got to come up with
a nomadic business one where we can travel with our kids and we can work from anywhere
and not be trading your physical labor body for dollars amen to that how many people that
are watching right now i'm going to go back to one of the beginning things that you said
that you had non-negotiables that there that you were doing this for this reason and your
non-negotiables is that you guys were going to be working from home because you have kids
that um compete in tennis and in dance and it was your non-negotiable to be able to homeschool them
allow them to compete and stay together yeah yes 100 so uh in the comments let me know if
you have set non-negotiables for your family and if you want to share what they are i would love to
see what they are as well but also if you haven't set them yet think about setting them think about
sitting around the dinner table tonight even and saying what do we choose for our life to
be like it doesn't mean you have to know how it's going to happen that's not that's not how you set
non-negotiables you say what do i choose and then the the blueprint starts to build itself out but
what are your guys's non-negotiables um those of you that are watching the video right now so
so let's fast forward okay man so you went through you you guys were you were successful and then
it you had like massive things happen so your husband broke his back and then your father-in-law
right step dad step dad i'm sorry was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and so you were all
over the place while trying to homeschool i mean i think any mom listening to that is like that
is spread thin just by don't add a business on top of it you know like that's just spread through and
all by itself and then to add you know a business and a primary way to be able to bring in income on
top of that and now we've got something that feels very super human if an individual can do it right
so so what happened after that we continued along with the business that we were doing
and never could get it to the point where it would cover our monthly budget and we had to
make some decisions and it got to the point where we either didn't pay our home bill or
pulled our kids out of their activities and it's that moment where your heart crushes you're that
parent that has to look at your kids and say for this time we can't do this and it was devastating
we we had hit our non-negotiable what do we do this was our non-negotiable and how do we fix it
and so my husband said well i'll go back to doing another company doing some home remodeling to
help cover the difference and i said it's time for me to step up i want to flip roles with you
and i've put my coaching business on hold for the last nine years
and now i want to go back into coaching because i can do that from anywhere our kids are to the
level in their sports that almost everything they do now is out of state so either my husband
somewhere with tennis or i'm somewhere with dance it's very rarely that it's local but we
want to do that together as a family i want to get to see my son play i want my husband to get
to see my daughter dance yeah and i said let me go back into coaching i can do that from anywhere
i paid for this wonderful program with martha that i've started twice and put on hold twice
and never did it i'm doing it i said and i promise you that within three months i
will retire you so my goal is january 1st martha i'm gonna get gotta get pumping
and i literally started four weeks ago like head down tunnel vision saturdays are my hbr day i do
nothing but hbr on saturdays i do the videos and i do one video implement do a video implement
and that's what i'm doing and i've been showing up um i hopped in change makers
just to move the needle i need that additional accountability i need to be around you know you
surround yourself what with the the five people you're around the most yes and i was like i have
to be immersed in people that are already doing it already successful already where i want to be to
help keep me moving forward and push me and keep me motivated and that's what i'm doing i'm showing
up i'm showing up on calls and i'm not even ready to show up on i'm doing the video calls with james
cooper i'm doing megan's book author calls i have a list of eight books now that i'm going to
be writing like i'm doing it i'm showing up and i just keep telling my husband i'm not going to get
discouraged i'm not going to get discouraged right right i mean whatever you have to tell yourself in
order to be able to push through that that's the difference between people that are going to make
it and people that aren't is that you're you're you have conviction you have conviction that this
thing is going to happen and that will not let you stop i had i heard somebody um it was tony robbins
um personal trainer and a couple days ago he was talking and he was like there's three types of
people and forgive me i don't remember the first type but um they i don't think they do anything
and i just didn't remember them but the the next two types are very interesting because the middle
type says i'm gonna do this thing and here i go and da da da da and they start out hot right and
they start out ready to go and then they overdo it and then they they they end up puttering out
because they've overdone it and they haven't really the way that they look at things is oh
my gosh i have to do this thing um so like if you're doing your workout for the day how many
sit-ups do i have left how many of this do i have left how many of this do i have left and really
they're looking at it like it's something they don't want to do but they're doing it anyway and
then the difference between that type of person and the next type of person that he talks about
is the next type of person is lifelong mastery and so there's the person that's just gonna gun
it and go and then there's the person that chooses lifelong mastery of a subject and his was talking
about working out so what lifelong mastery then looked like is i'm better today i'm choosing
to be better today and so whenever whenever you're working out that day you're imagining
the muscles getting bigger you're imagining your body shaping up and forming you're imagining all
of these things instead of how long till i'm done right so it goes from a task and a thing that you
that you don't want to do but you're making yourself do two the the lifelong mastery is
i choose to do this thing and i'm sticking with it because i know it's going to pay off and that
sounds like where you're at right now so you can't lose you just can't yeah i've i've been
that second person i have to target things gung-ho and then i've burned out a hundred percent and
this time i am to that place i'm to that place where you know i want i have a vision yeah i have
the vision it's very clear where before when i started working through hbr i didn't have a
clear vision and now i have a very clear vision of the direction i'm going where i want to be where i
want to get to and now i'm just filling in those small steps i take small intentional action steps
every single day does my to-do list get done every day no it does not in fact i add to my
to-do list every day but i'm still making progress yeah absolutely that's what whenever people join
hbr and they choose lifelong mastery they choose that version of themselves which everybody has by
the way everybody has that version of themselves it's just whether you choose to go there or not
and when you choose lifelong mastery and you join into hbr you simply cannot lose you can't
lose because you have the resources you have what works and and so it's really just it's bobbing
and weaving and making it yours so tell me and this is going to be an interesting thing i don't
think i've ever asked anybody this before but what would it have been like in your life had you not
made the decision to step up and to join into you know a program that's going to help you be able
to switch roles with your husband and that sort of thing what would life look like without that
the exact same that it did a year ago i would be making no progress i would be doing the same thing
that i had been doing before i would not be taking those steps i would think that i would want to i
would say that i would want to but i would not actually be implementing them i think the biggest
thing with hbr that has been the significant needle mover for me has been watching the other
women because having that community and seeing other people actually do it but
then also being able to ask for help with those people you know i spent some time yesterday with
someone learning how to do instagram it's not a platform i've ever used but i knew i
needed to be successful at it in order to get to where i want to be in three months
and i just asked somebody hey is there anybody that would spend 30 minutes with me helping me
learn instagram enough to get a profile up and going and guess what it's up and going
that community is the best that community it's everything it's everything well what do you see
so you've got the vision you've got the you you know where you're going what do you where do you
see your family your life what what do you see in three years which is a long time where do
you see what do you what is your life like in three years what are the things you get to do
well we have an rv so that we can travel easily with our family
and be able to go to all of those activities and events when my husband broke his back we made
the decision to sell our house to an investor becoming a renter because being self-employed
we were unable to access the equity in it and then so i want to buy my house back
so that i don't have to keep being a renter um and then i've got those eight books written and i
have always had this vision and i've been shown seeing myself out on stage communicating to women
who have lost children that's part of my stories i lost my second son and to be able to reach back
into that fire and help women go from adversity to achiever and that's the whole premise of my
direction is i'm taking all of my stories of all the adversity i've been through in my life
and i'm reaching back in the fire and pulling people up to rise above those ashes
there's no better life there's no better life period
than a life in service and a life in service based on your own pain is it then
it doesn't make the pain go away i'm not going to say it makes the pain go away and especially the
pain of the loss of a child you know i mean that's there are no words but it's somehow
every time i talk about this with you tabatha i always cry you know um it's somehow
it it brings a worth you know like it brings
i'm sorry go ahead the difference now i think this just clicked for me the difference now between
what i've tried tried to do this in the past and what i'm doing now i'm not focused on the money
before it was how can i make the money that i need to make to support my family yeah and
now it's not about that when i do everything i do every single day i'm not thinking about
how much money am i going to be making yes i have income goals on a spreadsheet we have to we have
to look to see where we want to end up yeah but i that's not my focus anymore my focus is helping
those women who are walking around in that fog that don't know how to take that first step to
move forward they want to move forward they just don't know how and they need someone to pull them
out of it they have to have that person there and that's that's been my focus now not the money
i know it'll come yeah but you got to have a different purpose you got to have a different
direction and if and if it's financial you will not succeed nope nope and even if you succeed
it'll be for a little bit and then you'll it'll you'll backslide it's not it there's not there's
not sustainable success when just looking for dollars especially in the work that we do
especially especially in this work let me say because we're hitting up on our time here
um what is the name of your group in case there is a mom here that is just feeling your story what is
the name of your group so they could join your group um from advent from adversity to achiever
women rising above the ashes from adversity to achiever women rising above the ashes and you
guys that's on facebook okay if anybody that's watching right now can pop over
to that group and even grab the link and pop it into the comments i would love that
also i'm going to put some people up on screen here michelle love is the greatest dividend yes
corey yes i finally understand that when you find your true bat signal you will feel this 100
yes cindy tabatha you're going to do amazing things yes she is kayla tabitha i just love
what you're doing see there it is here it is you guys heather yes yes yes girl voting your victory
joey change makers is so good just the community you guys if you're not in uh if you're not in
hbr and you hear us talking about hbr let me go ahead and just give you the the quick one two
on it um you would go to live in the dream with martha it's my facebook business page message
me the words let's do this rainbows and unicorns whatever you want and we'll have a conversation
about it i'll give you the details of it you'll say whether you're in or out either way i'm not
going to chase you around the internet understand that it's going up to 10k pretty soon but you can
get it at 14.97 right now and still get access to everything it's going to be when it goes to
10k and it gets that big like push it's getting a massive push here really soon like in other
resources that we're adding to it but you'll still have access to that all you'll have to pay is what
you pay today so i would suggest getting in now totally up to you on what you want to do though
let me get out of this tabitha thank you so much i appreciate you for coming on of course
you have the best day and everybody else have an awesome day too i will see you tomorrow bye bye