- Hey, what's up.
It's me Jessica J.
And I'm just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself,
"What did Jessica J think about man dating coaches
have to say". Well, I've said, I'm glad you asked
because I've seen
that other people out there do these reaction videos.
And I get this a lot guys
coming to me and saying,
"Well I heard from this guy that I'm supposed to do this."
And I'm just like like oh (faintly speaking).
So today I am going to be doing a reaction video
to the infamous Alpha M.
The reason I picked him is
because when I started my YouTube channel
I basically
got a handful
of, you know, other dating coaches that I thought like, wow
this is a really great video.
I love his energy, or I love her energy.
And I really love the content they put out there
or the titles that they put out there.
And the process I use for my own videos is I will go
to like another person's channel
and look at a title that really spoke to the viewers.
And what I'll do is I'll take the title
and what I won't watch the video as a means
to not copy any content and to really deliver my own genuine
personal experiential feedback to you
without being biased or being influenced
by what this other persona had to say about it.
So this is the first time I'm actually watching this video.
I think I did make a video on this topic
but I've never actually seen the content he did
So I am not, you know
I don't even know what he has to say yet.
I might be really loving his stuff.
I might be super bashing it either way.
You're in for a treat for my super genuine in the moment
reaction to what he has to tell you about how to get women
to chase you and to make sure you never miss out
on another opportunity to see what I have to say in regards
to the female perspective or another one of my videos
don't forget to hit that subscribe button
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Okay.
So now I'm going to put the entire video on for you.
I'm just going to get straight
to the seven things for the sake of brevity.
And here we go.
- First psychological trick to have a girl chase
you, is put her ass in the friend zone. As a dude
there's nothing worse than being put in the friend zone
even if you're not like.
- Okay, put her in the friend zone
like, I don't even know how to respond to that.
Like, first of all, too many of you are pussy footing
around the puss, as it is.
If you're, if you're new to my channel, you probably
aren't aware of the fact that I'm constantly telling you to
think with your littler head.
I personally, and so many of my girlfriends move on
from dudes who don't make moves on us, who don't show us
that they want us because they're too scared to
be too forward.
And the me too movement. No, we want you, to want us.
So like, putting us in the friend zone. I don't know.
Maybe I need to see his explanation.
Just give me a second.
I'm bashing the first one.
I'm sorry.
Let's see what he has to say about this
- Super into the girl.
You still want her to be attracted to you.
And the friend zone basically means
that this person does not find you sexually appealing.
Pretty girls, however, are never putting the friend zone
because every dude she knows wants to jump her bones.
But if you can resist the urge to tell her how
pretty she is, how amazing she is
and flirt and be all like awkward and weird, right?
Because this is what every other dude does.
But instead, you're just kind of normal.
And you treated her like one of the dudes
this is going to drive her crazy because she
has a difficult time wrapping her beautiful brain
around the fact that there is a dude who is heterosexual
who does not want to hump her leg.
- Okay. In a way I do agree with this.
I always say, go in and you know you don't even
know this chicken, how are you going to be thirsty
and into her just from seeing her face.
She could be a serial killer.
She could be looking for somebody to take care
of her five different kids with five different fathers.
And she's only 23.
I don't know if that's possible age wise, but yeah
if you go in and you're like
I don't know this chick, I don't know her anything,
I'm not going to get super worked up just because of hot
she is, then that is the right game plan.
So I do like what he's saying there about that
but I wouldn't necessarily call it put her
in the friend zone guys, you know, I'm all about you going
in guns blazing, show us you want us
but don't like, you be like, so head
over heels for us that you forget to try to get to know us
to see even if we're worth being thirsty over.
Does that make sense?
- But, do not let her hump your leg.
Not yet.
You gotta, you gotta make it work.
Build it up a little bit.
Bringing us the second trick to make her chase
the hell out of you.
Ask her about her cute friend.
Hey Janice, how you doing?
Hey, good to see you.
- Okay. Ask her about her cute friend.
(Jessica J laughing)
Okay
Off the bat these two tips put her in the friend zone,
pretend you don't want her, ask about her friends.
I am all about being who you are,
owning that you want her not playing games
and asking about her cute friends
when you like her.
To me, that's just that to me is just
that's a shiesty Chad move.
And I hate saying that
cause I do have a client named Chad.
Who is, one he's like the ultimate Chad,
but two he's a really great genuine guy. Asking, again
I'm not, I'm not down
with diverting from how you actually feel
about her and ask about my friends.
That's gonna make me feel really butt hurt
to the point where I'm like "Ew, fuck this dude.
He's probably a scumbag asking about my friend.
So, you know what I'm gonna go fuck his friends."
- So did you have a good weekend?
That's great.
Hey, so I was wondering, tell me a little bit about Brenda.
All of the sudden Janice's head starts spinning.
She's like, wait a second, wait a second.
Brenda's never the one that gets the attention.
That's me.
I'm the one.
I'm the hot one
- Oh my God, I mean, I've, I've heard so many pickup artists
and male dating coaches do this or tell their clients
or students to do this is to go after the one who
is like ugly, cause then
she like freak out and like want anymore
And again, I was just like, not down or like these tactics
to like confuse the shit out of us.
Again,
I
I know for me, if you're asking
about like my friend, Brenda, because maybe you know
that she just lost her dog.
And be like "Oh my God, what a sweet guy."
but if you're like trying to like do it
in a way that like " Oh my God like".
Trying to make us jealous.
I have so many clients that like,
"I try to make them jealous
by putting up a picture of me and another girl".
We'll just be like okay you got another girl that's cool.
I got plenty of guys to choose from.
So I'm would caution against doing this.
Really not a fan of it. This advice.
I'm so sad, cause I really like, I really liked this guy.
Okay. Let's let's proceed (mumbles), I'll try to stop.
I'll try to stop interjecting.
- Just like kind of average, sorta cute.
Maybe a six and I'm a solid nine and a half, right?
She can't even like wrap her little brain around the fact
that you would be interested in less than hot friends.
- Now we got little ass brains.
I know.
Nevermind.I'm gonna stop. I'll stop.
- Are you ready for her brain to explode?
Then say to her, just say this, say
there's just something about her (mumbles),
but you gotta be cool. You can't be all.
- Okay, now you're pretending to want my other friend. Why?
I'm just not okay.
If you want the puss, go for the puss you want. Don't
Oh my goodness.
Now I'm kind of regretting watching this cause
it's making me really upset.
- Freaking out (mumbles) I think it's working.
No, no, no.
Gentlemen, calm yourself
because what happens next is amazing.
And this goes to Brendan and tells her "Hey, you know
who was asking about you?"
And then Brenda's like, "what?"
Brenda, hearing the news that you think she's like something
she's not really sure what cause you didn't exactly say
which is part of the psychological warfare that's going on.
She freaks out because you were totally out of her league
in her mind, Brenda's going to be blowing up your phone.
She's going to be sliding
into your DMs because Brenda's like
"I'm not missing out on this opportunity" and
whether or not you hook up with Brenda is up to you.
I'm not saying you should.
I'm not saying you shouldn't, but just know that if you do
it's going to get back to Janice.
And if you do, then Janice is probably never going to sleep
with you because if you actually go through with
- Okay, now he's on a long winded rant about Brenda.
Let's move on to his third, psychological trick.
- Third trick to get her to chase you
is reinvent yourself physically.
What I'm talking
about is give yourself a mini make-over go
and get a fresh cut, go out shopping.
Get yourself a bad bomber jacket
or a leather jacket or some dynamite jeans.
Some Chelsea boots. Embracing
and channeling your inner bad boy.
Now it may be that you have a solid.
- Okay, I really liked this advice
cause I think men aren't praised enough
for taking care of their looks
and having a sense of style and fashion or grooming.
And I'm sorry, we are also more visually and more visually.
What's the word.
We are more visually prone to better looking guys nowadays
with the whole swipe culture.
Sorry, it took me a little roundabout way to get there.
However, we women more so appreciate a man who takes care
of himself nowadays.
So while I
wouldn't necessarily use the words re-invent yourself
I would definitely say
that you need to enhance what you've already got going
on for you.
If you know that like "you know what Jessica I could
(Jessica speaking indistinctly) like bit then fuck man.
Let's do it."
Or if you know that you could use a new haircut
and you can, you know, maybe afford to grow your beard out
beard out a little bit, then do it again.
Yes, let's do this.
Again. We women, we will chase you
down when we feel emotionally compelled to do so.
And sometimes it is something as simple
as," Oh my God, like wait
he completely changed how he looks.
I think I need to know more about him."
That curiosity will kill our pusses anytime.
In a good way.
- But right now you need to look
like a bad decision because women don't chase nice guys.
They.
- He said, women don't chase nice guys.
I.
God.
I disagree I disagree with that so much.
We just had a bootcamp.
Or I just did my first boot camp in Austin.
I brought about like nine of my girlfriends down
To hang out with a bunch
of really awesome clients of mine and interact with them.
One-on-one and I will tell you the one guy
that they all wanted the was the nicest,
most respectful motherfucker.
These girls begged me like " Can I please fuck him?"
And I was like, "No, we don't want to scare him away.
Actually, if you want to, you can.
But I think it'd be too terrified to fuck you anyway."
We chase again
what makes us feel emotionally compelled to do so?
And sometimes it might be a really nice guy
and sometimes it might be a jackass
but either way I would never say to like
be a bad boy, wear a bomber jacket, spike your hair.
Just fuck it.
I just need to like this might've been
something that he did for himself in his life.
But I'll tell you right now,
we women will chase the men who make us feel all
emotionally riled up enough to do so.
And unfortunately, in our twenties and younger years
it is the assholes who make us feel emotionally riled up.
So don't get it twisted.
You can still be a nice guy
and got us chasing down to ride your penis off.
Let's let's get to the fourth one already Jesus.
- The fourth trick to get her to chase you
is look more exciting
on social media. Two the types of dudes
that don't get chased.
Douches and dudes on social media that look boring.
And so you need to make sure that the pictures
you're posting don't make you look like a douche.
You also need to look more exciting.
- I mean.
(Jessica laughing)
Okay.
Granted, we are in a super social media era.
I will tell you right now, the guys I've been mega thirsty
for in my life.
I would probably say out of all of them thinking about four
none of them had social media.
I think it's, again, this might be very specific to him
and his life.
I mean, again, fine feeling emotionally compelled.
If you're that dude, who's just posting pictures, selfies
in the car then yes.
I'd be like" Please stop doing that, you look stupid."
However, to say that you need to look exciting
on social media.
I mean. I wouldn't even go there.
I think use social media to give a sizzle reel of your life.
If you don't know what a sizzle reel is in the industry
and the entertainment industry, it's basically
like the highlight reel.
If you have nothing to post and then don't do it,
then leave some, you know
leave something left to our imaginations
and have us wonder.
I think that's why a lot of them,
you know (Jessica speaking indistinctly).
I would say right now for all my girlfriends
who gone psycho over dudes.
None of those dudes have social media.
And I'm thinking about three of my girlfriends right now
chasing after dudes, like really chasing them down
to fuck his brains out and then something.
So yeah, this is just yet another one I disagree with
- Number five is a, be more successful.
There's a direct correlation between success and attraction.
I'm not saying you've got to make zillions of dollars.
I'm not saying you need to drive a Bugatti
but if you are somebody who is sitting on the couch
playing video games, versus somebody who's going out
maybe go into school, working a second job
not afraid of hard work you're out there making it
- Okay. Be more successful.
I really liked this in that.
One of the,
one of the things that I think is the biggest determinant
of women wanting you is to have a life
that we would want to be a part of. Too many times,
guys come in, like, "how do I be a part of her life?
Let me drop everything
so I can try to be a part of her life."
No, when you got the life
that you know is so fucking awesome
that you don't have time for us.
Then yes, we're going to do
what it takes to break into the life.
To be a part of it because you make it look so good
that you wouldn't throw it all away for a piece of ass.
So, yes, I super agree
with this one in terms of, I mean, be more successful.
I would just say
get a life that you love first and foremost.
And then we try our best to be that love of your life.
- Alright so now we're kind of like done with games.
Now. It's all about you letting her know that yo
- I love that he even admitted that like " okay,
here are five (speaking indistinctly)."
We've done five days at this point.
And he just admitted that like
these are all games you have to play to get girls
which I don't think you should ever
ever have to play anything, just be yourself.
Be yourself.
And if you don't like who you fucking are, then find
out how to do so in a way that magnetizes women to you
by checking out my speech spark arousal system
at SpeakToSparkArousal.com.
- The sixth tip is let her catch you
looking at her, ever looking
at her is an absolute horrible strategy.
It makes you look totally uninteresting.
Her catch you looking at her, not staring.
Looking, glancing right? Here's a, here's a glance.
Let her, let her catch you.
- I mean this is a really interesting one.
Let her catch you looking at her.
I will say that we live in and I always say this
you guys have the advantage
of literally picking and choosing a woman to go after
we women will sit and wait for you,
and if you never come out to us "Oh, well
I guess we'll never have him."
We women, we have to choose
from the men who actually have the balls to come
and talk to us.
However you guys can talk to anybody.
So if we see a guy like looking at us like,
" Oh my God, is he (speaking indistinctly)."
Does it get us chasing you down
not necessarily. Does it get us interested enough?
Yes, I will say that much.
- When she catches you, when she sees you, she's like, Oh
the first time might be an accident the second time.
Not sure, but the third time undeniable
she knows that you're interested, but it's
at this precise moment that you stop looking at her.
Only three times and then when you get up to leave
you might want to go by and just kind of look
at her smirk, smile, say, hello, how you doing?
And walk by you don't engage.
- Okay. Let me tell me something.
If I have a guy looking at me three times
and he never says anything.
I'd be like, what a pussy.
I remember one time.
me and my girlfriends were out at a bar
and I caught this guy looking at me.
He was cute enough. And I was like, "Oh my God,
that guy over there is looking at me."
And then an hour later, I was like,
"This guy just looking at me."
Then he walks by me and he doesn't say anything.
I'm like (faintly speaking) balls to say something to me
Good, red ends.
And then by the end of the night, his friend came up
and talked to us and he straggled behind.
And I was like, nah, we're good.
If we see you hesitating, we will hesitate on you.
And that's not what you want women doing when it comes
to getting them chasing you down.
All right, let's go to the seventh one.
Let's wrap this up.
- The seventh way to psychologically get her to
chase you is subscribe to the Alpha M YouTube channel
- Bless him. I will say this practice makes perfect.
I do have this program.
It's called pandemic practice dates.
I've had a bunch of guys doing it so far already.
And I'm opening the doors again,
just for you guys where you can practice talking to chicks
get the gears going again, get the ball rolling.
Start working those muscles, get muscles again
after being confined from the pandemic
and social distancing for so long.
Now that we're out and about
some of y'all are like," Oh my God,
I haven't talked to a woman in forever."
Well, guess what?
I got three girls that I'm going to send you week
after week after week, I'm going to watch recordings
of how you're interacting with these three girls.
You and I are going to do a midway review where
I'm going to be like, Hey, look, here's your blind spots.
I'm seeing that every time you talk to a girl
you're not making eye contact.
I'm seeing that you're cutting a girl off
every time she answered your questions, or even
I'm the seeing that she's carrying the entire conversation.
Then you're going to go back
and have a second chance with these girls.
Like you're not able to do in the real world.
I'm telling you right now, my goal friends
like my girlfriends are the ones doing this
girls that I trust with my life to talk to you guys.
And all my girlfriends after the midway review
say about these guys, "Oh my God.
It was like night and day talking to them.
They're so amazing now.
I'm going to fuck his brains
out now where before I was like, really weirded out by him."
So this is something you know
that you could really use some practice on in regards
to talking to women and getting better with women, fill
out the application now that SpeakToSparkArousal.com/PPD
for pandemic practice dates.
And I'm probably going to do a bunch
of these reaction videos from now on
because I've been getting requests from them.
So I might do a little, you know
a nice run of these to stay tuned for next time.
Thanks for watching as always.
And I'll see you guys next time.