Matt Boggs: Hey, this is Matt Boggs.
In the past, I've done some videos on the biggest turn ons for men.
In this video, we're going to be talking about five of the biggest turn offs for men.
Things that you might not even know you're doing.
Now, generally speaking, I really don't like to focus on the negative, because I believe
that you could actually create an amazing life that you love by being the best version
of yourself.
As we bring the best versions of ourself to the world, we create amazing results.
When we become aware of patterns that we have, because you have patterns, I have patterns,
we all have patterns that create the results in our lives, as we become aware of patterns
that are no longer serving us, then we can choose to shift those patterns, to repattern
those things into something more positive.
A mind expanded to a new awareness never returns to its original size.
Let's take a look at some of these five patterns that turn men off.
If you're implementing any of these, you could shift those and create something positive
from it.
The first big turn off for men is drama.
Drama.
See, drama creates stress in ones life.
As men, as we're dating a woman, we look for how she handles things that don't go her way
in her life.
Does she turn a molehill into a mountain and create a bunch of drama around it, or is she
able to take a mountain, something massive that's happened, and bring calm and peace
to it and turn it into a molehill?
If you're the type of person where you create drama, if you have a pattern of drama, your
man is going to feel more stressed in your presence.
When a man feels stressed in a relationship, more stress than when he's not in the relationship,
those are the moments when he chooses to get out of that relationship.
Big turn off number two is negativity.
Generally speaking, we all prefer to hang around positive people versus negative people.
Here's where it backfires in relationships.
If you have a pattern of negativity, in other words, finding what's wrong in any given situation,
complaining about the restaurant you're going to or complaining about the people in your
life, if you're talking bad about other people in your life and you're complaining about
your coworker and how your coworker is a narcissist, and everything is all about them, and how
they dropped this big project on you last minute, and is negative, negative, negative,
what ends up happening in a man's mind is he's thinking, "Well, she might like me right
now, but when she doesn't like me, man, this is going to be bad news bears.
Maybe when I'm not around, maybe she's talking negative about me."
There's a saying that says, "There's only 12 inches between a halo and a noose."
All right, let's get on to number three.
Number three is being late.
Why is being late such a turn off?
Well, the most limited commodity that you and I have is our time.
None of us can create more time.
We only get so much time, and none of us know how many days that we have.
Inevitably, if someone is constantly late, like he's going to pick you up for the movies
or pick you up for a date and you say, "Hey, I'll be ready at 7:00," and then it's 8:00
and you're finally getting ready because of whatever happened in your day, what that subconsciously
communicates is that you are more important than him.
You value your time more important than he values his time.
Now, you might be the kind of person where you also value someone who is on time, because
they respect your time and you're respecting their time, and that's great.
If you notice that you have a pattern of being late, know that that might be a bigger turn
off than people are actually communicating to you.
Turn off number four is unsolicited advice.
Now, as a woman, you are programmed to try to make everything better around you.
That's just part of your hard wiring.
For millennia, women in all different societies, you're trying to make the world a better place.
You're trying to improve the house.
You're trying to improve the home.
You're trying to improve society.
It's just hard coded into you.
The challenge is, when you offer unsolicited advice to a man, it communicates that you
don't trust him, that you don't believe that he could really provide the experience that
you're looking for without trying to control it.
Monitor, just be aware of the amount of advice that you're giving that he hasn't asked for
yet.
Do you advise him on where to park?
To you advise him on how to drive?
Do you advise him on the dates that you go?
Do you tell him what to wear?
All of these things.
Now, if he's asking for suggestions, that's one thing.
If he's asking for a recommendation, support him and great to connect that way.
If he's not asking for advice, then the best thing that you can do is actually support
him by allowing him to do it the way he wants to do it, and then acknowledge him for the
effort that he's made.
Now, before I give you turn off number five, I have created a great gift for you.
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Now, big turn off number five, and this is the biggest of all of them, is entitlement.
Entitlement.
Nobody likes someone who acts with entitlement.
You don't like it.
Men don't like it.
It can show up in subtle ways.
Especially, because in society, we've been programmed to expect certain things.
Often, we're programmed to expect that the man is going to pay.
We're programmed to expect that the man should be opening the door for you or pulling out
the chair for you.
While, yes, men should be doing these things, men should be chivalrous, men should be planning
the date in advance and creating an environment where you feel safe, you feel adored, you
feel taken care of, when a woman acts like she's entitled to those things, in other words,
he pays for the date and she doesn't even say thank you, she doesn't even appreciate
him for the date, or he opens the car door and she just gets in and sits down and doesn't
acknowledge him for that, that is a massive turn off for men.
Men, we project out and say, "What is life going to be like with this woman?"
The opposite of that is also true.
We see there's polarity.
As much as he doesn't like it, if you flip the script and appreciate him for the things
he's doing, he loves it.
It's as simple as saying, "Thank you, I appreciate that."
You want to get better behavior out of your man?
Start celebrating him for things he is doing well and he's going to start gravitating to
doing those things, more, and more, and more, and more.
There you have it, five of the biggest turn offs for men.
I would love to hear from you.
This is your opportunity to share below what turns you off that men do.
Go ahead and share your biggest turn offs in the comments below.
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