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I'm a pretty impatient person i'll admit and when i get really impatient
it's usually having to do with things like traffic
I get impatient with my kids sometimes I get impatient with other people I get
impatient with relationships and there are times where I'm a very patient
person one of the reasons why i feel like i have a calling to teach is
because I'm very patient when it comes to teaching people and I want that kind
of patience and other areas of my life
Mark Andreas was here just recently and taught us core transformation in a
workshop that I hosted for him today I had a free practice session and I
decided we're going to work on the core transformation model i used in patients
because this is something i wanted to work on and recently I've been feeling
very impatient in multiple areas of my life so it's an interesting thing when i
started working on impatience the first thing to do is get in touch with in the
core transformation model to get in touch with what is the positive intent
of the state that you're experiencing that you don't want to experience and
the interesting thing was is that as I went up the logical levels and
discovering more and more of what that positive intent was about and what kind
of course state that i was ultimately wanting to experience i was really
surprised to find that my impatience really led to wanting to connect wanting
a connection a deep connection and that was deep connection with myself deep
connection to other with other people and a deep connection with my
surroundings the situation that I'm involved in and my overall environment
what I discovered was that when I was
in a situation that I didn't want to be and like say being stuck in traffic
I would disconnect from the situation immediately upon disconnecting I wanted
to reconnect because the feeling of disconnect is not an enjoyable feeling
there are times where it might be appropriate to disconnect by what I was
finding in these situations is that when I would disconnect it would didn't feel
good at all
immediately I would become impatient and my impatience had to do with wanting to
reconnect my criteria for reconnecting was to get what I wanted so in the case
of traffic in my desire to reconnect was based on my desire to get out of the
situation and when I was out of the traffic then I would allow myself to
reconnect this can be a real problem because what I'm doing is I'm not
allowing my core state i'm not allowing myself to connect with that core state
and I'm putting the dependency on being in that core state of connection on
getting what I want outside circumstances in the core transformation
model that's one of the things that you learned is that your core states may
seem dependent on the outside world they made sing dependent on someone else or
it even made seem dependent in my case on getting what I want
if that happens then I'm always going to be dependent on these outside
circumstances especially ones that I can't control like other people like
traffic etc what I realized is that coming to that from that core state of
connection
I'm putting myself in a much better position to get what I want rather than
holding it out and dangling the carrot so to speak and trying to drive myself
toward getting what I want and then when I get what I want then a lot of myself
to connect with my core state what I'm coaching people this is a lot of times
what the problem is that they're dealing with
they want something and that very want or the desire implies that there's
something missing that we're not experiencing that we want and a lot of
times it's really just something we're withholding
ourselves a resource when i'm experiencing in patients and patients is
actually bringing to me wisdom and it's telling me you're not connected and it's
also letting me know that if i want to feel connected that is not out there
it's not something to achieve it's not something I have to wait for someone to
give me that's something i can give myself immediately right there in the
situation so if I'm in traffic and there's nothing I can do about it I
might as well
reconnect connected myself connect to what's happening and in doing that then
I can feel at least better i can feel good even being in traffic and if you
think about how when we deal with people and we get impatient with people a lot
of times we do disconnect that impatience is telling you that you're
disconnecting from the person you're disconnecting from the situation you are
less likely to get what you want in that situation if you're disconnected if
you're impatient with someone or if you've ever had the experience of
someone being impatient with you you don't necessarily want to work with that
person you don't necessarily want to give that person what it is that they
want because it doesn't feel good to be working with someone who is disconnected
and inpatient impatience is actually the wisdom of your being telling you you're
not connected now this might not be the case for everyone and no might not be
the case for everyone in every situation and it in if you're experiencing a state
that doesn't feel good
there is wisdom and that there is wisdom and if you just listen and ask yourself
what is this part of me trying to do for me and get in touch with that and then
go several lot of levels up what's important about what it is that that
part wants for you
what's important about that what's important about that until you get to
that core state and once you get to that core state you can realize that you can
experience that core state at any time that is yours its not dependent on
anyone else it's not dependent on outside circumstances it's not dependent
on even a context if you're feeling impatient try that out what is the
impatience telling you it's likely it's telling you that you're disconnected
and that you're trying to achieve some sort of connection but you're holding in
away from yourself or you're holding it out for yourself until someone gives you
what you want or the world gives you what you want or you even until you give
you what you want
check in with yourself and reconnect connect to yourself connect to the
circumstances that you're in connect to the other person and see how that
changes things you're going to get what you want in the circumstance in the
situation with the other person much easier much better and much more flowing
way if you're connected to the person you're connected to yourself you're
connected to the situation
anytime you're feeling in patients know that there is wisdom there that is
communicating something to you
maybe it's not connection good chance that it is but I check in with it see
what it wants for you and at least reconnect to that core state of whatever
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I'm talking about here is really understanding what your values are which
is what's driving your decisions and it was driving your behavior and that'll be
really what the first day will be focused on and then the second day we're
going to use transit hypnosis to reinstall these values inside of you so
that you're not dependent on outside circumstances so you're not dependent on
other people and you're not dependent on whether or not you're going to give
yourself the state's we're going to build them deeply inside you
yeah