Hey, what's up, I am Muchelle B
and one of the reasons that I think people really like my New Year Resolutions ideas video
which I'll link in the description down below
is because people really struggle with
what they actually want their goals to be.
So in this video I wanted to give those people 5 things that they can do to work out what they actually want their goals to be.
Sidenote: this is the second video in Goals Week 2016
It's a week full of goals related videos
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And we will get into it
So one of the first things that you can ask yourself is
what are the little, little things that you frickin love to do
Think back to the last few times when you've felt that sense of inner happiness
it sounds so cheesy
It might be after you meditated on a beach
or it could be right after you went for a run
or maybe it was just that time when you were reading a book or writing that thing
Those little things that give you those big bursts of serious happiness
are the things that should be on the top of your goals list
Second question to ask yourself is
who do I creep online
and go like, yes, that is a life I would love to live
Write a list of all of the names of people that you stalk on instagram
and then next to those names, write what you actually admire about their lives
What you might find is that every single person that you have a big girl-crush on
has a few things in common
like they have a heap of friends
they own their own business
they have a ton of freedom
If those are the things that you admire and you want in life
there's no reason you can't shape your goals after those things
accepting of course, that instagram is like a very small snapshot of real life
just because someone looks happy online
The third question to ask yourself is:
what do you want your life to look like when you are older?
Write down a little list of what you want your life to look like in 10 years time
Think of: where do you want to be living?
who do you want to be living with?
who do you want to be surrounded by?
what things do you want to be doing?
what does your daily routine look like?
what are you wearing?
If you find that the vision you have is in 10 years time
you'll be living on a beach somewhere quiet and beautiful
with a big kitchen, working as a published author
who only ever wears black silk dresses
then you have a whole lot there to drive your goals
A, start putting away, 20% of your earnings towards that beach-house deposit
B, enrol in a writing course
C, set a habit of writing a post on social media Tuesday every week
so that you can build a following to eventually release your published book
They're not even huge big hairy goals,
they're just small baby steps that will get you on the path that you want to be on
The fourth question to ask yourself is
If you had 2 years to live what would you do with your two years?
Just go ahead and write down 5 things that you would do if you only had 2 years to live
Living life with the regret of not having done what ever you've just written down is a scary prospect
If immediately, you're like: "well, I need to travel to A, B and C"
I need to publish a book about that thing
got to make sure that I spend way more time with my family and friends
make up with that one person
I'd say that you're set for goals
And the fifth activity that you can do is to
mind-map out your buckets
Picture 3 buckets
First bucket is vitality, so essentially your mental and physical health
The second bucket is connection, because humans are hard-wired for connection
and the third bucket is contribution, because giving back is very important
This is a concept I've taken from Jonathan Fields
he has a really good podcast and has also released a book
which I'll link down below
but if you go ahead, draw your 3 buckets on a big sheet of paper
and write what you currently do to fill those buckets regularly
If your vitality bucket is not looking so full, make it a goal to go on a plant based diet for 2017
or start going for runs
If your connection bucket is low, choose a connection goal for 2017
so regularly go to meet up, say hello to more people in your corridoors
or if it looks like you need to contribute more to the world, choose to do some volunteer work or start a social program
So those are 5 activities that you can do to help you narrow down the right goals for you
rather than just picking the trendy goals or going with any old goal
and then just loosing momentum after a month
because the goals aren't inline with you
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